All Good Things Come to an End

[I/O]

JB: Believe me, a few of the balls have been dropped from time to time...!!! However, when they hit the floor and break, which believe me, they do from time to time, there is more than me with a broom handy who seems ready to sweep up the mess. That aspect, I regard very highly and those of us who have been indoctrinated by western women do find this a breath of fresh air.

Yep...MIL2B is quite satisfied that all is as she has expected and some. Interestingly (Quite a surprise to me given their reserved characters) she seems to have struck up quite a friendship with my own mother. My mother is a classic "Mother duck" and loves to help, play taxi driver and so forth. It is interesting to observe. Very.

At this very early stage, I can only say that the "Iron hand in the velvet glove" approach draws the best response. I have noticed a number of guys around these boards that seem to be of the opinion that the "ballsy" approach is the way to go. I can only suggest they get the butter ready because they will get toasted quicker than they can schit.

OH BTW I don't mind the kitchen being invaded and my having been booted out one little bit. I've always said, a roof over my head, three meals per day and half a bed a night is enough to keep me quite happy. The constant laughter in the house really is a buzz. Little'un got as bit cheeky last night and decided my name was "Ay"..!! His mother slapped his backside in short order and she didn't miss him whilst she was about it. For a young woman in today's climate, she has some very old fashioned values in these areas which are impressive. (At least for me)

I/O

[Jet]

Little'un got as bit cheeky last night and decided my name was "Ay"..!! His mother slapped his backside in short order and she didn't miss him whilst she was about it. For a young woman in today's climate, she has some very old fashioned values in these areas which are impressive. (At least for me)

Yep, in today's society it is good to see a mother who keeps old fashioned ideas regarding discipline, as far too few Western women do. It's funny, in the beginning I wondered if my wife was a little too hard on our Kolya in this area, but I always tempered those feelings with recollections of how my parents raised me and my brothers. Lil hasn't yet exceeded what my Mom would have considered appropriate, but she hasn't fallen too far short of that line either.

Always tough to understand where your boundaries are as a "step-dad" in the beginning, but it will become self evident in due course, you can be sure  .

[I/O]

  I can barely write this post for laughing. Of course the discussion about my ex has been long since had, and she is very much part of history now. There is no financial or family reason to have any contact and I haven't seen her in several years. Yeah...you can guess where this is going.........

My fiance' has been a little curious as to the reaction of my ex if they come face to face. I have never seen this as a big issue but of course it has the potential for entertainment value.

Today was the annual flower carnival in this city with all the swish bang parade etc.(Due to my work connections we had VIP seating and so forth, quite a treat for my new family) This leads to a park carnival in the evening.  Several friends and ourselves gathered at the carnival and then migrated to a coffee shop to complete the evening.  As we walked into the coffee shop, you can guess who was sitting at the next table and to say the least, was not too happy.  I noticed they cancelled their order and promptly departed. Oh boy..!! Life does deliver some treats for those of us patient enough to wait our moment.

My finace' and MIL2B were having a ball staring down the opposition.    My ex had a pretty tough stare, but she was no match for two focused Russian women. I would say, game set and match to the Ruskies.

I/O

[SANDRO43]

I/O, maybe you should change the title of this thread to:

All Good Things Have Just Arrived

[Serebro]

I/O, do you have your ex's photos with your MIL2B to post?

[I/O]

I/O, maybe you should change the title of this thread to:

All Good Things Have Just Arrived

Sandro: I was actually thinking along those lines when I started this thread, but due to my perverse nature I thought I'd put a slightly 'nother spin on it and then let it develop.

Serebro: Even tasteless bastards like me have limits which I don't go beyond.

I/O

[SANDRO43]

Sandro: I was actually thinking along those lines when I started this thread, but due to my perverse nature I thought I'd put a slightly 'nother spin on it and then let it develop.

Naah, you don't fool me for a moment, when you started this they had NOT arrived yet, and you were £!*$#ing in your pants that things could turn out unexpectedly different, cold reality and all that.

I am REALLY glad for you they didn't .

[I/O]

Naah, you don't fool me for a moment, when you started this they had NOT arrived yet, and you were £!*$#ing in your pants that things could turn out unexpectedly different, cold reality and all that.

I am REALLY glad for you they didn't .

Sandro: Dunno about crapping the trousers.  Can't say that ever really crossed my mind, but certainly I have always been well and truely prepared for things to go another way at anytime. That was a lesson learned the hard way many years ago. I have stood alone for a number years and done it quite well, all involved know that I am well capable of doing that again if I was forced into that position. God willing, that wont be the case.

BTW IMO nothing has "Turned Out" yet. Let me give you a report on that in a few years time. I think it might have been JB who said something along the lines of 5 years under the belt, nothing certain other than a commitment to do their very best to make the next 5 years work. In a marriage of any sort, that is the way it is.

It is certainly a challenge, but a very pleasant one indeed.

I/O

[I/O]

Pray for me guys. Two Russian women have been set loose in the "Magazine" with a pocket full of cash and a trolley.  It will be most interesting to observe the results. (I did add a few obligitory items to the list but........)

I/O

[KenC]

Pray for me guys. Two Russian women have been set loose in the "Magazine" with a pocket full of cash and a trolley.  It will be most interesting to observe the results. (I did add a few obligitory items to the list but........)

I/O

I/O.
Well at least you were smart enough to only give them cash and not any credit cards!  Your damages are limited to how much you gave.
KenC

[ScottinCrimea]

What I've learned is that, while shopping inn the West may be an acquired taste, RW seem to acquire it very easily.  I've already experienced the " We don't really need that, but the price is so low!"

It reminds me of the saying, "Men will spend $2 for a $1 item that they need while women will spend $1 for a $2 item that they don't need."

[I/O]

KenC: Cash is king...!!! If I/O knows nothing else he DOES now how to handle the mix of women and credit cards. Lesson hard learned long ago.

Scott: A very wise man told me many years ago..."Nothing is cheap if you don't need it".

The experiment yesterday was interesting.  I left them to it and said I would return in a couple of hours and see how they were going. How were they going? Chaos in a word. Anyway, after a couple more hours of my insisting that we buy two or three of this or that item because it needed to last a week not a day and a few other head clashes we got out relatively unscathed.

I have noted from far back the short term thinking of "We need this today" without plans for tomorrow and I suspected that would be difficult adjustment in her thinking.  It will be, but she will get there. They really do struggle with the idea of having the home freezer fully stocked. MIL2B slightly less so than daughter.

The new guys need to be aware that these matters don't come easy for these girls. But they DO try and I have long said I can forgive a million nuances for someone who will try. So many little things are so different for them.

It is all very interesting indeed, particularly in light of her already being reasonably familiar with this environment. I really do feel for the girls that come in blind first up.

I/O

[ScottinCrimea]

Just word word of advice from one who is still recovering from this sweekend's experience:  NEVER go shopping for bras with your RW.  You will never understand how they measure for those things anyway, and to try to translate the American numbering system and method of measurement into Russian is a hopeless and dangerous prospect.

 

[KenC]

I have noted from far back the short term thinking of "We need this today" without plans for tomorrow and I suspected that would be difficult adjustment in her thinking.  It will be, but she will get there. They really do struggle with the idea of having the home freezer fully stocked. MIL2B slightly less so than daughter.

The new guys need to be aware that these matters don't come easy for these girls. But they DO try and I have long said I can forgive a million nuances for someone who will try. So many little things are so different for them. .

I/O

I/O,
Good luck with this as Lena and I still have not got on the same page here.  I grew up during the "Cold War" where everyone stocked up on canned goods and nonperishables.  My parents would can peppers and tomatoes for the winter.  When I shop, I always buy 2 of everything except for fresh bread or fresh veggies/fruit.  Lena will buy (1) and the smallest (1) offered.  If you look in our fridge, half the containers are "jumbo" size and the other half "economy" size.  One guess who bought which.  Lena will literally go to the grocery store and purchase just what she plans for that night's dinner.
KenC

[KenC]

Just word word of advice from one who is still recovering from this sweekend's experience:  NEVER go shopping for bras with your RW.  You will never understand how they measure for those things anyway, and to try to translate the American numbering system and method of measurement into Russian is a hopeless and dangerous prospect.

 

Scott!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Are you nuts?  I love to shop with Lena for such things!  She understands that if I go, #1 I get to pick as many undergarments as I want for her and most important #2 I go into the dressing room!
KenC

[Misha]

Just word word of advice from one who is still recovering from this sweekend's experience:  NEVER go shopping for bras with your RW.  You will never understand how they measure for those things anyway, and to try to translate the American numbering system and method of measurement into Russian is a hopeless and dangerous prospect.

 

Go to a specialized store where they measure the women for the right bra size. You get the right size and unlike 90% of women your wife will have a bra that actually fits. It costs more, but it is worth it for her.

[SANDRO43]

Scott!!!!!!!!!!!!!... and most important #2 I go into the dressing room!

Depending of course on the relative dimensions of the dressing room and ...

[ScottinCrimea]

Not meaning to get too personal here, but unfortunately, most stores only carry up to a D cup size and these usually come with a "BBW" girth while my wife is fairly thin around the chest, and you all know how RW can be when they are frustrated.  I agree that the next stop is a specialty store and I need to learn the appropriate Russian words to properly explain everything.

I'm very happy for you KenC, but I personally prefer to watch her take such things off, not try them on. 

[KenC]

I don't know Scott, when I go to Victoria's Secrete with Lena, I always leave a happy man!
KenC

[ScottinCrimea]

I don't know Scott, when I go to Victoria's Secrete with Lena, I always leave a happy man!
KenC

Maybe I don't want to know what really goes on in that dressing room. 

[Misha]

Not meaning to get too personal here, but unfortunately, most stores only carry up to a D cup size and these usually come with a "BBW" girth while my wife is fairly thin around the chest, and you all know how RW can be when they are frustrated.  I agree that the next stop is a specialty store and I need to learn the appropriate Russian words to properly explain everything.

I'm very happy for you KenC, but I personally prefer to watch her take such things off, not try them on. 

We had the same problem. Our only option was the specialized store where they have 32E.

[ScottinCrimea]

What made me laugh was when my wife tried on a bra that was too small, saw things bulging out everywhere and said, "Oi, I look like a Mexican woman!"

[I/O]

FWIW mine looks mighty fine in or out of her "Victorias Secrets" and any other garmets for that matter.

Lena will literally go to the grocery store and purchase just what she plans for that night's dinner.

I muted this arguement to an extent when I suggested if she didn't want to buy more now, she could walk to buy whatever tomorrow. She thought that was a great idea for a few moments and then considered the reality. Her agreement to walk was quickly withdrawn and the trolley stocked to more appropriate levels.

There is three factors driving this IMO, one being the historic economic inability to buy far in advance, two being unused to substantial storage space in the home and three being that daily shopping is an excuse to dress up and go out.  The third should not be underestimated and it IS important for these girls. They are NOT home bodies, although well capable of keeping the home in fine order...................most of the time.

I/O

[I/O]

Three weeks into this and there is plenty of passion...!!! Yeah take that a couple of ways...!! Two Taureans together...go figure...!! However it is all good and even the disagreements (Of which there has always been many) bring us closer together.

There was something very early on during communications that told me this was a very special lady. I have had this confirmed many times during the past 2 + years, but more and more I am seeing the things which clued me in that she was a special one. Mainly that she is tough enough to put up with me and that is no easy task. For all the fun, romance and of course arguments and head clashing, there is an underlying kindness which I have never before seen in another person.

I guess most guys would say something similar, but I do suspect this "Underlying kindness" is something the Russian girls can hold proudly as being almost "Theirs and theirs alone".

It was really nice, if a little  :hairraising: as I ambled outside early this morning to bypass 11 pairs of shoes inside the back door instead of my usual 2 pairs.

I/O

[2tallbill]

Three weeks into this and there is plenty of passion...!!! Yeah take that a couple of ways...!! Two Taureans together...go figure...!! However it is all good and even the disagreements (Of which there has always been many) bring us closer together.

There was something very early on during communications that told me this was a very special lady. I have had this confirmed many times during the past 2 + years, but more and more I am seeing the things which clued me in that she was a special one. Mainly that she is tough enough to put up with me and that is no easy task. For all the fun, romance and of course arguments and head clashing, there is an underlying kindness which I have never before seen in another person.

I guess most guys would say something similar, but I do suspect this "Underlying kindness" is something the Russian girls can hold proudly as being almost "Theirs and theirs alone".

It was really nice, if a little  :hairraising: as I ambled outside early this morning to bypass 11 pairs of shoes inside the back door instead of my usual 2 pairs.

I/O

Yeah women have more shoes, but you lady doesn't have an Emelda Marcos problem.

Good luck,
Udachi


Bill