Questions FROM Russian Woman :)

[Betelgeuse]

Hello gentlemen,
I hope you don't mind if I ask you some questions?

Maybe I should introduce myself first. My name is... say, Betelgeuse, I am from beautiful capital of Ukraine, 24 y.o., currently working as a customer manager.
I am looking for American husband and soulmate, but I have some questions and I really hope you can help me. (You can also ask questions and I will be glad to help you). So...


1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?
2. How important are her height\weight for you?
3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?
4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?
5. How important are good cooking skills?
6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?
7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?
8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her?[/li][/list]
9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?


Sorry for the mistakes and thank you in advance.

 

[Nightwish]

1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?  The more natural the better, professional pics are good, but post a few "normal" ones to

2. How important are her height\weight for you? For me: you cant be taller Weight, hmmm tougher question, to be honest.. most of us like 'em quite thin I think, most of us men, thin but not skinny

3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her? "Age is not an issue" , and your profile says you seek men from 20-70 Big turn off - "I dont look for a good looking man" - all men wants to be admired by their woman, we at least want to believe you like how we look.

4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type? Stay-at-home-type

5. How important are good cooking skills? little important, but not a deal breaker, I am a very good cook myself

6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid? What she chooses, I am ok with both.

7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)? I cant think of anything thats off the table, maybe "how much money do you have"

8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her? average, Within a month, I will visit her, always

9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels? Preferred? Dresses and heels. I admire the feminine part of a woman

[Larry1]

Hi Betelgeuse. Welcome to the forum. I copied your questions below, along with my answers. Other guys will have different answers.


1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?

I'm drawn to a pleasant smile and slender build. I also love it if a girl has long hair.

2. How important are her height\weight for you?

I don't have a strong preference as to height but I do as to weight. I prefer to date a girl who has either a slender or athletic build.

3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?

It turns me off if I see something in a girl's profile that suggests that she is a gold-digger. But I have very rarely seen this. 

I will mention another thing that raises a red flag for me. Other people would disagree with me on this. It raises a red flag if it appears that a girl has spent a great deal of time in the Arab world. I don't mean only a few weeks vacation every year. I mean extended times. There are certainly legitimate reasons for a girl to work at, say, a hotel in Dubai. But there are also other reasons. About a year into my search I was making plans to do a WMVM trip (a trip in which you write to many girls and visit at least several of them).

I mentioned this to a girl I had met and become friends with. She asked me to send her photos of the girls. She told me that one of the girls looked like a high-end escort. When she told me this I thought about a few things that had puzzled me about the girl. They were consistent with my friend's theory. And events that followed told me that my friend's theory was probably true.

It makes me want to send a message to a girl if she seems pleasant and sincere. You might ask how these qualities are conveyed in a profile. I'm not sure. But there were two times that I distinctly remember a girl's profile conveying these qualities. Both times my judgment was correct.

4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?

I don't know that I have a distinct preference regarding this, but I would prefer a girl who didn't spend 5-6 nights/week at clubs.

5. How important are good cooking skills?

Not important at all. I can cook well and would be happy to cook dinner every night if my wife doesn't like to cook. I did this in my last relationship with an AW (American woman).

6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?

She should do what makes her happy. With a previous FSUW fiancee I had we discussed this. It was her preference to have a child and a few years after it was born she would go back to work. She had a set of job skills that probably would have transferred pretty well to the US job market.

7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?

I think it's important to answer any question a girl I'm dating asks me. The girl should know enough to be confident in moving across the ocean to marry me.

8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her?

I think it is usually a good idea for me to travel to her country first. As to when to travel, I've traveled as soon as 3-5 weeks after beginning to talk to them, all the way to 5 months. I have come to the conclusion that meeting only 3-5 weeks after first talking is usually (but not always) not advisable.

9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?

Either is fine with me. I don't have much of a preference in clothing.

[alex330]

1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?
As others have mentioned a nice smile and cheerful look.

2. How important are her height\weight for you?
Height is not critical, but do prefer women who are a bit shorter than I am. I prefer to be the one spooning, so a seven foot basketball player does not do it for me. Weight I prefer slim, from 105 to 125 depending on the woman's height.

3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?
Anything that makes her appear shallow or selfish is a turn off. Sincerity and a happy, easy going feel to her profile would interest me. Her interests are also a good indicator.

4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?
A balanced mix of both would be nice. If only one was an option I would prefer bubbly and outdoorsy.

5. How important are good cooking skills?
I enjoy cooking so a non issue.

6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?
Depends on the situation (finances, children, etc) and it obviously changes at different stages of a couples life.

7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?
Cannot think of many topics that are out of bounds when getting to know someone to be honest.

8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her?
Within six months and guy should visit her.

9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?
Shorts and tshirt while we are out hiking and high heels with a nice dress when we go out later that night.

[Lily]

You are giving great answers guys  Proud of you all! 

Betelgeuse, welcome to the forum! 

You ask all good questions, and our men can show their best while answering them.

There is one thing that I could tell you. For an American man, it is very hard to squeeze out some free time and money in order to travel to the Ukraine or Russia in order to meet someone who he met online. Very hard!  Just think about it, how high his motivation should be in order to come to the other part of the world to meet a girl. If the price (not just money) is so high for them, can you imagine how particular, how careful anf thoughtful they are as soon as they land in Ukraine. To win a Western man, a Ukrainian / Russian woman should be prettier, younger, more slender and beautiful than the American women.

Just think about it. And prepare for a tough local competition 

[SANDRO43]

For an American man, it is very hard to squeeze out some free time and money in order to travel to the Ukraine or Russia in order to meet someone who he met online. Very hard!

Therefore, forget the USA and concentrate on UE .

[Nightwish]

This is why Swedes are the best 

2 hour flight 

[2tallbill]

Welcome to the forum,

Hello gentlemen,
I hope you don't mind if I ask you some questions?

I will answer honestly without any sugarcoating.

1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?
2. How important are her height\weight for you?

What attracts 99% of the men at first sight is beauty and a slim appearance.
If a girl isn't thin but wants a foreign man then she needs to become thin. Diet
and exercise. Even a slightly plain girl will succeed over a fat girl. The next
important step is learning English. A slightly plain girl who is thin AND can
speak English is going to succeed over all except the most beautiful girls.

I am tall (201cm) so I really like a girl who is taller than 162 cm. I've dated girls who
were as short as 152cm and as tall as 185cm In the end I married my wife she was
170 cm.

3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?

Smoking is a turn off as is a stern photo. What man wants to look at the face of a girl
who appears to have constipation problems? or a girl who is always angry. Find your
most friendly looking and sunniest photos.

My theory is to find a clever girl, with pretty eyes who likes to laugh because in thirty
years she will still be a clever girl with pretty eyes and like to laugh. Big breasts don't
look good thirty years later and, neither does a frown.

4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?

I like doing both at different times. You should be yourself, if you are outdoorsy find an
outdoorsy guy.

5. How important are good cooking skills?

I am a really good cook although I wouldn't date the best cook in the world if she was fat.
I got lucky, my wife is a good cook and she loves my cooking.

6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?

I wanted my girl to be happy. One thing I was very worried about was having a clever
but bored wife sitting at home and being miserable. I spent many hours talking about
our life together and every aspect that we could think of. My wife wanted another child
and we agreed that she would stay with him at home before he gets old enough to go
to school.

My advice is to discuss this extensively.

7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?

None, when I was looking a girl could ask me anything, I encouraged her to do this. 

8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her?[/li][/list]

In my opinion the man should go meet the girl in her country for the first meeting.
After the first meeting then they can have meeting in different places.

8. How fast should your first meeting happen?

Within 3 months of first contact. When I met a girl who I determined to be an excellent
candidate to be Mrs 2tallbill , then I got on a plane as fast as possible. If a girl didn't
cause me to want to visit her then why would I waste my time with her?

9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?

Sorry for the mistakes and thank you in advance.

I prefer both. A walk through the park or on the beach in comfy clothes but a visit to
a restaurant in a dress and heels.

Don't worry about your minor mistakes in English and I won't worry too much about
my mistakes in Russian, agreed?

Udachi!

Bill

[2tallbill]

To win a Western man, a Ukrainian / Russian woman should be prettier, younger, more slender and beautiful than the American women.

Excellent answer !!

I would say, a girl needs to be younger, more slender and prettier than
a girl he would have a chance with in the West. Every girl doesn't
need to be prettier than Jennifer Aniston for example because only the
Brad Pitts of this world have a chance with her.

[ML]

I think most of you guys are missing the boat here.

The advice should be for the gal to always be herself.

She is possibly looking for, and you are providing info, for her to act in a manner that seems to be the most pleasing to the men . . . even if this is not the real her.

As we all know, or should know, such charades do not last forever . . . and can lead to problems for man and woman down the road.

Sure, I understand that most of us have room for improvement . . . but it is a fine line between needed improvements and presenting a false picture of yourself that has been customized for the target market.

My advice:  Present some good pictures that are a mix of formal and informal.  Some of them should be a hint of sexy, but not overly so.  Short shorts and tight top are always a hit, but are so common that they don't signal a prostitute.  And yes, USA Men (USAM) like smilers.

Learn or improve your English to the highest level possible.

Write the best profile message you can that tells the real you . . . and then have 2 or more persons with excellent English skills help you polish it even more.

Keep your body in the best possible shape you can by exercise.  But don't try to lose a lot of weight to attract a man.  Most weight loss is only temporary and when it comes back, two or more persons will be very unhappy.

Learn something about USA politics and particularly USA  sports so that you can carry on a conversation in those areas.

Despite what the men wrote, all men like that a woman  is a good cook; even if they are themselves also.  So become the best you can be; and offer to cook your visitors meals soon.

You also should be prepared to support yourself in your new country should the need arise because of divorce or death.  So best if you have skills that are transferable.  Nursing, accounting, computers, etc.

Be really, really interested in sex if you come to USA.  Men in USA (except those on this forum) are more interested in sex than men anywhere else in the world.  So practice a lot before you arrive and develop some proficiency and special skills/techniques.  :-))

[jone]

I agree with ML.  If you try to be someone you are not, then your relationship is doomed to failure, even if you enjoy an introductory period where you hit it off.

I believe that there are two aspects to seeking a mate.  The first is the Beauty Pageant test.  A man spends time looking at a woman, seeing if she meets his base standards for how he wants a woman to look.  Sometimes, even though he will date a woman, he still does not judge her to be acceptable to his standards, and, therefore, the relationship will ultimately fail.

The second aspect of dating, for me, is understanding her personality.  I flippantly have said for years that I looked for a woman who is kind and wise.  But what constitutes kindness and how does one judge wisdom?  The more complicated, yet, important answer is judged by spending time together and finding areas of importance and happiness.  There are many that can be addressed.  How do you treat each other on a daily basis?  Whether your happiness is important to him and his happiness is important to you is key.  For a man, sexual compatibility is very important.  Probably more so for a man than for a woman.  I have known couples that seemed to be a mismatch of beauty but when it came to time in the sack, this compatibility more than offset any mismatch. 

Ultimately the initial profile of a woman is only the scratching of the surface.  A profile should be enough to initiate interest from a man.  But how you interact, both in initial communication and dating will judge whether you can be a couple.

[Miquel Westano]

Hello gentlemen,
I hope you don't mind if I ask you some questions?

Maybe I should introduce myself first. My name is... say, Betelgeuse, I am from beautiful capital of Ukraine, 24 y.o., currently working as a customer manager.
I am looking for American husband and soulmate, but I have some questions and I really hope you can help me. (You can also ask questions and I will be glad to help you). So...

First welcome to the forum.  Second let me say I am an unusual case on here.  I am married to an American woman.  It is my only marriage and have been married for 35 years.  I am not looking and hang out here for the discussion and to chat with some people who have kindly befriended me.  But, when I first got interested in foreign marriages after watching a documentary, I spent a great deal of time researching the long distance relationships on different sites.  I do have some opinions on a few of your questions if you don't mind me weighing in.

1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?

Men are attracted to women for many different reasons.  But I would never look at a woman who had a cold, hard and uncaring look.  A beautiful woman with a cold icy stare would lose out to a woman with a kind and happy face with me.  When I am troubled I look to my wife for comfort.  I want to see compassion not indifference. 

3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?

The one thing I noticed is so many women heavily stress their love of travel.  I always wonder if traveling is their motive rather than looking for love.  I would be much happier to see more day to day interest highlighted.  In my case, I love to hike and camp.  If I were looking that would catch my eye.
 
I think traveling will come down to time and money.  Everyone loves to go to exciting places, but not everyone can travel all the time.  Now if traveling is a priority then by all means say that.  But it likely won't appeal to many average working guys if they think that is all you want to do.  And most rich jet setters don't need to look online for love.  There are tons of girls looking for the easy life of world travel, five star hotels and fine restaurants.  I think the guys looking for a long term relationship are looking for someone to share their normal day to day life.

4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?
5. How important are good cooking skills?
6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?
9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?

There is no right or wrong on any of those.  Tell the truth about what you can and will do, what you want from life and who you really are (stay at home/jeans or go out/dress up or some of both) and you will find a guy who wants those qualities.  I guarantee there are lots of good guys in all of those categories.  And you will be much happier being you, with someone who wants you, than being someone else for someone who wants someone else.  I hope that made sense.

7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?

I would want to hear every possible question you could think of.  I would expect you to answer any I had.  There are some I may not ask because I wouldn't care.  But if I cared enough to ask I would expect an honest answer and I would give you the same.

[Betelgeuse]

You are giving great answers guys  Proud of you all! 

Betelgeuse, welcome to the forum! 

You ask all good questions, and our men can show their best while answering them.

There is one thing that I could tell you. For an American man, it is very hard to squeeze out some free time and money in order to travel to the Ukraine or Russia in order to meet someone who he met online. Very hard!  Just think about it, how high his motivation should be in order to come to the other part of the world to meet a girl. If the price (not just money) is so high for them, can you imagine how particular, how careful anf thoughtful they are as soon as they land in Ukraine. To win a Western man, a Ukrainian / Russian woman should be prettier, younger, more slender and beautiful than the American women.

Just think about it. And prepare for a tough local competition 

Lily, thank you for the warning


And gentlemen, thank you for taking time and answering these 

[Betelgeuse]

I think most of you guys are missing the boat here.

The advice should be for the gal to always be herself.

She is possibly looking for, and you are providing info, for her to act in a manner that seems to be the most pleasing to the men . . . even if this is not the real her.

I already have a profile on couple of dating sites with my photos and own answers, just was interested how different men are in the West, that's all

[BillyB]

1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?


The most successful agencies have their women do professional photos with an emphasis on showing women's breasts, butts, and legs and showing as much skin possible which is accomplished by putting the ladies in bikinis and lingerie. Then they photoshop those pics. That's what attracts most men and by looking at those photos, we are less likely to think with our big heads.


2. How important are her height\weight for you?


Physical attraction is very important for men. If we do not desire a woman, we can't be lovers, just friends.


3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?


Smokers and women who want a man to share all chores in the house equally. Never have a seen a profile of a woman saying she wants to do half the traditional man's chores or take on his responsibilities.


4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?


I like someone who's a little bit of both.


5. How important are good cooking skills?


I don't eat as much anymore and I don't want to gain more weight so cooking skills are not important to me.


6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?


She can be anything she wants. All I ask of her is to be good at it.


7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?


I'm open to most questions but I don't like to be asked of my past relationships. Most women are curious but I don't talk about past women. My attention is on the woman I'm currently with.


8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her


People should communicate with each other thoroughly on Skype and/or the phone before deciding to visit. Once both people feel good about the person they are talking to, they should agree to meet. This decision could be made in weeks or a few months. Anything longer usually means one or both people are not that excited about the other.


9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?


I prefer my lady looking good all the time. Skirts, dresses and high heels should be worn but comfy clothes can still look good on a woman.

And gentlemen, thank you for taking time and answering these 

You're welcome but where are these gentlemen? Welcome to the forum Betelgeuse. What are your answers or opinions on each question you ask of us men? Are you asking these questions to improve your chances? Or are you determined to be yourself and not make any changes?

There is one thing that I could tell you. For an American man, it is very hard to squeeze out some free time and money in order to travel to the Ukraine or Russia in order to meet someone who he met online. Very hard!  Just think about it, how high his motivation should be in order to come to the other part of the world to meet a girl. If the price (not just money) is so high for them, can you imagine how particular, how careful anf thoughtful they are as soon as they land in Ukraine. To win a Western man, a Ukrainian / Russian woman should be prettier, younger, more slender and beautiful than the American women.

Just think about it. And prepare for a tough local competition 

Lily is correct it is tough for an FSU woman to find a Western man. The odds are slim and the competition is numerous. What Betelgeuse could do to give her an advantage is give the men who's contacting her a lot of attention. She should be cheerful and happy when a man calls or Skypes. If she makes men feel good and happy, they will more likely make a decision to meet her. I have contacted women who have a "What can you do for me" attitude. They were not happy or thrilled I called. Sure they were beautiful but it was not worth my time or money to visit them and most times, I quit calling them in search for those women who were thrilled to hear my voice.

[Slumba]

Welcome to the forum! 

1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?

For myself, it is the eyes, then the face.

2. How important are her height\weight for you?

You will find most guys , including myself, do not care very much about exactly a certain height.  What I look for is a woman that looks like she takes care of herself physically - whether this is walking, hiking in nature, or weightlifting doesn't matter too much. 

3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?

Anything that indicates snobbery, or that a girl is "high maintenance" are a turn off.

It is hard to define , but "gracefulness / femininity " or "being at ease with herself" are two things that I would find attractive in her profile.

4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?

The big turn-off for most guys is "going to night clubs a lot" as Larry mentioned.  It indicates (from a USA guy's perspective) that the woman is not serious in her search.


5. How important are good cooking skills?

Being able to cook well matters.  I do not mean, cook like a brilliant chef, but, be able to cook a good meal as a matter of daily living.  From a "competition" perspective - it makes you look a lot better 

6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?

Men are willing to be flexible about this, I think. 

I am fine with working outside the home, however, not sure (having worked in the corporate world) why it is considered so exciting - I didn't find it very exciting!

7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?

Money. Being psychoanalyzed about everything that happened in your past.

9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?

I am fine with "regular clothes" however dressing in a dark wool skirt, white blouse, and heels (can be shorter than 10cm-15cm heels, even Mary Janes) is very feminine. 

Good luck in your search...

[Darth_Budda]

Just be your self....


Talk to them on Skype,,, once you feel comfortable...

[Bee Farmer]

1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?
2. How important are her height\weight for you?
3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?
4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?
5. How important are good cooking skills?
6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?
7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?
8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her?
9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?

Please remember that preferences vary for each man, and it is foolish to believe that all men are going to have the same tastes.  Some guys like brunettes and some like blondes.  Neither is wrong or right.

1) I like photos with good lighting which show her face and her figure.  It may be easier to say what kind of photos I don't like.  I don't like dark photos, a girl bundled up in a heavy winter coat which hides her figure.  American women are bad about putting photos in their dating profiles which show them doing an activity.  For example, I don't want to see a photo of a tiny speck skiing down a hill - I want the photos to show me what the girl looks like.  She can tell me what she enjoys doing.  Also, I don't really like the glamour photos that are airbrushed or photoshopped.  Girls usually have many photos of themselves on VK.  I want to see photos comparable with VK photos so I know what the girl looks like in her daily life.

2) Height/weight is important to me.  I am 173 cm and 68 kg.  I prefer girls who are shorter and lighter than me, and who have a comparable level of physical fitness.  I enjoy getting things off the top cupboard shelf for a short girl, and a slender girl fits in my arms just perfect.  But that's just me.  Other men have different tastes.

3) I am turned off by girls who seem to be searching for a Hollywood lifestyle or gold diggers.  I really like it when girls explain personality characteristics.  If I could only give you one piece of advice, I would encourage you to learn about the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator for personality types, and put your MBTI type on your profile.  This is probably the easiest/quickest way for a man in another country to know if there will be chemistry and if you will click or not.  Cognitive functions are not going to change in 30 years, and the MBTI is a simple way to explain to someone how your personality works.

For example, I have the INTJ personality.  Vladimir Putin, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Friedrich Nietzsche, Isaac Newton, and Mark Zuckerberg are INTJ's too.  But if you google INTJ, you will probably have a good idea of what I am like, and if you are attracted to someone like me.

4) I'm not interested in someone who wants to go to clubs or bars.  I prefer to stay at home more, but I work outside a lot.  I don't want a wife who wants to stay indoors all the time.

5) She should cook better than me.  I hate cooking, but I haven't starved.  I'd like to think that an improved diet would be a benefit of marriage.

6) I'm not looking for a domestic servant.  If I wanted a maid, I'd hire one. (that would cost less than a foreign wife.)  As a man, I feel it is my duty to provide for my wife, and I would prefer she took care of the home.  I do not want her to have to work outside the home to pay the bills.  But I am not going to buy her 50 pairs of shoes every week.  If she wants extra things like tons of shoes, I would not object to her working outside the home if she wants extra money for unnecessary purchases.

I do have a small business, and I would hope that she was willing to help me with the business.

7) It depends where we are in the relationships.  I'm not interested in revealing net worth, bank statements, or a list of assets to someone I barely know.

How soon we meet depends on the situation.  Are we exchanging an email every week or two, or talking on Skype nearly every day?  I would expect to meet her in her country first.

9) There is a time and a place for everything.  In her regular daily life, I am satisfied with a pretty girl in jeans and t-shirts.  But it is also nice to take a girl out who has dolled herself up nice, but I would not expect that everyday.

[Lily]

I already have a profile on couple of dating sites with my photos and own answers, just was interested how different men are in the West, that's all

When it comes to gender relationship, the men in the West are more appreciative of a beautiful, gentle and caring woman on their side. Russian/Ukrainian men take it as granted, they are born and bred with an idea that a woman is created to love and please them, to be beautiful for them. Women in the West tend not to compete for a man, they don't make efforts to be pretty and nice for men. In the West, there are generally much less women who look fabulous in everyday situation. We are different! 

Personally I believe that Western men and Slavic women are a great match 

[Chicagoguy]

When it comes to gender relationship, the men in the West are more appreciative of a beautiful, gentle and caring woman on their side. Russian/Ukrainian men take it as granted, they are born and bred with an idea that a woman is created to love and please them, to be beautiful for them. Women in the West tend not to compete for a man, they don't make efforts to be pretty and nice for men. In the West, there are generally much less women who look fabulous in everyday situation. We are different! 

Personally I believe that Western men and Slavic women are a great match 

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[vwrw]

Russian/Ukrainian men take it as granted, they are born and bred with an idea that a woman is created to love and please them, to be beautiful for them. Women in the West tend not to compete for a man, they don't make efforts to be pretty and nice for men.
Personally I believe that Western men and Slavic women are a great match 

I agree 100% with the part of Lily post that I quoted. However, do not misread the above mentioned to mean that WW do not make efforts to be pretty at all. They do make efforts to be pretty, they just do not do that for men. Most gorgeous women in West make efforts to be gorgeous because they have time and money for that, and  they enjoy attention they get. Sure, if you walk in a mall in the middle of nowhere, you may get an impression WW are not particularly groomed. However, go to an upscale mall or restaurant and you will get a different impression.   

[Lily]

However, do not misread the above mentioned to mean that WW do not make efforts to be pretty at all. They do make efforts to be pretty, they just do not do that for men. Most gorgeous women in West make efforts to be gorgeous because they have time and money for that, and  they enjoy attention they get. Sure, if you walk in a mall in the middle of nowhere, you may get an impression WW are not particularly groomed. However, go to an upscale mall or restaurant and you will get a different impression.

Agree!

[Boethius]

I don't think how WW dress or behave is relevant, if one does subscribe to the theory of "competing" for men.  The men Betelgeuse is "competing" for are looking at photos of other FSUW, not WW.


Betelgeuse, I think the advice is based on your goal.  Are you looking for marriage, or a life in the West?  Because how you approach this depends on your end goal.  In either case, as first contact will be predicated solely on how you look, it is important to showcase your best physical features.

[ML]

In either case, as first contact will be predicated solely on how you look, it is important to showcase your best physical features.

What . . . I am shocked you are asserting that men are most interested in physical features.

I and most other men seek the woman who can quote Keats, Cummings, Kipling, etc.

[LAman]

Hello gentlemen,
I hope you don't mind if I ask you some questions?

Maybe I should introduce myself first. My name is... say, Betelgeuse, I am from beautiful capital of Ukraine, 24 y.o., currently working as a customer manager.
I am looking for American husband and soulmate, but I have some questions and I really hope you can help me. (You can also ask questions and I will be glad to help you). So...


1. What attracts you in a photo of woman from the first sight?
2. How important are her height\weight for you?
3. What lines in a dating profile are a turn off, and what makes you want to message her?
4. Would you rather date\marry someone outdoorsy\outgoing, or do you prefer stay-at-home type?
5. How important are good cooking skills?
6. Should your (russian) wife work or be a house maid?
7. What questions you don't want to be asked (at least while dating)?
8. How fast should your first meeting happen? Should she go to your country, or you should visit her?[/li][/list]
9. Do you prefer if she wears comfy clothes (jeans, t-shirts etc) or skirts, dresses and high heels?


Sorry for the mistakes and thank you in advance.

 

  Betelgeuse !!!

Actually,your questions are so general that out of 100 guys you may get 70-80 different answers to each question. Seems best to ask someone you may have interest in.
To sum up. I normally look at eyes first or whatever is more prominent in pic......could be legs, booty, breasts, smile, lips!!! One thing that I know men look at are a girls upper arms...just a gauge on a womans weight, I go along with many men looking to east for slimmer women. A lot of men a know here love the 'solid' women...guess it is to each their own. Good luck in your search.