Large age difference

[Turboguy]

Just 35 years, jb.  Well maybe 35 years, three months and 20 days if you want to get technical.   Gosh, I am gonna be in real trouble jb.   Luda and I are going to be in Texas about the middle of August.    Darn, I wonder if they will let me keep my laptop in my cell so i can keep up with all the great posts by jb. 

Well do I get to pick my shade of pink so the plates can match Luda's lipstick or something. 

It could be worse jb.   Last year at the European Connections social in Moscow the one gal who approached me was 16.    Believe it or not I actually told her I though I was too old for her.

 

[jb]

you are a sick person, turbo...
 
Have you considered professional help?

[Turboguy]

My ex wife thinks that too. 

[Admin]

My ex wife thinks that too.Â

Hey! Be careful what you say about your ex-wife! I learned that my ex-wife reads the board and has been culling posts of mine to use in court against me :dude:

Can't you see me trembling

- Dan

[jb]

I'd be flattered if I thought my ex-wife ever gave me a second thought.

[Turboguy]

I am safe, my ex-wife does not use the internet at all.   We get along fine and I want to keep it that way.   I have to admit if I am crossing a busy street and I see her driving towards me, I wait till she passes to walk out into the street.

[TigerPaws]

I am safe, my ex-wife does not use the internet at all.   We get along fine and I want to keep it that way.   I have to admit if I am crossing a busy street and I see her driving towards me, I wait till she passes to walk out into the street.

LoL,

 My ex and I get along just fine as long as we are seperated by several thousand miles, in order to keep her from bothering us I have had to go as far as having a secure telephone system, you need to know a PIN number in order for the call to go through.

[Turboguy]

The scary part is when I bring Luda back to the USA on August 2nd, assuming all goes well, we are moving into a different house and will be a two minute walk from where my ex lives.   The phone number is unlisted, but not as secure as yours.   Hummm, I might like to get some info on something like that.

The good part is the house we are moving into in August is going up for sale in the Spring and once Luda gets her tastes adaped to the USA the plan is to build a new home in the spring which will be far away from the ex

[jb]

A return to the topic.

Age difference,,,, I've been going to Russia for 25 years and I've talked to a lot of Russians.  I think I can safely say the question of age in relationships goes in one of several ways:

Young, very pretty women, never married, no children, well adjusted mentally, of average to medium income, and well educated.... These women want a husband 4-7 years older.

Young, very pretty women, once married, no children, well adjusted mentally, of average to medium income, and well educated.... These women want a new husband 7-10 years older.

Young, very pretty women, once married, with children, not well adjusted mentally, of less than average income, and average educatation.... These women want a new husband 10-11 years older.

Young, very pretty women, previously married, with children, not well adjusted mentally, of less than average income, and not well educated.... These women want the next husband 12-15 years older.

Young, semi-pretty women, prior marriages, with children, poorly adjusted mentally, of much less than average income, and without much education at all.... These women want any husband 15-20 years older.

No longer young, semi-pretty women, prior marriages, with children, poorly adjusted mentally, flat broke, and without much going for her at all.... These women want a husband of any age, has a pulse, and his breath can make a mirror fog on a cold day is enough.

There are a million sets of "in-betweens", and you can substitute gender, age, income, and education to suit the man's side for looking for a huge age difference to get a better understanding.  The point of the matter is to look clearly at the reasons why a May/December relationship is happening in the first place; somebody in the relational is probably dysfunctional, it may also be that there are two very dysfunctional parties involved.

There are, of course, exceptions,,,for example, very comfortably well off (rich) older men can charm a very pretty young woman, and hope for a 3-5 year happy deal.  The same thing can happen and actual love can grow from the seeds planted is such aridly thin soil.  But if average the 40-50 y.o. joe-sixpac thinks he can stumble up on real love in a week with a young, tender, very pretty girl with a solid education and above average intelligence, he's pissin' into the wind.  He's gonna wind up, nine times out of ten, with a woman no one else can live with for a whole bunch of reasons.

Some of you guys need to learn to look before you leap.

[andrewfi]

Clap, clap, clap!:)

[TigerPaws]

There are, of course, exceptions,,,for example, very comfortably well off (rich) older men can charm a very pretty young woman, and hope for a 3-5 year happy deal. The same thing can happen and actual love can grow from the seeds planted is such aridly thin soil. But if average the 40-50 y.o. joe-sixpac thinks he can stumble up on real love in a week with a young, tender, very pretty girl with a solid education and above average intelligence, he's pissin' into the wind. He's gonna wind up, nine times out of ten, with a woman no one else can live with for a whole bunch of reasons.

Some of you guys need to learn to look before you leap.

 While I generally agree with the majority of your post, I take exception with the highlighted statement above, my wife and I have been married for 5 years now, the relationship between my wife and I is better than ever. Additionally I know several men like myself who have married Russian girls (at least 15 years younger and extremily attractive) who have been married for 3, 4 and in one case 7 years, all are doing very well.

 Now I will agree that the Joe Sixpac type who makes under 50 grand a year, who loves to sit in front of the TV shouting at some sports event, who's idea of a good time is to have a case of beer with the boys is going to fail and fail miserably. Then again most of the Joe Sixpac types are loosers anyway, I am just sorry for the lady from the FSU they attract.

[jb]

Andrewfi wrote:  Clap, clap, clap!:)

Gee whiz, Andrew, what part did you like?

[Vaughn]

jb,

Before andrewfin replies, I just gotta ask:

Since my wife is 12 years 8 months younger than me,
is she really "not well-adjusted mentally"? ROTF!
Now what's the difference between "not well adjusted
mentally" and "poorly adjusted mentally"? I know they're
generalizations, but the wording struck me as odd.

Vaughn

Whoa! I get it. She's well-adjusted mentally,
but got stuck with an older guy. And so it goes.

[jb]

Vaughn,

The post was designed to make people think, not dictate what to do.  Personally, I don't think a 12 year age difference is all that bad, I enjoy such a difference with my wife.   But we are both older.  It is a big deal if she is 20, and not a big deal if she is 35 or 40.  I've said this a million times, age difference is relative, but I doubt anyone heard that part.

[Vaughn]

jb,

My post was tongue-in-cheek, and
I realize your post was not gospel.

[jb]

TPaws,

You ain't even in the same group, besides, you have your pre-nup in place to save/protect your marriage.  That young hottie you are married to is no more gonna dump you, or leave you, for hell nor high water, I could more easily jump over the the moon. She's waiting for you to croak so she can collect the big prize, she's prolly screwing you 5 times a week and feeding you well marbled steaks with enough cholesterol on the odd days to hasten to your departure with hardened artieries.  Get over yourself.

[MandM]

jb,

Having regular love making sessions is good for man's health!;) (and so is greasy food ) BTW, 19 years difference is only slightly larger than 12 years. :? 

 

 

[Frank]

Honestly, I don't think age difference matters as long as both people are in agreement.  If the woman marries for money and security, who cares?  As long as her husband is happy and she is happy with the arrangement, that's what matters.  Now, if she gets married, gets her greencard and then dumps the husband, that is bad. 

[Turboguy]

Personally I think there are tons of factors that make a happy marriage.   I think if it boils down to anything it is if the person makes his spouse happy.   I think if someone treats their mate well, pays attention to them, takes an interest in them, makes them feel special, helps them when they can, listens to thier problems, finds things they can enjoy together and shares their life that age it not going to be that big of a deal.

I am not saying if the young bride is a party animal who what to go bar hopping every night and participate in exteame sports and the older guy wants to sit in the rocking chair with a shawl over his lap and watch the robins feed that it is going to work.  Of course it won't.

I probably have the widest age range of most anyone and have been involved with a lot of much younger women and never found age difference an issue.

[MandM]

Turboguy, it's probably because you are young at heart! I have a work colleague who is only 33, but he talks and acts like a 60 year old man. Boring, boring, boring. I think it is important for husband and wife to be best friends. When you fee like you can tell your partner anything and he or she will still love and support you, its great. I never had anything like that before I met Mark, and I am just loving the fact that he is my best friend.

Now, rocking chair is not so bad after all. I love them (haven't got one though). This is my idea of a perfect winter evening - sitting in the rocking chair with a shawl over my lap, next to the open fire, with a glass of red wine, with classic music on and an interesting book to read....Bliss...

[Maxx]

Mark's idea of a perfect Winter evening maybe sitting in that rocking chair with M&M on his lap wearing only a shawl, forget the book and then ..... Bliss..... :cool:

Sorry I couldn't resist the tease

Maxx

 

 

 

 

[MandM]

Maxx,

I don't even want to go there. Something tells me that Mark's idea of a perfect evening wouldn't involve any clothes (even shawl) and the rocking chair would be used inappropriately!

Nice to see that you are perked up, Maxx!

[ConnerVT]

There's an inappropriate use for a rocking chair? 

[Maxx]

[user=300]M&M[/user] wrote:

Maxx,

I don't even want to go there. Something tells me that Mark's idea of a perfect evening wouldn't involve any clothes (even shawl) and the rocking chair would be used inappropriately!

Nice to see that you are perked up, Maxx!

Actually you more accurately stated what I meant to say.....

"perked up" Yes. but I found it is dangerous for me. I usually end up offending someone with my mischevious humor. Then when I am serious I offend everyone.

Maxx

 

[Erwin]

Elena Petrova with Elena's Models also thought that most young women don't even consider men under 25 as possible marriage partners. They seek men who are OLDER. And here she observed the following the statistics loophole:
-- Very young girls of 18-25 seek men 25-45.
-- Girls 25-30 seek men 25-45.
-- Women 30-35 seek men 30-45.
-- Women 35-40 seek men 30-45.
-- Women 40-45 seek men 35-50.
She concluded that MOST WOMEN SEEK MEN 30-45.

FWIW…

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