Hello Everyone,
After making a post about how I met my wife, I have been asked by another RWD Forum member to write a little about myself in this section.
Basically, I am a 44 y.o. U.S. Air Force retiree, currently living in my native northern California. I met my wife Tanya while I was active duty and stationed in Italy. Tanya is a native of Kiev, Ukraine and is eight years younger than me. We've been married about 7.5 years and have been stateside for five years.
To those of you who are thinking about marrying a lady from the FSU, or are newly married, a few thoughts based on my experience and many discussions with my wife:
1. Be realistic in your expectations about your bride. Look for a lady that is not overly, more than ten years, younger than yourself, and is from a compatible educational, social, and moral background.
2. Don't go into this process thinking that Russian or Ukrainian women are subservient and live only to please their men. It's simply not true. Most of the Ukrainian women that I've met, including my Tanya, value close family ties, but are also independent minded and not a door mat. I was aware of this when I met my wife and they are qualities that I admire. We are equal partners in this marriage.
3. Be patient. The immigration process is long and grueling. Also, your bride may need several months to adjust to life in her new country. During this time she may be very dependent on you, emotionally, as well as financially, so don't be surprised if she gets depressed. It's normal. Just try to be as supportive as you can and realize that mostly likely this phase will pass and she will come to like her new home and family.
4. Realize that all marriages go through ups and downs. Marrying a woman from the FSU does not change that. Hang on tight and work on strengthening what you have in common.
FYI, the man in the background of my avatar is not me. I found that image on the Web and I liked the big ears of the dog.
Hoping everyone is enjoying the anniversary of America's Declaration of Independence,
Air Dog