Wedding rings

[beachcomber556]

How do your wives view their wedding rings?  Are they considered important symbols of commitment, or more like just another piece of jewelry?  Are they worn every day, even when at home?  Or are they left in a cupboard or drawer, or maybe the jewelry box?   ???

[Misha]

How do your wives view their wedding rings?  Are they considered important symbols of commitment, or more like just another piece of jewelry?  Are they worn every day, even when at home?  Or are they left in a cupboard or drawer, or maybe the jewelry box?   ???

Well, they are a symbol of commitment. My wife always wears her wedding ring (except for washing and the like). She always wears it in in public and would never go out leaving it in a cupboard or drawer.

[Jet]

Lil does not wear her ring in the house. She would not dream of going out without it though, it's part of the ritual of "getting ready".

[jb]

Etna never takes it off.  She does have a couple of different diamond rings that change the appearance of her hands depending on how she's dressed, but the wedding band never comes off.

[I/O]

Her wedding ring comes off for no more than a moment of two for something such as rolling dough but other than that it is a permanent fixture.

I/O

[SANDRO43]

The first photo contains a profound psychological message: it takes a golden ring, to make a woman uncross her legs .

[Misha]

Beachcomber, if you permit me to ask, does your wife wear her wedding ring? It seems to me that it is not an innocent question. Does she not wear her ring and you are wondering whether this is a "cultural" thing?

[Gator]

After 5 1/2 years of knowing my Moscow woman, I finally gave her an engagement ring (shame on me, but I am trying to be a better man this time).   She loves it, and never takes it off, not even when doing the dishes.

I tell her that the soap is not good for the ring.  She answers that she uses good soap.

[AnastassiaAsh]

I never take off my ring other than when in the shower or during messy cooking. I wash dishes using gloves, so my ring is fine. More over my husband helps me washing dishes almost every day. 

I knew what i wanted, i chose it, I love it, I cherish it. I try not to forget to clean it when we go out. 

So, beachcomber556, please, share what's going on there with your wife?

[AnastassiaAsh]

After 5 1/2 years of knowing my Moscow woman, I finally gave her an engagement ring (shame on me, but I am trying to be a better man this time).   

  Gatorchik, how could you drag all this for so long!? 

[I/O]

Gatorchik, how could you drag all this for so long!? 

Gator has been accused of a few things recently, whether they are true or false is of no interest to me but I would like to accuse him / name him as RRWDP. Resident Russian Women Discussion Procrastinator. I've no doubt he would carry the title as a badge of honour...............maybe for some time yet?

I/O

[Gator]

Anastasia,

Gatorchik, how could you drag all this for so long!?

We were apart for 18 months, so it is only 4 years.      She's happy.  And the ring is a humdinger.




I/O,

No more procrastinating. I am committed, everything is in motion.  When?  This summer, something quiet, maybe Hawaii if the schedule allows.   

[AnastassiaAsh]

Anastasia,
We were apart for 18 months, so it is only 4 years.      She's happy.  And the ring is a humdinger.

Well, i had to look that one up. 

Congratulations, Gator! I hope the ring was worth waiting for 4 years.  Is it worth 1-2 months of salary, if i may ask you? Or did you do something different?

[KenC]

Anastasia,
 

We were apart for 18 months, so it is only 4 years.      She's happy.  And the ring is a humdinger.




I/O,

No more procrastinating. I am committed, everything is in motion.  When?  This summer, something quiet, maybe Hawaii if the schedule allows.   

Gator,
Schedule?  What f**ing schedule?  They do have golf in Hawaii too, you know.
 
Best of luck to you my friend.  If you have a layover in San Diego, give a shout out.
KenC

[Christian]

Gator,
Schedule?  What f**ing schedule?  They do have golf in Hawaii too, you know.
 
Best of luck to you my friend.  If you have a layover in San Diego, give a shout out.
KenC

Don't egg him on.  He's working on his procrastination.  Wait til they return.  He might even say they're busy/occupied!

Geeeez,

Christian

[Gator]

Anastasia,

Congratulations, Gator! I hope the ring was worth waiting for 4 years.   Is it worth 1-2 months of salary, if i may ask you? Or did you do something different?

You're such a woman!   

Number of months of salary?  Infinite.  I don't have a job, and any number divided by zero is infinity.

The story of the ring is interesting and it seems like destiny. You will probably like the story, so for you, here goes:

I came across the ring through a friend of friend.  He had it designed for his love, an AW.  He went to the finest jewelers in London and designed something special for her.  It is a large diamond resting on a crown of smaller diamonds, a crown befitting his "princess".  Plus a wedding band with a number of channel-set diamonds.  Excellent workmanship including diamonds in the prongs.  Lots of "fire."

His AW "princess" was rushing to catch a plane and inadvertently left the ring in a soapdish at his house.  The next day his lawyer called him.  The lawyer had been working on the marriage contract and doing due diligence.   The lawyer told him to come to his office.  He replied, "Tell me over the phone."  "No, you better come in." 

He went to the office and learned that she had not made a full disclosure, such as a prior marriage, two children and a few other small things.

Well, the ring came up for sale, but not to anybody.  The man had put so much of his heart into it that he wanted the two rings to find the hand of a loved woman.  I looked at it and took it to a gemologist for an appraisal and to my jeweler. 

Bottom line:  I got it for just over "melt-down, distress sale" price.  He was happy  because it found a good home.  When he handed over the ring to me, tears came to his eyes and he shuddered.  Love hurts!

Something else.  The rings are the same size as my woman's finger.  Destiny?

You hoped that the ring was worth the wait.  It sure did surprise her, as she was expecting something less substantial.  Seeing her eyes light up was worth it to me.   I am trying to be a better man.  That's what a good woman will do to you.

Being a Russian and not understanding the ring concept, she wanted to wear the wedding band as well. That took some explanation. 

 

[Erwin]

It sure did surprise her, as she was expecting something less substantial.  Seeing her eyes light up was worth it to me.   I am trying to be a better man.  That's what a good woman will do to you. Being a Russian and not understanding the ring concept, she wanted to wear the wedding band as well. That took some explanation. 

It took you long enough but you did it, Gator.  Best wishes to you and your fiancee! Seeing her eyes light up was PRICELESS...

Best,

E

[AnastassiaAsh]

Wow, what a story, Gator! I love it, yes i am such a woman! I am always excited to read when somebody got something so cool and great and for a great price! When it comes to rings this is so special and unforgettable. And it was even her size! Perfect!

Happy for both of you, Gator! 

When Tim proposed he gave me the ring of his late mother. It is very very special to him and it also fit perfectly.  Later we shopped for a wedding ring that i wear now. We got it from www.shaneco.com and went to Portland, Oregon to get it without paying sales tax, saved a lot! 

[Erwin]

Later we shopped for a wedding ring that i wear now. We got it from www.shaneco.com and went to Portland, Oregon to get it without paying sales tax, saved a lot! 

Anastasia,

Pardon my ignorance by does Portland not charge a sales tax?

Thanks,

E

[AnastassiaAsh]

Nope, Oregon doesn't have state sales tax....last time i checked. 

[Jumper]

Beachcomber-

i answered in the other thread-
but yes my wife, and all the other married RW ,or eastern european women ,
we know, all wear their wedding rings daily , and yes, as a symbol of commitment.
There maybe a time or given day they dont have it on for some reason, but  it is
not typical..

as stated in the other thread ,some do wear them on the right hand (orthodox style)
but most on the left.
 

[beachcomber556]

From the very beginning I knew that Vika had a difficult character.  She warned me of this many times.    So, I have made my bed, so now I must lay in it.  She wears it somedays, and others not.  As I said before, she claims it is too loose.  She has lost a little weight since we were married.  I am taking the wind out of her sails though regarding getting both rings sized. I located a very reputable high-end jeweler close to our home where she can have it sized and watch while they do it.  So much for her fear of nefarious deeds by unscrupulous goldsmiths.  We shall see how she responds to this proposal and then go on from there.  I will keep you all posted.  Thanks to all for your support.  It is greatly appreciated.

[Daveman]

From the very beginning I knew that Vika had a difficult character.  She warned me of this many times.    So, I have made my bed, so now I must lay in it.  She wears it somedays, and others not.  As I said before, she claims it is too loose.  She has lost a little weight since we were married.  I am taking the wind out of her sails though regarding getting both rings sized. I located a very reputable high-end jeweler close to our home where she can have it sized and watch while they do it.  So much for her fear of nefarious deeds by unscrupulous goldsmiths.  We shall see how she responds to this proposal and then go on from there.  I will keep you all posted.  Thanks to all for your support.  It is greatly appreciated.

Beachcomber... I hope everything works out for the best for you in this...  of course all we see is what you have posted, but, the lack of passionate kissing/touch, the network of FSU women friends, the infatuation with the GC, the wedding ring, the nitpicky argument starting (I think it was you who mentioned this in another thread) - man, all of this just gives me a mental picture of you sitting right in the middle of a hand basket, hanging on a hook over the gaping crevasse, flames licking upward - with Beelzebub's hand on the drop lever...

At the very least, I think you should seek some pro advice on how to protect yourself from some really serious madness she could pull on you later.  If it's nothing, then no problem, you've wasted a little money to gain some information ---- but if it IS something, much better to be prepared to for battle than to walk directly into the ambush.

Dave

[MaxxumUSA]

From the very beginning I knew that Vika had a difficult character.  She warned me of this many times.    So, I have made my bed, so now I must lay in it.  She wears it somedays, and others not.  As I said before, she claims it is too loose.  She has lost a little weight since we were married.  I am taking the wind out of her sails though regarding getting both rings sized. I located a very reputable high-end jeweler close to our home where she can have it sized and watch while they do it.  So much for her fear of nefarious deeds by unscrupulous goldsmiths.  We shall see how she responds to this proposal and then go on from there.  I will keep you all posted.  Thanks to all for your support.  It is greatly appreciated.

Dude...

Sorry...  Daveman put all of this together before I could.  Daveman is correct.

From the outside looking in...  It looks like you are definitely in a bad situation.   Seems that this woman is just not into you.

She has little/no respect for your feelings, your happiness, or your wishes.  I hope things turn around for you however from the looks of things from the outside looking in it seems you might just have yourself a GCG (green card girl).  If you're lucky she will get her GC and leave quietly.  If you're unlucky she may cost you 1/2 your shit and you might even end up in jail for something you didn't do.

Tread very carefully because from what we know so far - some serious crap might be around the corner - and you've already stepped in the piles before that corner.

FWIW - Some of the things you mentioned in threads here I would not tolerate for a second from ANY woman.  That includes a RW.

Did you ever tell us your age/her age?
How long did you know her before proposing?
How many times did you visit her?
Did you visit her home town?
Did you bond with her friends and family in Russia?
How often did you talk/communicate after your first visit to her?

Please answer the above if you have a minute. 

[Curious_George]

I've been reading this forum for a short while without registering until I came across this topic. Could someone please explain to me why is not wearing a wedding ring is an issue? I do understand that is it symbolic and (sometimes) is a work of art. I mean, if you wear it, good for you. But if you do not, why is it even an issue?

Kindly advise...