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[Sculpto]

Thank you guys for trying to save me from myself.  LOL!

Lots of great critiques based on the available information.

Some of you might even be right. 

But.... all the world is a stage and I have no intentions of living any less of a theatrical performance than I am capable of.  Period.

Someone asked about my exhibition schedule.  I don't exhibit.  Most of the work I do has no salable value, though, I have started painting lately so who knows what will come of that.  Conceptual art is like that.. can not be sold.. isn't for sale.. nothing to buy.. not documented, exists in a small window of time.. hard to quantify.. hard to explain and often harder to understand. 

Others are making predicitons about what will or will not happen.  Hey, if it makes you feel good to do so go right ahead.  But, it doesn't apply to me.  Why?  Because I choose not to let it apply.  I have done things my way for the last 27 years or so and it hasn't worked out too badly.  So, I don't see any reason to change.. because change is coming anyway and my ability to adapt to the coming changes, without being arrogant, are far greater than most of you.

Someone said the Gf will be this way or that way.. well.. who the heck knows how she is or will be.  What I do know is she has proven to be very loyal and is smart enough to create a dynamic and evolving dialogue with me.  That is exactly what I want and need.  So, let her change and grow and challenge me to step up my game as the situation requires.  AWESOME!  Thats exactly what I want from a life mate.

Back when I was a younger man I chose women based on one simple parameter.. were they beautiful and sexy.  I didn't care much what was inside.  I had a lot of fun, more than most of you could ever dream about.  But, there came a point when someone got to me and my heart ended up broken.  I learned a lot from that and have spent years defining and refining what I really want from a woman.  Finding someone that fits is practically a miracle.  It wouldn't matter what her age is, just happens the one I found is young.  Young people can have ancient souls.

Someone thinks she is just saying what i want to hear.  My god could you ever be more wrong.  On the contrary, she has her own ideas about how things should be and not all of them fit.  But, the things she expects me to compromise on are within the realm of what I can do.  I know there are things about me that she sees as imperfect, but, she is clearly willing to compromise on those issues.  So, we move on, to the next level of connection and the ongoing evolution.  AWESOME! 

Someone wants to lie on their death bed and let someone spoon feed them and change their diapers.  That is not living and I refuse to do it.  Should I ever become invalid it would be the WORST scenario I can imagine.  That doesn't mean I am not taking care of myself or that i have a death wish, it simply means when it is my time I will go out with dignity, not with diapers and sponge baths and bed sores. 

As far as finding short term lovers.. Misha.. dude you couldn't be further from the truth.  SF is filled with exactly such people.  If I wanted to I could have a different lover every week.  But, I do nto want it.  I have been there and done that.  I have a huge circle of people who live the polyamorous lifestyle.  There are parts of this town where the "incest" is so rampant one better hope no one has "something" because everyone is going to get it.  I have no need or desire to participate in such decadence.  As I said, been there done that.  What is a lot harder to find here is someone who understands loyalty, commitment, long term evolution, long term support, long term anything.  10 years ago I thought it was my last chance at love, with a woman from here that thought she wanted to change.  But, at the end of the day, she didn't want to change and was incapable of change.  Since that time I have had plenty of opportunities wiht women of a variety of ages.  Let me tell you something.. before I met "A" I did have a local girl from the Bay Area.  Met her when she was 19.  The differences between her way of being and "A" is so vast I could not even begin to explain.  Ultimately she epitomized the gold digging self absorbed shrew that pushed a lot of us to look for love outside in the US in the first place.  When I went to see "A" last fall I had a giant fear that she would turn out like that, but, on the contrary, she didn't.  She was serious, generous to a fault, shrewd, not a shrew, creative, exciting, fun and very very real.  All that has happened since she was attacked in December has been really hard on the relationship but somehow we have made it through.  She isn't looking for a ticket out of Russia, or a free meal ticket.  What she is accepting into her life is the realization that we match.  She is difficult and so am I.  We have accepted each other for what we are.  That makes me one lucky dude.

[Misha]

If I wanted to I could have a different lover every week.  But, I do nto want it.  I have been there and done that.  I have a huge circle of people who live the polyamorous lifestyle. 

Well, if you read what I said, I did not say with any woman, but specified 20-year-old women. I could have easily have found a new woman every week if I had been interested in 45+ year old cougars even in my small city. Maybe even 2 or 3 per week 

[Sculpto]

Misha, its not that hard to find AWs under 25 that are willing and even prefer older guys.  I have done it enough to know.  In fact in SF it is easier for me to get dates with women from 20-30 than it is with women my own age simply because the cougars my age are all going for guys 20-30.  heck when I was 20 I was with a woman of 39 for two years.  In many ways what I have been looking for is a woman with the potential to have the qualities she had.

The difference between an AW 20-30 and an FSUW 20-30 is gigantic. 

[Misha]

Misha, its not that hard to find AWs under 25 that are willing and even prefer older guys. 

Yes, for stability, for money, etc...

The difference between an AW 20-30 and an FSUW 20-30 is gigantic. 

What are they?

[Sculpto]

Yes, for stability, for money, etc...

What are they?

Umm no.. usually it is for two main reasons.. older guys listen to them and give them more attention without the usual games.. and some of them understand that older guys have more expeirence in bed and will be more interested in their pleasure than the typical 22 year old guy with raging hormones and little experience.  Misha.. don't forget I am not even close to being a millionaire.. I live in a modest two bedroom and don't eat at Flor de Lys.  So, if I have been able on multiple occasions to attract good looking young women it certainly isnt becuase I was buying them gifts and wining and dining them.  Ihad one bad experience which I spoke about in another post... and even then the first year was awesome but she was FOB from China and got corrupted and turned into a gold digger. 

The most important difference between women 20-30 here and in the FSU is the level of crap they have had to deal with in life.  In the FSU they are riding public transport to get to and from school, they have a limited amount of clothing, they live in much smaller spaces and they learn from their parents how to do without a lot of luxuries that are completely taken for granted here.  here, it is hard to find a yung woman 20-30 that has any clue about much of anything.  And oddly, the ones that are often attracted to older guys are usually the most mature and they still don't even come close to FSUWs in the same age bracket.

Its really all the same things that attract us to FSUWs in the first place, just younger.

[ScottinCrimea]

Funny how you day this:

  I have done things my way for the last 27 years or so and it hasn't worked out too badly. 

and then go on to say this:

But, there came a point when someone got to me and my heart ended up broken.  I learned a lot from that and have spent years defining and refining what I really want from a woman. 

and

Let me tell you something.. before I met "A" I did have a local girl from the Bay Area.  Met her when she was 19.  The differences between her way of being and "A" is so vast I could not even begin to explain.  Ultimately she epitomized the gold digging self absorbed shrew that pushed a lot of us to look for love outside in the US in the first place.

The bottom line is that now, 10 years later, you are still alone.  It doesn't sound to me like the last 27 years have gone so well.

I could go back through your posts and list all of the contradictions and inconsistencies in what you are saying, but it would take way too much time.

As someone else noted, and as you now freely admit, you see this relationship as some sort of a miracle and most likely your last chance at finding your fantasy.  Who are we to burst your bubble?

[Misha]

some of them understand that older guys have more expeirence in bed and will be more interested in their pleasure than the typical 22 year old guy with raging hormones and little experience. 

Isn't this what all 40-year-old men chasing 20-year-old women want to believe  :evil: It is sex not brain surgery. Given the rapidity with which young people gain sexual maturity, I would guess that the average 22-year-old men has had years of experience and has learned all that he has to know  So, I don't buy the old experience canard.

Ihad one bad experience which I spoke about in another post... and even then the first year was awesome but she was FOB from China and got corrupted and turned into a gold digger.

FOB? Sorry, don't know this acronym. 

The most important difference between women 20-30 here and in the FSU is the level of crap they have had to deal with in life.  In the FSU they are riding public transport to get to and from school, they have a limited amount of clothing, they live in much smaller spaces and they learn from their parents how to do without a lot of luxuries that are completely taken for granted here.

Just to play the Devil's advocate, I would say that there are many such young women in the USA, even in SF, they are, what is that word for it, POOR LOL! I am sure that not every young 20-year-old in SF grew up in a McMansion and was given a car at the age of 16.

And oddly, the ones that are often attracted to older guys are usually the most mature and they still don't even come close to FSUWs in the same age bracket.

Or perhaps you can project more onto the young women in the FSUW because they are more distant geographically and you do not speak the same language?

[Sculpto]

Scott.. who the heck do you think you are?  Damn dude.. you don't know me IRL.. you don't know what my daily life is all about.  Your comments are mean spirited and designed to be hurtfull.  Every once in a while I think you are ok, and then you come back with this kind of garbage.  

I didn't even consider marriage as something I wanted until not so long ago.  I always assumed I would have different women.  But, you want to know what really changed my mind?  Real simple.. my brother got married and even though he is not very happy with his wife the relationship he has with his kids is awesome.  That was what got me thinking that maybe, just maybe, there was someone I could connect with on a level deep enough to have that reward in life.  

What do you think you are "saving" me from?  A train wreck?  That is not going to happen.  I might get married to this woman, I might not.  We might get married and divorce a year or two later, or, we might spend the rest of our lives together.  But what gives you the right to inject your opinion in this way?  Sorry, you don't have it.  I would rather go forward and take the chance of failing than pass up on someone who I think is the right person.  I am well aware of the risks I am taking and i am taking those risks knowing it could blow up in my face.  I don't think they will.  In my calculations I have a better chance for success than failure, otherwise I would have given up already.

I am not asking you to live my life.  it wouldn't fit you.  Just the same as your life wouldn't fit me.  

[Wienerin]

I know.  Well, I just got a lecture from her about "dirty americans".  She said..

"All Russian women in America say Americans dirty"

then she told me if she doesn't like how I clean I will pay her to clean the house.

She is young in years my friends.. and maybe is immature about dealing with problems.. but.. this woman is no-bodies fool and she knows what she wants.  She is awesome!

Oh, I'm soooo lucky! I don't know any Russian women (I mean as friends - those whose opinion I'd value) or men either who are capable of uttering such rubbish about any nation as a whole (who BTW compelled these RW to live with "dirty Americans"?)

And again, SCULPTO, I have to marvel at you. You were perfectly capable of finding prejudice and ignorance and a miriad other unpleasantness in what I wrote - and here you are admiring such blind ignorance... Well, love, I understand... but I'm sad nonetheless. You semm a nice enough guy, a tad naive and immature, but... still deserving better. Or is it a desirable liberal quality - to admire every underhand shot (however undeserved) at the US?

But let's talk about real business. Here you say, that you intend to do live with your future bride in tribal Mexico. How do you propose to do it? Your wife should be living in the USA - you know, this pesky requirement for a Permanent Resident Alien Card. And for a long period of time too until she can get her citizenship. AND she'll have to get Mexican visas even when she already has her green card, AND better nor stay outside the US for more than 6 mos - lest she loses it and won't be admitted back to the US. And out of 3 years with a GC which are required for naturalization as your wife, she'd better not spend more than 1.5 years outside of the US - or she won't be able to apply for naturalization.

Dancing in flames in a desert isn't all there is to this game, man  

[Sculpto]

Isn't this what all 40-year-old men chasing 20-year-old women want to believe  :evil: It is sex not brain surgery. Given the rapidity with which young people gain sexual maturity, I would guess that the average 22-year-old men has had years of experience and has learned all that he has to know  So, I don't buy the old experience canard.

Misha I know from experience.  I don't want or need to give you or anyone else a lecture on the capacity for pleasure the human body is capable of, but, sorry, 22 year old guys don't have the virtuosity to really make the instrument sing.. in general of course.  Always exceptions.. so anyway, you don't have to buy it but i know what I have experienced and have been told.

FOB? Sorry, don't know this acronym. 

Fresh Off Boat

Just to play the Devil's advocate, I would say that there are many such young women in the USA, even in SF, they are, what is that word for it, POOR LOL! I am sure that not every young 20-year-old in SF grew up in a McMansion and was given a car at the age of 16.

There are a lot of other influences Misha.  It is hard to explain.  But, maybe the best exaplanation I can give is related to the FOB girl.  I met her randomly at the botanic garden.  In fact she was kind of annoying and kept following me around.  Finally I relaxed and ended up spending a nice afternoon with her.  When it was time to go she insisted on giving me her phone number.  I asked her, "why are you interested in me, I am twice your age?"  She replied, "all the people here my age are really stupid, I don't like what they like and they only talk about clothes and fashion and movie stars.  I need someone I can talk to about real things"  She came from Nanking and had been here about 4 months.  Her educational/intellectual superiority to Americans her age was astonishing.  Personally i think it was her sitting around watching TV all day that "spoiled" her and gave her "ideas" that led her down a negative path.  

Or perhaps you can project more onto the young women in the FSUW because they are more distant geographically and you do not speak the same language?

you know, I can only speak about the ladies I have met.  When i was in Donetsk besides the Nigerians and all the girls he introduced me to, who were mostly party girls and a lot like Americans, I met a group that I spent a lot of time with.  One guy and two girls.  They were all about 21-23.  One of the girls was a princess like any girl here, but the other one, the quiet one, she was different and exemplifies what I am talking about.  She was emotionally mature, focused on her goals, loyal to her family and modest in her needs.  The only negative I could say about her is she was really jaded about guys.  The lady who served as my guide in Odessa was 23 at the time I met her.  I can say all the same about her as well including her jaded perspective about guys.  Her only "defect" was she lived way too much in the moment and was prone to blowing off things like exams when someone like me showed up in Odessa.  Cool for me because I had an awesome guide, but, I know she suffered for it and had to give her Prof. some "favors" so she could take her exams.  

[Misha]

There are a lot of other influences Misha.  It is hard to explain.  But, maybe the best exaplanation I can give is related to the FOB girl.  I met her randomly at the botanic garden.  In fact she was kind of annoying and kept following me around. ...

So, the type of relationships are with women FOB who follow you around and are willing to be extremely fawning and follow everything that you say and do?

[Sculpto]

Oh, I'm soooo lucky! I don't know any Russian women (I mean as friends - those whose opinion I'd value) or men either who are capable of uttering such rubbish about any nation as a whole (who BTW compelled these RW to live with "dirty Americans"?)

And again, SCULPTO, I have to marvel at you. You were perfectly capable of finding prejudice and ignorance and a miriad other unpleasantness in what I wrote - and here you are admiring such blind ignorance... Well, love, I understand... but I'm sad nonetheless. You semm a nice enough guy, a tad naive and immature, but... still deserving better. Or is it a desirable liberal quality - to admire every underhand shot (however undeserved) at the US?

But let's talk about real business. Here you say, that you intend to do live with your future bride in tribal Mexico. How do you propose to do it? Your wife should be living in the USA - you know, this pesky requirement for a Permanent Resident Alien Card. And for a long period of time too until she can get her citizenship. AND she'll have to get Mexican visas even when she already has her green card, AND better nor stay outside the US for more than 6 mos - lest she loses it and won't be admitted back to the US. And out of 3 years with a GC which are required for naturalization as your wife, she'd better not spend more than 1.5 years outside of the US - or she won't be able to apply for naturalization.

Dancing in flames in a desert isn't all there is to this game, man  

First of all she is not looking to give up Russian citizenship.  Second of all it is entirely possible within Mexico to maintain the required status because I own property there and can meet the requirements of mexican Migra to be in that country legally.  As hostile as the US embassy in Mexico is to Mexicans they are actually quite helpfull to Americans, especially ones that are conducting business and making money in Mexico.  so, that should not be a problem.

That she makes comments about the US doesn't bother me very much.  Things here are very different than she can possibly understand from her point of view in Siberia, especially here in San Francisco.  Imagine her suprise when she realizes there are more Chinese her than White people.  Imagine her surprise when she realizes I wasn't joking that people speak dozens of different languages.  And imagine her surprise when she realizes that despite whatever rumors she has heard I am not dirty.  She will go through the normal culture shock and she will adapt.  As soon as her visa allows we will make our first trip to Mexico and she will see what I have been raving about.  Mexico is a big country and not all of it is destitute.  The place I want to live is a charming colonial city high in the mountains with a very healthy local economy based on local production of almost everyting consumed.  It is a very healthy and peaceful place to live.  

And by the way.. in case you didn't know it.. some Americans really do live like pigs.  

[Daveman]

...and even then the first year was awesome but she was FOB from China and got corrupted and turned into a gold digger. 

The first year is the year of passion, euphoria, brain chemically induced and hormonal hysteria -- seeing the best and deleting or rationalizing away the flaws... the second year is when we actually open our eyes to reality.  Sometimes a little sooner or later on the time line, but fairly close.  Which is why many relationship 'experts' (whether we believe them or not) adamantly suggest not to marry prior to completing your second year in a relationship.  The compressed nature of this venture can cause problems with that, especially with some of the biological clocks ticking loudly across so many time zones, but the true nature of the beast is too often disguised by rationalization.

I would love for you to come back with a major success story from this, actually finding your mate in every aspect, but just another friendly reminder... watch those excuses... and CYA  

[Sculpto]

So, the type of relationships are with women FOB who follow you around and are willing to be extremely fawning and follow everything that you say and do?

She followed me around once, believe me, there was nothing fawning about that girl.  She had a certain asian sweetness to her at first, but, if you know anything about dating Chinese women and what happens to them when they are in a secure relationship.. well.. let me just say this.. they aren't Russian women.  They want to be barefoot wives and they nag a lot.  At least 40% of my clients are AMs with usually Chinese women.  You wouldn't even believe the crap I see, and, when I see it I am totally reminded of how she became after she got comfortable.  Two weeks ago I had a consult with such a couple.  That woman was unbearable, openly and repeatedly insulted her husband in front of me and showed no respect or shame at the rotten way she treated him.  then, she got up and left, they came in seperate cars and the poor guy then apologized profusely for her.  I felt really bad for him because I know exactly what he was going through having lived with the same kind of rotten behavior.  The poor man was so beaten down as to have become a shadow of himself.  

And, Misha, if you have followed anything I have written in these threads it is quite clear the "A" is not that kind of woman.  She has her own complexities which I am beginning to understand quite well and getting a lot better at managing to my benefit.  

[Misha]

And, Misha, if you have followed anything I have written in these threads it is quite clear the "A" is not that kind of woman.  She has her own complexities which I am beginning to understand quite well and getting a lot better at managing to my benefit.  

To be honest, I sometimes wonder whether you need a woman to be your equal and your wife, or whether you are looking for a devotee

[Sculpto]

The first year is the year of passion, euphoria, brain chemically induced and hormonal hysteria -- seeing the best and deleting or rationalizing away the flaws... the second year is when we actually open our eyes to reality.  Sometimes a little sooner or later on the time line, but fairly close.  Which is why many relationship 'experts' (whether we believe them or not) adamantly suggest not to marry prior to completing your second year in a relationship.  The compressed nature of this venture can cause problems with that, especially with some of the biological clocks ticking loudly across so many time zones, but the true nature of the beast is too often disguised by rationalization.

I would love for you to come back with a major success story from this, actually finding your mate in every aspect, but just another friendly reminder... watch those excuses... and CYA  

Dave.. thanks for a rational post.  See, what everyone is missing here is even if I am in love with this girl, with her faults and the problems that have taken place over the last couple of months, if things don't go right when I visit her in a couple of weeks I will pull the plug. I have dated younger women and i have brought someone from another country over before.  I know very clearly what the risks are, and what things I can not tolerate.  Sheesh, I managed to get to my age without getting married and there have been a few women who tried real hard to lock me up.  Breaking up is easy for me.. its the staying together that isn't so easy.  I am a free spirit.. blow with the wind.. do what I want and not always recognizing the consequences.  But, this time, there is a really big difference in that I am being deliberate, focused on the right outcome for myself and am not willing to sacrifice the next chapter of my life to something that doesn't have certain basic components that I believe, in my very peculiar circumstances, will lead to success.

here is a little song that says it better than i can... thanks to incubus for their wisdom...

Tonight we drink to youth
And holding fast to truth
(I don't want to lose what I had as a boy.)
My heart still has a beat
But love is now a feat.
(As common as a cold day in LA.)
Sometimes when I'm alone, I wonder
Is there a spell that I am under
Keeping me from seeing the real thing?

Love hurts...
But sometimes it's a good hurt
And it feels like I'm alive.
Love sings,
When it transcends the bad things.
Have a heart and try me,
'cause without love I won't survive.

I'm fettered and abused,
I stand naked and accused
(Should I surface this one man submarine?)
I only want the truth
So tonight we drink to youth!
(I'll never lose what I had as a boy.)
Sometimes when I'm alone I wonder
Is there a spell that I am under
Keeping me from seeing the real thing?

Love hurts...
But sometimes it's a good hurt
And it feels like I'm alive.
Love sings,
When it transcends the bad things.
Have a heart and try me,
'cause without love I won't survive

[Sculpto]

To be honest, I sometimes wonder whether you need a woman to be your equal and your wife, or whether you are looking for a devotee

hahaha and not so long ago I was being accused of lacking self esteem..

actually, I really want a woman who is a challenge.. and i think I have one.  And trust me on this.. "A" is not going to be anyones play toy, ever.  She is extremely strong willed and she will make me earn her love every day.  That is what I want because otherwise I will get bored wit her, no matter how young and beautiful she is.

BTW.. I have had devotees.. and at a certain point about ten years ago I had enough with it and I pulled out of the "scene", but, all I have to do is show up in certain circles and the same crap will start all over again.  Groupies suck.  They are vampires that take and take under the guise of giving.  You can describe what my situation was as something like a creative candyman.. if you understand the coding.. but I decided to take the candy away and force those hangers on to see reality and some of them literally flipped out.  so much emptiness and escapeism, but they were beuatiful.  Andy Warhol said the goal of the artist is to be famous and have beautiful lovers.  Andy was an ass.  There is a lot more to life.

[Sculpto]

incubus "love hurts"  for those who still rock and roll

[Wienerin]

I would not want my girl to get a negative impression because of the

behavior of some ghetto dwelling morons

which might hurt friendships I have with responsible people of the same ethnicities.

Oh, great! So when I do not like my nice neighborhood turning into a barrio - I'm prejudiced and do not appreciate the nicer parts of a tribal culture delivered at my doorstep courtesy of illigal trail across Rio Grande. And here our nice enlightened liberal soul is spouting about ghetto dwelling morons who could be unpleasant to his Russian love. Beautiful.

By the way - your information (via your girl and some strange "research" with the stranger still "experts") about Armenians is such ill-informed and stupid gibberish, that I am frankly at a loss to quantify your intelligence. What nasty idiot told you abour "honor murders" in Armenia? Armenia is the oldest Christian country in Europe, one of the oldest and richest in its cultural heritage, there never even were killings of recalcitrant daughters there. They are not Chechen or Ossetians, for G-d's sake! My late husband was an Armenian, my younger son is half-Armenian, we have a lot of relatives and in-laws - Armenians, both in StP and in Armenia itself. I've been many times in Armenia and know a lot of people there - most of the literary and historical elite.

Once again - either your girlfriend is lying through her teeth or there's something badly wrong with her (after these latest revelations, I think - both).

[Wienerin]

I don't want to insult you, but I have to state my observation and pull out some armchair pop psychology. Reading this line make me think Peter Pan Syndrome My guess is that all the Wendys (or should it be Wendies?) that you knew have grown up and you hope to find another young woman in Russia to continue the fantasy. However, the thing is, she will grow up too. 

My sons' friends (who are my own, too) are exactly these people of whom Sculpto says there aren't any (and you blessing them with Peter Pan complex ) - they and their crowd are "systema" - Russian hippies, former underground: rock, artists, writers, poets, ets. Ages - 16 to 60+. Mode of travel preferably "trassa", i.e. hitchhiking. Where? Everywhere. Here are some of the photo-memorials from years past http://hippydom.forum24.ru/?0-18

[Faux Pas]

Dave.. thanks for a rational post.  See, what everyone is missing here is even if I am in love with this girl, with her faults and the problems that have taken place over the last couple of months, if things don't go right when I visit her in a couple of weeks I will pull the plug. I have dated younger women and i have brought someone from another country over before.  I know very clearly what the risks are, and what things I can not tolerate.  Sheesh, I managed to get to my age without getting married and there have been a few women who tried real hard to lock me up.  Breaking up is easy for me.. its the staying together that isn't so easy.  I am a free spirit.. blow with the wind.. do what I want and not always recognizing the consequences.  But, this time, there is a really big difference in that I am being deliberate, focused on the right outcome for myself and am not willing to sacrifice the next chapter of my life to something that doesn't have certain basic components that I believe, in my very peculiar circumstances, will lead to success.

here is a little song that says it better than i can... thanks to incubus for their wisdom...

Tonight we drink to youth
And holding fast to truth
(I don't want to lose what I had as a boy.)
My heart still has a beat
But love is now a feat.
(As common as a cold day in LA.)
Sometimes when I'm alone, I wonder
Is there a spell that I am under
Keeping me from seeing the real thing?

Love hurts...
But sometimes it's a good hurt
And it feels like I'm alive.
Love sings,
When it transcends the bad things.
Have a heart and try me,
'cause without love I won't survive.

I'm fettered and abused,
I stand naked and accused
(Should I surface this one man submarine?)
I only want the truth
So tonight we drink to youth!
(I'll never lose what I had as a boy.)
Sometimes when I'm alone I wonder
Is there a spell that I am under
Keeping me from seeing the real thing?

Love hurts...
But sometimes it's a good hurt
And it feels like I'm alive.
Love sings,
When it transcends the bad things.
Have a heart and try me,
'cause without love I won't survive

Sculpt, perhaps you should just consider a good dog or maybe some tropical fish. This way you can drop them off at the pound when time comes for breaking up?

[Wienerin]

First of all she is not looking to give up Russian citizenship.  Second of all it is entirely possible within Mexico to maintain the required status because I own property there and can meet the requirements of mexican Migra to be in that country legally.  As hostile as the US embassy in Mexico is to Mexicans they are actually quite helpfull to Americans, especially ones that are conducting business and making money in Mexico.  so, that should not be a problem.

Please, read up on  the immigration process for foreign spouse, because with all due respect what you've written is hopelessly ignorant and you may lead your bride into a deep soup... and even irreversibly. Just some hints - she doesn't have to renounce her citizenship and in fact almost no immigrant does; it's NOT possible to maintain permanent Resident Alien status (i.e. green card) not living in the USA; Mexican authorities, laws, your property there, etc. have exactly nothing to do with her acquiring, holding a green card or being able to get naturalized. Read up - I'm more than serious. There's enough material on this site alone.

That she makes comments about the US doesn't bother me very much.  Things here are very different than she can possibly understand from her point of view in Siberia, especially here in San Francisco.  

It's a pity that this doesn't bother you. This isn't a point of view, but inability top think for herself, but rather spouting uncritically rumors and prejudice... I wonder how a person with this frame of mind (shallow, uninformed, willing to slander a whole people) can call herself a journalist. For a National Enquirer maybe.

Imagine her suprise when she realizes there are more Chinese her than White people. Imagine her surprise when she realizes I wasn't joking that people speak dozens of different languages.  And imagine her surprise when she realizes that despite whatever rumors she has heard I am not dirty.

You are describving a "ghetto dwelling moron" - to a tee... As to being surprised about Asian faces... coming from Siberia...   Better you'd have talen that trip to Tomsk, you know. Then you wouldn't think an intelligent person from this most civilized city could really harbor such idiotic notions .

And by the way.. in case you didn't know it.. some Americans really do live like pigs.  

Some of everyone live like pigs - Americans, Russians, Latinos, your beloved primitive people, French, Italians, even some Germans and Japanese  

[SANDRO43]

Sculpt, perhaps you should just consider a good dog or maybe some tropical fish. This way you can drop them off at the pound...

US dog pounds also accept tropical fish ? My, that's advanced . Or did you mean pond, I'm pondering wondering  ?

[Faux Pas]

US dog pounds also accept tropical fish ? My, that's advanced . Or did you mean pond, I'm pondering wondering  ?

Pond would likely work better for the fish  good idea theres probably cats in the pound anyway

[groovlstk]

Nice try Misha.  Artists do things like this.  And as far as "growing up" well, if it means being a slave to a bank to pay a mortgage and spending life stuck than yes I am Peter Pan.  HAHAHA! 

If you were 20 years old, I could understand your desire to avoid conformity, but aren't you 40? If you end up marrying your GF and she becomes pregnant in five years, do you really think she'll continue to sympathize with your "F the Man" philosophy knowing she'll soon be responsible for the life of a child - especially when she sees many of her married friends living in homes they own rather than cowtowing to a landlord? You might try forcing her to watch Cheech & Chong movies and dragging her annually to Burning Man to watch pretentious office assistants and 7-11 clerks who fancy themselves artists go off their meds for a week (15 years ago BM was unique, now it's not much different than a commercial Monsters of Rock tour with different drugs and more naked people  -and not the kind of people you want to see naked - dancing around acid-inspired "art").