Confessions of a Sex Tourist / Scammers addict

[Misha]

I think "ST" has the ability to be a great writer if he is not already?

I don't know. Sorry, but I don't see the "greatness" in the posts that Sex Tourist has authored.

Is it fiction? Is it real?

If it is was fiction, then I do not see the use of it all.

If it was real (at least in part), then I am left a bit saddened by the treatment of Yuliya. Even if Sex Tourist treated her only half-as-bad as depicted in his post, then you have a woman who was used and dumped by ST as he tries to work out his psychological issues.

[Makkin]

Misha,

  It seems logical that a good writer or a thinker type of person would in effect attempt to bring out an emotional response from you. If the writer chooses to bring out a negative feeling it's not too difficult right?
  If it's fiction then the reality is close enough to leave a person in a way that he or she cannot be sure about the authenticity and there comes the ability to write.

  If you sit in a coffee shop looking to learn dialogeee..sp from everyday people talking then it would not work in your writing because writing is vastly different from real life dialoggg.

   "ST" has shown good ability in this regard and it's something a writer needs to do well.


   My guess is that "ST" is rather introverted in some aspects but his mind works very well. He may or may not be well read but he is well taught in writing or has practiced well. Sometimes those that read too much tend to not be able to write in the effect that he does unless they copy a style of another writer but his humor and the way his writing is presented leaves that "out". Authentic writer indeed.

Makkin

[Misha]

"ST" has shown good ability in this regard and it's something a writer needs to do well.

Feel free to start the ST Fan Club if you wish. However, if I want to read a great writer, I can go to my local library or bookstore. 

[Gator]

Gator, writer's write because they have to.    It is a release for them.  Like an addiction of smoking or booze, they can't help themselves.  You see the same addiction to writing in the posters here who have over 3,000 posts.

I did not write it.  Yes, I have 3000 posts.  Those accumulated one hour on one day, 15 minutes on another, and maybe 4 on a weekend, and more if raining.  This story would have required a serious effort to write and to get some material (e. g., writing scammers to get their photos). 

Having authored a 1000-page acclaimed textbook, I know what is involved with serious writing.  I almost never finished the textbook because I do not have writer's addiction. 

Again, if fiction this guy needs to get back on his horse and complete his objective because the story is not annoying.

[Simoni]

  Simoni,

   I think "ST" has the ability to be a great writer if he is not already? I would regard your opinion very highly in this?

Makkin

I don't know. Sorry, but I don't see the "greatness" in the posts that Sex Tourist has authored.

Misha, the question was a personal, inside one directed to me, not you.

However, I was not the first to notice the power of ST's story:

If you read closely, behind the sarcasm there is a huge amount of sorrow, cynicism, and shame.

Good writers "hook" and "involve" readers.  Look's like he got you...

If it was real (at least in part), then I am left a bit saddened by the treatment of Yuliya. Even if Sex Tourist treated her only half-as-bad as depicted in his post, then you have a woman who was used and dumped by ST as he tries to work out his psychological issues.

   

[Simoni]

I did not write it. 

Yeah, I know you did not write it, Gator.

You have a newly arrived RW on hand and too many things on your "honey do" list to do such writing.

Now, off you go to PETCO to get the dogfood!

[SMS60]

Once upon a time on a cold, damp, overcast day in the suburbs of a mid size city sat a lonely young man in a damp, musky smelling room. He was called Sex Tourist.

He sat in front of his computer in the basement of his parents house surfing the internet with a bag of Fritos on the right side of the keyboard and a 2 litre Coke on the left. His greasy fingers slid across the keyboard to seek the next thrill on the net. The rest is history.

[Makkin]

LOL...But where is the difficult diologg...?

[Simoni]

Why to sex exactly with Russian women?    May be because... 

I loved your post, Olga!    LOL

[Diplomacy]

The parents are yelling at him to get a job and move out of the basement.  FSUW want social standing, they also yell!

I do not think it was random.  Some member, or someone that was there.

I feel for Yulia, she put up with a lot in the story.  Of course if she was withholding the fact she could not get pregnant.  That one is a dangerous line, how many women leave men for not wanting children?

I ended my last relationship for that very same reason.  It was career and no children at the end.  Not what I wanted, I ended it.  I would have resented her for it and I knew it.  So, I could see where that starts.

On the other side, it seems like he is in need for someone all the time.  So serious dependency candidate.  Yet, probably resentment towards women.  So dependent and then off she goes.  Next in line please!

Sad, of course the attack on the thread brought me here.  I thought it was Pike messing around by the title.  It still could be, he evolved into what he is.  By reports very awkward to those who met him after most of this took place.

He knows how to give attention to women that are starved for it.  No big mystery there.  Of course now I am not having good manners.  Remember pike seems to que on specific issues with teeth, or other blemish

[Misha]

I would also point out the strong paranoia that runs throughout all that Sex Tourist writes. IMHO, he is not a man who knows how to trust, and this will make it impossible to have a real long-term relationship with any woman.

Also, I see a common theme: he begins looking for a woman just before he dumps the woman he is with. Yulia was not on the plane when he was already looking for another RW.

All told, I would feel sorry for any woman RW or otherwise who would be involved with Sex Tourist real or otherwise.

[facetrock]

   I havent been here for a long long time. Most will not remember me, I was alot more active on the other board.
Reading this thread was interesting. ST is a good writer and he reminds me of a guy from the other board who used to always talk of exchanging body fluids:) I swear to God the writing is the same style and the time frame with which he was talking about is the same.
He said he used to post on another board. Maybe some of the guys that used to post there will think of his name.

 Much of what he says has some truth to it but not absolute truth. I do not believe this man is a sex addict. In fact I think him talking about having sex with the women was to annoy some and entertain others. Tounge in cheek is the impression I got from reading his posts when he talked about sex.

 His talk of commincating with scammers was entertaining, at best it was some light hearted fun for him. A lot of men that have had some experience with this quest have led a scammer or two on a few Western Union confirmation number chases. I have a few times. Call it boredom or just wasting time on a late night, it doesnt matter, its my time to waste.

But he did take the ultimate plunge and married an FSU woman. By reading the posts its easy to see how he blew the marriage. She was bored out of her mind and the culture shock was driving her insane. Her big secret that she could not have children didnt really bother him, I dont recall him ever saying it did.  Yes she should have told him but the guy was near 50 and had 2 children already. I think it would have been a relief for him.

 The part about the mother in law. Now that can be a deal breaker and it was for me.

A few years ago I was engaged to a very good lady from Ukraine. But she was an only child from a divorced family. Blood is thicker than water and to her mother, her daughter was her life. Her daughter is what she lived for and after spending enough time in the FSU and understanding the culture I can see why.

What else does a woman in her late fifties have left in Ukraine? Virtually no chance of getting married again. If her daughter would have left for me, she would have lost the one thing that gave her a desire to live. At first I didnt think if would be that big of a problem, but as time went by I realized the fight for her would destroy her mother and possibly my fiancee. She loved her mother unconditionaly and the thought of leaving her mother to become a lonely old lady was to much for her. However, she would have made the trip here. But I have some life experience and knew what the outcome could be. I didnt want to be the reason why her mother was alone in Ukraine and my instinct told me this would always be a huge issue between us. So I ended the relationship. Wasnt an easy thing to do but I think it was for the best. Family means everything in the FSU.

Anyway back to ST.

He stated that on his first trip he had a woman basically use him for sex and get a little money out of him. So be it, it sounds like they used each other, she got a free all expense paid vacation and he got a tour guide he could have sex with.

About a year ago I went to Russia to meet another woman. In a few days I learned she never really planned on moving away. How did I learn this? I asked one day in my apartment. She said she really never wanted to move from Russia. I asked her what she wanted from me? Money? Shopping? She got this funny smile on her face as she shook her head no and within minutes I knew exactly what she wanted. So for the next five days that pretty much all we did. Call me shallow, a sex tourist or whatever you want. This woman just wanted to get laid. A lot. Now at first I was hoping this meeting would be the start of a relationship but I have learned to keep my emotions in check so there is no huge dissapointment if it doesnt work. She never asked for money, in fact she wanted to pay most of her own way, and I let her. She wasnt rich, lived with her parents and worked as a bank teller. She did tell me if I would move to Russia she would take the relationship very seriously though. But what the hell would I do there? I dont speak the language and the work I do here would only pay me enough to eat there. So the rest of the trip we had fun together. Did what we wanted to do and there were no tears at the airport. Well she wasnt a scammer. It was the cheapest trip I have ever been on. So does this make me a sex tourist? Or is she a sex tourist? Who is the bad person here? Is it her for having me come 5 thousand miles just to satisfy her or is it me for not saying forget it as soon as what I learned what she really wanted. Or did she think if she screwed me to death I would immediatly move to Russia to be with her. Or did it end up being two adults that realized it would not work and just decide to have fun together.

Most men here and most women have had a one night stand at some point in their lives. I think I had one that lasted 5 days.
Flame away. I did what I did and really dont feel guilty about it. Was it a wasteof time and a trip? Yes definetly. But then it is my time and trip to waste.

I guess what I am trying to say is that when you go to the FSU, sometimes things turn out not even close to what you have planned.

ST might have made some bad choices with women, Some women might have made a bad choice in him. I am not condoning his actions or condemning them. He is what he is and by the way he writes no one here will ever change him.

[Daveman]

 
Flame away. I did what I did and really dont feel guilty about it. Was it a wasteof time and a trip? Yes definetly. But then it is my time and trip to waste.

I think there is a big deal made sometimes about "sex tourism". Sometimes it is valid and sometimes not.  Lying to a lady, i.e., leading her to believe one is looking for a long term relationship possibly leading to marriage when in actuality sex is the only goal is a fecal headed stunt, but as long as she is a willing participant then what goes on between two consenting adults is their business and more power to 'em for whatever they do.

The original post was a little bizarre, but entertaining nonetheless.  But I do think I'd go for the catastrophic castration before becoming addicted to scammers.   

[facetrock]

I really dont think the guy is addicted to scammers. Does he play with them for entertainment? Yes he does.  Between me and the lady from Russia there were no illusions. She knew what she wanted and knew I would never move to Russia. I can see through STs comedy. Most of what he wrote was purely for entertainment. He failed with his marriage to an FSU women and I think he knows how he failed. By telling his story as a comedy might have made it easier for him to tell it.