Belarus, Minsk
I didnt want to give up. Even though I didnt have the perfect experience in kiev i saw a lot of promise.
I just need to be a little more prepared. So I joined Lucky Lovers and kept looking on EM. both sites arent bad. After a month i meet a girl on LL named Alexandra. she is 21, 5'9" and 120lbs.
We got along well over the phone. Oh one thing guys on web dating. Try and get the phone number as soon as you can. This will advance you greatly if she is talking with other guys. One phone call could easily be 10 emails. During this time I think i talked to at least 7 or 8 different ladies on the phone.
My plan was to find a few ladies in the same city and go visit them, plus have an agency to go see if none of them worked out.
In two months i found two women. The second woman (photos below) Yulia is 21, 5'5" and 110lbs. one of the photos she is holding a teddy bear she bought me and the other my head is cut off. i'm sure you guys dont want to see my ugly mug!
I arrived meeting Alexandra at the airport. She was very friendly had been waiting for many hours before my plane arrived. Expect delays and time to get past custom. Unlike Ukraine you have to have a visa. Very similar if you go to Russia.
Good news is she was very sweet, bad news is i felt no fireworks from the beginning. I felt she was more like a good friend. Im the type of guy that knows if i like a girl within the first two minuets talking to her.
Now minisk is a lot cleaner it seemed then kiev. Then again minsk is a lot smaller them kiev. the flat was the same, an old building that was somewhat remodel. hard beds! i am not sure if i said this in the other post but it seems hard beds are very common so prepare yourself.
Oh so you know i found a website that assist in securing a flat. it was pretty simple. i used a credit card and it ended up 60 dollars a day.
Alexandra was great. she assist me getting settle in and we got a bite to eat. Still nothing but it a little sight seeing was still enjoyable. The food here like Ukraine is wonderful. Avoid american type places! This includes sushi (its very popular and most women would want to go here on a date). no reason to travel 3000 miles to eat the same food in America. Convince them to go to a normal place to eat. Also if you can help it, avoid expensive restaurants. This isnt to be cheap but the best food i ever had in ukraine and belarus was the common places they eat at. This is a balancing act because they would rather eat at a nice place, sushi or etc but i'm telling you try to sneak in were they go normally.
At the end of the date i tried to sneak a kiss but i just all cheek. ahh well. i told her lets see each other again the next day. I had to try one more time to see if there was anything, because she is a great girl. Oh and she never asked for cab fare to see me or etc.
Hey this is something ill be watching forever now.
the next day i gave Yulia a call in the morning and made arrangements to see her the next day. She doesnt live in minsk but actually 2 or 3 hours away by bus. She said yes and booked a ticket to see me the next day. Belarus has like a complex Grayhound sytem. They seemed to be always full and sometimes overfull.
So the day with Alexandra was pretty boring. The highlight was meeting another american name Ford. Yes i said Ford, like the car. He is a black guy that stuck out heavily in Minsk. I walked up to him and introduce myself. He was on a double date i think with another belarus girl and guy. Since i wasnt having that great of time i decide hey lets all go play pool! So we did.
The evening ended and agian i tried for a kiss and just got cheek. I should only get cheek anyway since i didnt really feel anything romantic towards her.
The next day. that morning i got a text message that Yulia was on her way. she arrived near my flat around noon. i ran out to meet her because she didnt want to meet at my flat. Oh just to you know, most russian women dont want to meet you in your flat and some of them sees this as disrespectful early on like the first date.
We saw each other and she was like sunshine. very bright, smiling, and just had that aura of warmth and happiness. She would be the girl that would brighten up the room when she entered. Now the opposite happened here. Fireworks all over the place. We didnt touch or anything but you if anyone was looking you could see the connection. to be honest i dont even remember what we talked about. I just know it was constant and in a blink it was nighttime.
I forgot. she refused for me to pay for her bus fare and she tried to paid for our meals and cabs!
Its now safe to say that the rest of the trip we spent with each other. She had to call into work and school. Hopefully she didnt get into to much trouble.
Now ive had physical attraction to russia women before that would mimic what i felt with yulia but there wasnt once that i thought she was there for any other reason just because of me. The reason why i say this is each one of you when you travel to russia and you are with a woman that yes there is no way a good looking woman like this would ever go out with you; You ask yourself inside why? Is she trying to get a visa, gifts or money? It is always in the back of your mind.
I learned about Yulia family. her dad owns a small store that sells toys and her mom is a director of a fitness gym. Oh, she also works at the fitness center as an instructor. No fat on her! to bad i cant say the same...
the rest of the week went really fast. One thing that stands out is her sneaking out early in the morning to buy groceries to make me breakfast.
One thing about russian women is if they like you they will show it. They will make you feel like a king, and that is one thing i never found in american women. They will tend to all of your needs, care for you and as long as you respect them, take care of them and dont cheat! With that you have a huge advantage over russian men.
I dont think there was one russian woman that didnt tell me they didnt like russian guys because they were either liers, cheaters, drunks or all of the above.
Another odd thing i figure out is it seems many russian women dont have true russian women friends. Ive asked to many woman that i met and they all seem to say the common thing in private with me. Ill try to explain: they say that just for hanging out for fun they have woman friends but they know if they really need them for help they may not be there, or if something really good happens to them they know their woman friends will be very jealous and often do things to bring them down. I know this sounds odd but i hear it a lot.
Here is a Ukraine joke that was told to me on my trip to kiev by my taxi driver Val (his photo is on the other post): (i am not telling this joke to offend but just to share my experience)
A warden is making his rounds in the jail. A new prison guard is with him. They go over to the first pit of Americans. They lower down a ladder to give them food, and supplies for the day. They then pull the ladder back up. Then the warder and guard walk over to the next pit of Germans. They lower down the ladder and do the same thing. After they are done they walk over to the pit of Ukraines. The guard notices the ladder already there. He figures it was lowered right before they arrived. After bringing down the supplies they leave but they dont bring up the ladder. The guard tells the warden "You forgot the ladder", and the warden replies "We dont need to bring it up, just watch". The guard waits and watches. After some time goes by he sees a Ukraine starts climbing up the ladder but when he gets to high another Ukraine pulls him back down and tries to climb up himself...
So now i am back home and (knock on wood) i still communicate by email, voice, or sms everyday with Yulia. We seemed to be getting closer when we are apart which is unexpected. I am planning my next trip to belarus at the end of may just to see her and for the first time her family. I will be staying in their home so if any experience guy or russian woman have any tips on russian mom's and dads let me know
Wish me Luck,
John
