Musings on Relationships and Other Stuff

[BillyB]

Why would you waste your time answering a$$holes and giving them reason to post more?

if you ignore then trolls they die.

Dragonkid/DearGod didn't die and ignoring him didn't work. I and many others  ignored Dragonkid for the last few months before he left in a tantrum. Now he's reincarnated as DearGod. If ignoring trolls doesn't work, then make them feel uncomfortable or ban them. I can't ban someone but I can force them look into a mirror so they can see the idiot there.

I don't think DK is a troll. He is just a punk kid that has decided to learn life the hard way and he will learn and improve if the hard way hits him enough. Ignoring him only gets him to believe he is right since nobody questions his accusations.

the good guys and gals who answer back to them are showing clear signs of weakness and insecurity themselves.

The good men and women who have hundreds or thousands of posts have established their reputations. Nothing they say to DK will affect their reputations.  What we should be concerned about is posters like DK announcing they are digging into people's lives and acquired evidence. If I dug into say, Boethius's life, and announced her marriage is on the rocks based off evidence I collected, I'd be banned. That's what would happen to someone who put a lot of time into the forum to help it grow if they stooped that low. But DK, who gave this forum nothing but grief, won't get banned for trying to dig into people's lives. Whatever DK thinks he got for evidence is all in his imagination. I've had so many rumors spread about my marriage that I shake my head so many people like that exist and keep chugging along but it is a big deal to most people and it prevents them from posting their stories which hurts the quality of this forum. Who wants Jerry Springer drama brought to them? There should be zero tolerance for those who try to get into other people's lives for malicious reasons.

We may as well rename the forum "Arguing US Politics". That is all that will be left.

The good news the election is almost over. People will cheer or cry for a few more weeks and most likely politics will die.

I currently have a very uplifting story I want to share. But with DK/DG on the prowl I will only share with people I trust.

I hope you do share your story. Since DK and the likes are allowed to be here, don't post photos, names, or give any indication of where you or anybody in your life lives so they can't track you. Stay as anonymous as possible to keep the internet losers, who have nothing better to do, from infiltrating into your life.

[HoundDaddyLee]

Interesting...


So standing up to an internet bully (or any bully actually) is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Interesting stance ML and LAMan.


Have a nice weekend.
HDL

[Boethius]

Please, just read every post DK has written as "DearGod". You will see he is attacking members here. Billy is just his latest target. A few months ago I was told to shoot myself in the head by a member (the post was edited to remove the offending material).


It is obvious you want to rule the forum. I doubt I will post again. This place is becoming the cesspool RUA has become. It is a shame and sad. But as long as you protect people like DearGod you are driving away people who can learn and teach on this forum. We may as well rename the forum "Arguing US Politics". That is all that will be left. I currently have a very uplifting story I want to share. But with DK/DG on the prowl I will only share with people I trust.


HDL

I am not protecting anyone, nor do I wish to "rule" the forum.


I have had posters here claim I am a liar (calmissile, kievstar), tell me my husband doesn't respect me (BillyB), suggest I am mentally ill (whynotme), a bitch (calmissile again), a bad mother (GQBlues), and the list goes on.   Did any of those posts get deleted?  Nope. 

Had Billy reported DG's post, rather than responded to it, it likely would have been deleted it.  That is the case for everyone.

Go back and read some of the posts here from 2008 or 2009.  This place is downright civil compared to then. 

Whether you wish to share anything or not is up to you.  But don't blame it on other posters. 

There was an attempt here a few years ago to moderate how people posted.  Everyone was supposed to be "nice".  The end result is the forum lost over a dozen members, and there are relatively few active posters.  I suppose that's my fault too.

[Gator]

I have had posters here claim I am a liar (calmissile, kievstar), tell me my husband doesn't respect me (BillyB), suggest I am mentally ill (whynotme), a bitch (calmissile again), a bad mother (GQBlues), and the list goes on.   Did any of those posts get deleted?  Nope. 

You did not include me in your list and I worked so hard to make it.   

Go back and read some of the posts here from 2008 or 2009.  This place is downright civil compared to then.......There was an attempt here a few years ago to moderate how people posted.  Everyone was supposed to be "nice".  The end result is the forum lost over a dozen members, and there are relatively few active posters.  I suppose that's my fault too.

Hound Daddy,

When founding RWD, Dan established a goal that RWD would self-moderate itself.   Over the years it has functioned as such most of the time.  Yet in the couple of periods mentioned by Boethius, there were some very unfriendly exchanges, repeated time after time, frequently involving the same individuals.   Boethius has spent far more time than anyone else in making RWD a civil place.  I am saying anyone who enjoys RWD should express some gratitude for the function Boethius serves.

She does more than moderate discussions.  Some of her work involves what I call support and facilitation.     

The same as the refs we see in sports, Boethius is correct almost all the time.  If you feel she missed calling a foul,  I believe she will catch the next foul.   Please keep in mind that without her this place would deteriorate to the point of being worthless.  She performs a thankless time consuming job, and people who seriously want to help on a continuing, unbiased basis are probably welcomed to submit their "application."

BTW, there are referees in a booth upstairs who frequently go through the informal equivalent of instant replay.     And they do not always agree. 

[Gator]

Interesting...


So standing up to an internet bully (or any bully actually) is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Interesting stance ML and LAMan.


Have a nice weekend.
HDL

No.  IMO, the bully is the weak, insecure member, the one who inhibits the free exchange of information and opinions, the one who destroys any sense of decorum.  The question remains why they want to be unsocial, unfriendly. 

[Turboguy]

Most people I know would consider a woman over 35 or 40 max a cougar....

I always thought a cougar was an older woman who dated younger men mostly for physical enjoyment.  I never thought there was a particular age for the woman.


Gosh, if I wasn't happily married I could go find a 100 year old woman and she could be my cougar and I could be her boy toy.

[Turboguy]

When founding RWD, Dan established a goal that RWD would self-moderate itself.   Over the years it has functioned as such most of the time.  Yet in the couple of periods mentioned by Boethius, there were some very unfriendly exchanges, repeated time after time, frequently involving the same individuals.   Boethius has spent far more time than anyone else in making RWD a civil place.  I am saying anyone who enjoys RWD should express some gratitude for the function Boethius serves.

She does more than moderate discussions.  Some of her work involves what I call support and facilitation.     

That was a nice post Gator and very, very true.  Boethius deserves the thanks of all of us for the wonderful job she does. 

[ML]

Gosh, if I wasn't happily married I could go find a 100 year old woman and she could be my cougar and I could be her boy toy.

And just where would you find such a gal ?

[Larry1]

And just where would you find such a gal ?

Florida.

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Resident Belinda Beard, 62, said: 'All of the women work hard to look good... Turn your back for a minute and someone will try to steal your husband'

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[BillyB]

tell me my husband doesn't respect me (BillyB),

I don't remember saying that and I did a search of my posts using the words "respect" and "husband" and can't come up with anything. Don't hold a grudge over something that didn't happened. I know you have a habit of speaking for your husband here. You have given us the impression he has the same dim view as DK about the men in this endeavor. You mention he said something that I thought was far fetched so I questioned you to the point you admitted he didn't say what you claimed he said but that you can read his mind after being married to him a long time. I promise this forum if I quote my wife, it will actually be something she said instead of what I think she would say.

Had Billy reported DG's post, rather than responded to it, it likely would have been deleted it.  That is the case for everyone.

I never reported someone for insulting me. Even if I don't like what is said, I believe people have the right to speak freely. All I ask for is if someone is allowed to take a shot at me, that I'm allowed to respond instead of my posts mysteriously disappearing. In a dispute, ALL posts may be allowed to stand, ALL get thrown in the blah blah blah thread, or ALL get deleted and nobody can complain about the fairness of decisions like that.

[DearGod]

who can learn and teach on this forum. We may as well rename the forum "Arguing US Politics". That is all that will be left. I currently have a very uplifting story I want to share. But with DK/DG on the prowl I will only share with people I trust.


HDL

Tell your boyfriend to not worry about the message i dropped him a few days ago. You talk about bullies, but forget what happened when i first came here, and surprisingly to monarch as well. Now you lot are crying for what? because you can't throw in a picture of you and a young girl and pull wool over other peoples eyes, because they know now more about the relationship? I won't say a word, tell him not to worry about it, he can spend his years telling half stories and lying. As much as a bully he was, and how much he deserves being kicked to the ground. I realise he has scars just like all of us.

It doesn't change the fact of the kind of women I attract.

Still waiting for these women you apparently have, that i want.

Some of us men are living the life you want and you're jealous.

Oh god yes i am envious of them, posters like ml, gator, 2tallbill,hdl who from what i can tell married quality women who love them. Maybe we can get the same thing from the women we meet in the future. i came here thinking every 40+ year old (who is out of shape), was chasing young girls in fsu, i was wrong, some have found love, which at the end of the day is the most important thing.

[Boethius]

Moderators generally leave posts where they are, including the odd insult.  It is only when insults are taking over a thread, or are spilling over into other threads, that they are either deleted or moved to Blah, Blah.  If moved, only the last few insults usually are moved, as it is time consuming to go through a thread and move every offside post.  The intention is to give a message to those involved to stop derailing a thread with their disputes.


Anytime one poster's response is edited or deleted, the subsequent response to that post will be edited, or deleted if it is in response to an edited part of a post.   

[HoundDaddyLee]

Tell your boyfriend to not worry about the message i dropped him a few days ago. You talk about bullies, but forget what happened when i first came here, and surprisingly to monarch as well. Now you lot are crying for what? because you can't throw in a picture of you and a young girl and pull wool over other peoples eyes, because they know now more about the relationship? I won't say a word, tell him not to worry about it, he can spend his years telling half stories and lying. As much as a bully he was, and how much he deserves being kicked to the ground. I realise he has scars just like all of us.


Still waiting for these women you apparently have, that i want.

Oh god yes i am envious of them, posters like ml, gator, 2tallbill,hdl who from what i can tell married quality women who love them. Maybe we can get the same thing from the women we meet in the future. i came here thinking every 40+ year old (who is out of shape), was chasing young girls in fsu, i was wrong, some have found love, which at the end of the day is the most important thing.

You assume my lady is young. You assume I would post of photo of her. Posting photos of conquests is your shtick. Your post above shows perfectly why I will not share anything meaningful where you can take it, twist it around and then spread rumors, gossip, etc.


Knock yourself out DK/DG. Deflower all the virgins you want. Plant your flag across all of Eastern Europe. Have fun, it is what your 20's are for. Get back to me in 20 years when you realize how empty it all was. In closing understand that most of us here do not envy you. As I love to say to people who wonder if I am looking for a hot 25 year old... "I didn't really like 25 year old women when I was 25" 


Best of luck to you DK/DG. Just make sure you use protection.


HDL