Meeting her parents

[Michelangelo]

I can see you don't have much experience with MILs yet, Billy    LOL

[I/O]

I can see you don't have much experience with MILs yet, Billy    LOL

M/A Right on there.  I told my IL's to be that my criteria for selecting a wife after my previous marriage was first and foremost, her parents either had to be dead or living in another country.  My IL's to be are still laughing the heads off about that and they added that I have total control becuse they will need a letter of support from me to get a visa to come visit.  It's all in good fun, but the ground rules are clearly set.

I/O

[Turboguy]

Well, nobody stayed very long in the chat room, Turbo you didn't even say hi!  Jb didn't show either, oh well. We are eating dinner now, but if anybody wants to rumble in the chat room later (8:30 PT) I'll be waiting, or we can just shoot the sh!t too, give the chat room some use.
 

Sorry, I did not mean to ignore you.  I am traveling and using my laptop which seems to have some problems with Flash.   I could only get part way into the room and my whole puter froze up.  It took me an hour to even get back online after my attempt to get into the chat room.   I would have enjoyed grumbling with you about people who keep changing their story  

[jinx13]

 It's ok Turbo, nobody seems to be in a chat mood anyway, and Nataly is having a Skype talk with mama now, so not the best time for me either, maybe another time.

 Dan, feel free to delete all off topic posts by me. I tried the chat thing, didn't work out, oh well.

[BillyB]

I can see you don't have much experience with MILs yet, Billy    LOL

Are you trying to tell me I've yet to learn about bad MIL's? I don't want to, I try to avoid them. A MIL can be a blessing to your relationship or hurt it plain and simple. If some of you guys had nothing but MILs who tried to control or sabotage your past relationships, I understand that it happens and feel for you but it's not the norm, at least not for normal people. There are MIL's that prefer to strengthen the bond between you and their daughter which could translate to anything from a hands off approach to encouraging their daughter remember their vows and put up with your sh!t to keep the marriage from breaking apart. When two people can't get along in the family, there's something wrong with one of you or both of you. For any newbie reading this, carefully evaluate the family your gal is coming from.

[ScottinCrimea]

My first meeting with my in-laws, we were at a nice restaurant (four course meal with drinks for four - $17).  We were talking about the cold war and I described how we had drills in school where in the event of a nuclear attack by the evil USSR we would all crawl under our desks.  My MIL laughed and said that she had gone through the same drills in the USSR in the event of a nuclear attack by the evil USA.  We both had a good laugh and it established some common ground.  My in-laws now live about 100 feet from our apartment building so it's a good thing we get along so well.  I love it when the MIL sends over some of her home cooking.  She learned I love caramel so she found a friend who makes it for distribution to bakeries and such and she buys me a kilo or two every so often.  That stuff is pure heaven!

[KenC]

Just for the record, I too thought your comment was odd, Michael.  Lena and her Mom are at odds on a lot of things, but never about me.  I think they are just too much alike and that sometimes creates conflicts.  I have the greatest respect for my MIL.  She is a stauntch and intelligent woman that holds an important position in her city's government.  Her integrity is amazing; even though she knew she may be losing her only daughter to me in a foreign country (which she despised), she supported Lena's decision and even endorsed me as a great choice.
KenC

[Wist]

I only met parents twice.  I believed you should only meet them if you were serious about the girl.

I agree with you but in my case either the girl arranged it without asking me or the circumstance simply lead to meeting them as in when the girl still lived with her parents.

[Michelangelo]

Just for the record, I too thought your comment was odd, Michael.  Lena and her Mom are at odds on a lot of things, but never about me.  I think they are just too much alike and that sometimes creates conflicts.  I have the greatest respect for my MIL.  She is a staunch and intelligent woman that holds an important position in her city's government.  Her integrity is amazing; even though she knew she may be losing her only daughter to me in a foreign country (which she despised), she supported Lena's decision and even endorsed me as a great choice.
KenC

I should clarify.  I spoke partially in jest, but there was an underlying truth.  Vik had dated other Americans, and her mother was  frightened that she would marry one and leave Ukraine.  That led to her not liking me for two reasons; 1) she hates the USA because of the cold war; 2) she did not want to lose her daughter.

So anytime an american guy showed up, she would dislike him.  Vik was a grown girl, and decided for herself.

My MIL is fine with me now.  The bug she sent me was a joke; showing her growing "affection."   

[Turboguy]

It is when your food poisoning comes after you eat some home baked goodies that were made just for you that you need to start worrying M/A

[KenC]

I agree with you but in my case either the girl arranged it without asking me or the circumstance simply lead to meeting them as in when the girl still lived with her parents.

Wist,
It is a very good sign if the girl wanted you to meet her parents.  I would question the girl's sincereity if it was otherwise.  At the very least, if the girl didn't want you to meet them, it would indicate that she wasn't yet attatched enough to you to take that step.
KenC

[Jumper]

It's the kiss of death when the mother likes you...

LOL!
Not always..
my MIL was a big advocate for me actually..
T dint like my job ,almost a deal breaker,
(  it was/sometimes still is/ *very scary* to her,  and she dint want to be an early widow, was convinced she would be )

every situation is different..
*shrugs*