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Good books about understanding women and men
« on: April 26, 2007, 09:55:51 AM »
Hello dear ladies and gents!

After some threads i thought these books can be a big source both for women and men on this board and the whole endevour. These are American authors and they don't address Russian women, but these books are on my night table and helped me immensely to understand my husband, and him to understand me.

I have been at one of the seminars of Gary Smalley, exciting experience. He voiced and wrote in his books what I (and lots of women i am sure) couldn't quite express right, it is a very easy and short reading too.

Here are the links, check them out:

http://store.roadtoglory.us/gasmbo.html

http://www.cbc-select.com/cowiyohul.html Connecting with your husband by Gary Smalley

http://www.cbc-select.com/cowiyowilli.html Connecting with your wife by Barbara Rosberg


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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #1 on: April 26, 2007, 11:25:00 AM »
Anastasia (using Italian spelling ;)), we also have a section for book reviews here (http://www.russianwomendiscussion.com/index.php?ind=reviews&op=section_view&idev=7), in case you may want to expand on your recommended titles.
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« Reply #2 on: June 09, 2007, 11:10:08 AM »
Hey Sandro,

Thanks for pointing this out. . .

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« Reply #3 on: November 13, 2007, 03:02:42 PM »
Hey, Anastassia,
I have read several of Gary Smalley's books and they are great.  I would encourage all couples to read his books.  He is an awesome Christian Counselor who shares some profound wisdoms on relationships.
Thanks for pointing these out.  Also, Brenda and Dennis have several great books... look at amazon for one in particular:
http://www.amazon.com/Rekindling-Romance-Loving-Love-Your/dp/B000H2N0DU/ref=pd_sim_b_img_3/104-1733707-2811910

is a great book.  Written for both husband and wife.  Try it!!
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« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2007, 03:35:44 PM »
Isn't "Mars & Venus" supposed to be one of the definitive classics?

http://www.amazon.com/Men-Mars-Women-Venus-Understanding/dp/0060574216/ref=sr_1_3/104-2040657-6559159?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1194992094&sr=1-3

As one of the reviews said: "Gray deals with language a lot in this book, because "Martians" and "Venusians" speak different languages, and each is only remotely connected to English."  Does that mean it should be ideal for Americans & Russians?   ;);D   

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« Reply #5 on: November 13, 2007, 04:00:06 PM »
Hey, pk-uk,
Yes,
Mars/Venus is a classic book.  Great read and some wonderful techniques to deal with conflict.  I like Smalley and Rainey as well for their Christian principles.  All in all, everything mentioned here is great.
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #6 on: November 20, 2007, 09:39:29 PM »
If your relationship is in trouble or you just want to keep it healthy, I would recommend "Fighting for Your Marriage" by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg

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« Reply #7 on: November 20, 2007, 10:57:28 PM »
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #8 on: January 22, 2008, 04:00:30 AM »
hai folks,

Here are some good books about understanding men and women. have a look at those 8)


http://quick-help.net/browse/men-women-understanding

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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #9 on: January 22, 2008, 09:09:39 AM »
Yelena,

"Fighting for Your Marriage" is indeed a good book.  It was recommended to me two years ago by an eminent psychologist as the "best couples book". 

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« Reply #10 on: January 27, 2008, 07:51:03 PM »
My wife's sister sent her two of Mars/Venus books translated into Russian.  She thought they were stupid and completely irrelevant.  Perhaps someone can recommend works on this topic by a highly respected Russian author??  Please!!!

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« Reply #11 on: January 27, 2008, 08:43:55 PM »
Let me add that I got a copy of Mars and Venus in the Bedroom --in English -- the author was spot-on in his description of me as a man approaching the whole relationship.  He wasn't even close in describing Vika.  Do you ladies here on the Forum feel that his description of women and their needs and wants fit you?  Or is there truly a difference in the way Russian women and American women view and approach relationships?

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« Reply #12 on: January 28, 2008, 10:47:38 AM »
Mars and Venus is a good book but might be a little old, frankly i didn't read it.

Here are some more books that were excellent and everybody should read them. They opened up my eyes too.  ;)

“Finding the Love of Your Life” by Neil Clark Warren

“Called Together” by Steve and Mary Prokopchak

“The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman

“A Celebration of Sex” by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau

I read all of these.

 beachcomber556, order and read "The Five Love Languages"


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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #13 on: February 15, 2009, 07:10:43 PM »
The best-ever book on human relationships, and it's free:

Real-Time Relationships: The Logic of Love
http://freedomainradio.com/free/#RTR

 8)
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« Reply #14 on: February 15, 2009, 09:13:42 PM »
Thank you for sharing another resource.  I will be reading it shortly.  Free is always good, too.  :clapping:
http://www.PrimeLanguageServices.com
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #15 on: February 18, 2009, 10:41:08 PM »
The best-ever book on human relationships, and it's free:

Real-Time Relationships: The Logic of Love
http://freedomainradio.com/free/#RTR

 8)


Thanks for the link.  I started reading this book but didn't get too far into it.  My first thoughts included "I hope this author gets some counseling for his very deeply rooted issues" and "Where's my coffeepot?  I'm gonna' need some help staying awake while reading this mumble-jumble."     So far (admittedly, I'm not too far into the book), I'm giving it a   :thumbsdown:      Maybe I'll try it again after I'm re-energized.  Philosophers tend to bore me; I'd rather hang around guys that try to burp the alphabet than guys that ramble on about.....uh, whatever it is that philosophers ramble on about.
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #16 on: April 26, 2009, 07:00:50 AM »
This is my vote - simply the most profound treatise i have read on the subject:

http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-David-Deida/dp/1591792576/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1240750761&sr=8-1

It has changed my life! 

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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #17 on: December 28, 2009, 01:05:48 PM »
Nah - skip the modern books; too circumstantial - they skirt the central issues, are afraid of them.  I say, read Arthur Schopenhauer's 'Metaphysics of love between the sexes' an application note to his famous philosophy of 'World as Will and Idea'.  Then read up on Carl Jung's Anima/Animus projection theory.  Want to know what women really want?  Carl Jung has the answer for you: (paraphrasing) The thing that men do not understand about women is the yin, the void.  The modern debate eschews this perspective and claims women are the same psychologically as men but this perspective confuses embodiment, which blends both feminine and masculine with notions of feminine and masculine as abstract entities.  To the extent that a woman is feminine, and many are not, they'll seek the partner to fill them in some way but will also contain that spark which paradoxically, is emotionally stronger than the masculine.

Personally, I find the ancients have figured this out a long time ago.  The modern books may cast the debate in common language and are therefore more understandable, but miss the essence.


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« Reply #18 on: January 09, 2010, 07:39:46 PM »
Good book about a Russian woman's experience
www.svetlanarepina.com
A lot on background, culture and relationships.
Also great articles on
http://www.internertomance.webs.com

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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #21 on: February 26, 2010, 12:35:24 AM »
Mars and Venus is a good book but might be a little old, frankly i didn't read it.

Here are some more books that were excellent and everybody should read them. They opened up my eyes too.  ;)

“Finding the Love of Your Life” by Neil Clark Warren

“Called Together” by Steve and Mary Prokopchak

“The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman

“A Celebration of Sex” by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau

I read all of these.

 beachcomber556, order and read "The Five Love Languages"



Hi, I would add my 2 kopeks by referring to a RFU woman post on the book "The Five Love Languages": http://happyinterfamily.com/2009/12/01/on-the-five-languages-of-love/
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« Reply #23 on: June 28, 2012, 05:35:32 PM »
http://www.amazon.com/Uncoupling-Turning-Points-Intimate-Relationships/dp/0679730028

I will relate this to the Russian poem "Жди меня и я вернусь - Wait for Me"
 from WWII at the end.  Stand by.

Diane Vaughan's "uncoupling" is the best book I read about divorce after I was divorced.
Diane had chosen to divorce her first husband and later was divorced by her second husband.
She saw divorce from both sides.  She was also a psychologist. 
Diane took out adds in newspapers to find other people who had been divorced and interviewed them.  The patterns she noted she reported in her book.
Some of the lessons you learn from this book are applicable to other forms of personal loss, not just to divorce.
Someone who has been divorced will usually take up and activity or possesion that relates to the person who was lost.
But also my Mother took up rose gardening after my father died.  Rose gardening was his hobby.
Another woman who had been disowned by her mother over a divorce situation bought a car just like her mothers.
One of the important things to learn from Diane's book is that someone who is considering divorcing their spouse is usually afraid to mention the subject to their spouse.
And they often don't get comfortable with talking about a possible divorce until they have already decided.   
This leaves the unfortunate spouse with little warning.  The one who is going to be left behind has not enough time to repair the marriage.
One warning sign is when the spouse takes up new hobbies, activities or even affairs outside the marriage.
Another is when they begin to change their appearance by buying new clothes and dying their hair, getting a new hair style etc.
There was even a very popular American song where the writer, Billy Joel, wrote about this changing of clothes and hair style by his then wife, Crysty Brinkely.
Billy Joel knew something was wrong but apparently didn't realize just what.
The lyrics go:  "Don't go trying some new fashion.  Don't change the color of your hair 
You always have my unspoken passion though I might not seem to care."

It's a beautiful song and became a big hit.  But I'm told Billy Joel now hates this song he wrote.  I'm sure because it reminds him of his painful divorce.




Wait for me, and I'll return - only wait very hard;
Wait until you are filled with sorrow as you watch the yellow rain;
Wait when the wind sweeps the snowdrifts;
Wait in the sweltering heat;
Wait when others have stopped waiting, forgetting their yesterdays;
Wait when even from afar no letters come to you;
Wait even when others are tired of waiting;
Wait even when my mother and son think I am no more;
And when friends sit around the fire drinking to my memory,
Wait, and do not hurry to drink to my memory too;
Wait, for I'll return, defying every death;
And let those who do not wait say I was lucky;
They will never understand that, in the midst of death,
You, with your waiting, saved me;
Only you and I will know how I survived -
It's because you waited as no one else did.

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The famous Russian WWII poem "Wait For Me" memorized by millions of Russian wives and mothers, was also written by a young man who, in the end, like Billy Joel, was left by the wife he wrote it for.
It is likely that both Simonov and Joel, a generation apart, recognized there was something wrong in their marriages and wrote a poen and a song respectively to their troubled wives.
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #24 on: July 17, 2012, 11:44:27 PM »
Since other links and book were recommended, I will recommend one.

www.lovinginukraine.com

www.lovinginukraine.blogspot.com

This is the first book that deals directly with the thinking and the mentality of Russian speaking girls and how you, as a man, can address your girl's thoughts, feelings, and needs in a way that can enhance your possibility of success.

Good luck to you all.

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« Reply #25 on: September 01, 2012, 07:46:42 PM »

From the book of life, my experience is this.  The last born in a family is often socially crippled by the too long attachment of the mother.  The older children always have a younger child that comes along and displaces them from their mothers attention.
In America we call this "being tied to the apron strings."
In the Bible it may relate to the saying "There comes a time when a man must leave his mother and father and take a wife."
Of my parents families and the know life histories of me and my cousins, five of six of the last born never succeeded in marriage to the point of having a child of their own.
The sixth case, one of my aunts, may prove to be the exception that proves the rule.
  She was the only one of the six life histories that turned out to produce children.  The reason may well have been that at age 8 she had an older sister who was slightly retarded and another one that had just been crippled by a stroke.  Her mother, my grandmother, was busy watching one mentally deficient youngster and teaching a 25-year-old woman to walk again.  So grandmother had to cut Loraine lose and let her care for herself.
Then there is the case of Flo and Flint.  Flo was a mother Chimpanzee and her last-born was Flint.  They were observed in the wild by Jane Goodall.
Flint was tied to his mothers’ apron strings.  When Flo finally died young Flint went into a fit of grief and died on his own within six weeks.
Mothers please be careful to give your last-born freedom to grow socially on their own.  Then the men and women who result will have successful adult relationships.

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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #26 on: March 30, 2013, 07:58:57 AM »
Hello, everyone.
The best way to learn more about Ukrainian and Russian women more - is to communicate more to them. So, I advice You to find a friend - a girl from these countries and to communicate to them. She can tell You more about our mentalities differences and men and women roles in these countries. I myself am a translator - but I found out that during creating an international relationship - the most important aspect is - to explain the man our countries traditions, than to translate everything perfectly.
If U need help or questions - ask. I will be glad to help and share experience.

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« Reply #27 on: June 23, 2013, 08:19:22 PM »
The last born in a family is often socially crippled by the too long attachment of the mother. 

And this applies to 'only child' also, since they are last (as well as first) born.
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« Reply #28 on: June 23, 2013, 08:23:55 PM »
. . . creating an international relationship - the most important aspect is - to explain the man our countries traditions . . .

It is important for man to learn something of traditions.  But during meetings is not  the time.  That time is for getting  to know  the person, not traditions.  So learning  traditions should occur before a trip.

And this applies equally to the woman.  Much talk here always about the man having to learn this and that about country and family traditions, but little mention that the woman has equal responsibility;  and maybe moreso since more frequently the couple ultimately live in the man's country.
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« Reply #29 on: June 27, 2013, 06:07:34 PM »
I don't know if it is still in print but Ken Nair's book "Understanding the Mind of a Woman" is not only old, but old fashioned and thus it works. Highly recommended.
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #30 on: November 21, 2014, 10:41:04 PM »
I agree with member WhyNot above.

http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-David-Deida/dp/1591792576/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1240750761&sr=8-1

One of the authors quotes is very powerful.  He says (not sure if this is exact quote, but..)
"Live your life as if your father were dead"

I believe the meaning behind this, is take responsibility in your own life to make your dreams come true.  No longer is your father around to be the leader of the family in which you grew up.  Its time to step up to the plate, take risks in life like a man should and make a women your wife so you can live all the happy moments when YOU are the father of your own family.
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« Reply #31 on: November 22, 2014, 10:03:53 AM »
There are great books and websites to assist with learning about Russia.

I will put in a self plug for the Mendeleyev Journal--many think of it as just news and commentary, but in reality we have 18 sections devoted to travel to Russia and Ukraine (everything from visas to trains to hotels to riding the Metros), 9 sections on Russian and Ukrainian food/culinary topics, 4 sections of culture and art, 15 sections on everyday life to media (including understanding important holidays, etc), 7 sections on Religion in Russia and Ukraine, 11 sections on learning Russian language (including our premier free resource directory), and then additional links to Russian movies with English subtitles. Be sure to check out the pages on celebrating the New Year and Christmas in the FSU.


Good books include:

From Nyet to Da, Understanding the New Russia. http://www.amazon.com/From-Nyet-Da-Understanding-Russia/dp/1877864161

The Russians                By Vladimir Zhelvis   The Russians, by native Russian Vladimir Zhelvis. http://www.xenophobes.com/the-russians/

Russia - Culture Smart! The Essential Guide to Customs and Culture. http://www.amazon.com/Russia-Culture-essential-customs-culture/dp/1857333527

Natasha's Dance: A Cultural History of Russia. http://www.amazon.com/Natashas-Dance-Cultural-History-Russia/dp/0312421958/ref=pd_sim_b_7?ie=UTF8&refRID=1EJ7CD8RDZH7B3ZETAHQ

The Semantics of Time in Russia by Dr. Anna Gladkova is an excellent paper delivered to foreign journalism students at Moscow State University if you can find it online.

Understanding Russia: The Holy Fool in Russian Culture by Eva Thompson. http://www.jstor.org/discover/10.2307/308944?uid=2129&uid=2&uid=70&uid=4&sid=21105269123443
 
 



And for those who really want to go deep, beyond the surface, try the time-tested book list on former Guardian journalist James Meeks: http://www.theguardian.com/books/2005/sep/05/top10s.russia





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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #32 on: November 22, 2014, 08:02:02 PM »
I read the Mendeyelev Journal religiously.   It is a good read and is a great source for learning all things Russian.

I even tried the Salmon with Apple Slices and Heavy Cream, but I added in pureed raspberries as an afterthought.  Yummy.
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #33 on: November 23, 2014, 11:25:32 AM »
Thank you, Jone.

Pureed raspberries sounds like a great addition!

I have, at least in summer, converted MIL to the practice of adding slices of fresh peach or apple when we saute Cod. I'll have to try them pureed as well.
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #34 on: October 30, 2017, 09:45:09 AM »
I agree with all.
Today there are a lot of books and lessons about relations.
Each writer expresses own  opinion and own experience.

But most important-to communicate with women.

I am Woman, so I can say: never say to woman "why?"
We do not know answer. And this question is stupid for us  :D.

Women-emotional beings.
We use brain, when we work or we need cross the street to a green light, or when we count money :).

Basically we use the heart and intuition, because we know, what we need to do and we do this  :D.

I had boyfriend, who asked me all time:"Why you made this or this?"
It was horrible  :D.

At first I was patiant, then I explained him, that this question is forbidden for women  :D.

He was not glad. But then he said to me:"Yes, I remember other women, who said the same as you said!"
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #35 on: July 04, 2018, 05:35:50 AM »
Well, women and men aren't spaceships, there is nothing complicated in it.
If you have a problem which you don't know how to solve it, you can ask on forum, or ask by yourself from well known woman or man.
This is the best way of understanding, books is only one opinion that you can't discus with author and usually it is outdated opinion.
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« Reply #36 on: September 13, 2018, 10:57:26 PM »
I want to recommend a book about woman*s nature)
I think its the best book i ve ever read describing what woman is

Probably its not very useful for understanding relationship but perfect for understanding women (if its possible :D)

*Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype*
by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #37 on: September 14, 2018, 12:07:57 AM »
Men trying to understand women is like man flying under his own power like a bird ... few can do it and not for very long before one crashes and burns ;)

...and yet we try ...

Thanks for the tip
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #38 on: September 14, 2018, 12:17:23 AM »
Men trying to understand women is like man flying under his own power like a bird ... few can do it and not for very long before one crashes and burns ;)

...and yet we try ...

Thanks for the tip

))) :D
anyway we have one more sucсessful approach by Oscar Wilde: “Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.”

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« Reply #39 on: September 14, 2018, 12:28:19 AM »
Yes, but he was a 'blue boy' ))
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #40 on: September 14, 2018, 11:26:13 AM »
I want to recommend a book about woman*s nature)
I think its the best book i ve ever read describing what woman is

Probably its not very useful for understanding relationship but perfect for understanding women (if its possible :D)

*Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype*
by Clarissa Pinkola Estés

I enjoyed this book but can't say it gave me any tremendous insight into a woman's psyche.

If you liked this book then you may want to read The Woman Warrior by Maxine Hong Kingston. I found it to be more to my liking, although it's been over 20 years since I've read it.
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #41 on: November 15, 2018, 12:43:45 AM »

Men and women may not be from different planets.
There is a book named Men are from Venus women are from Mars.
You can get that after reading.



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« Reply #42 on: November 15, 2018, 01:07:06 AM »
Men and women may not be from different planets.
There is a book named Men are from Venus women are from Mars.
You can get that after reading.

..and over 90 percent of the couples I knew who read that book subsequently divorced and many never re-married ;)
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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #43 on: November 18, 2018, 07:00:04 PM »
you are right , maybe there's no need for marriage at all :popcorn:

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Re: Good books about understanding women and men
« Reply #44 on: November 18, 2018, 07:25:18 PM »
I have to recommend Kama Sutra
very well researched
a lot of what to me was original stuff
fun to delve into with an enthusiastic partner
but it assumes you have such a partner
without one, I'm afraid it'll be useless...

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You should introduce yourself ..


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