How should I handle this girl?

[AnastassiaAsh]

TBB,

Thank you so much for your 'plug' for my services.  I am really glad that you liked how I helped you and the most important is that it all worked and attracted more women than you expected. Apart from my insight and suggestions I should say that TBB's initial profile and info about himself has a LOT to be attracted to, starting with his personal and professional achievements and ending with looks (very many fresh professional photos of a very attractive man), sincerity and true readiness for this. So he is already up there, in my opinion, I just tweaked some things and we both gave it even a bigger notch. Also, he wrote an intro letter, put lots of info in his profile, answered all of mamba's profile additional questions, we worked on the content and then I translated. After reading his profile any lady will be able to get a wide grasp on this wonderful person, both inside and out as well as his character, ideas, values and plans. 

Thank you, your insights are helpful as always.  I’m seriously considering naming my first daughter after you.

TBB, I am very flattered! Thank you. It’s a purely Russian name used in many folk fairytales – Nast’enka. 

As to her ‘shopping’ and ‘drinking’ situation, I just pointed that out, maybe really these are not as developed as we are afraid, just something to think about and pay more attention to – at this moment thinking more about her being your ‘wife’ and ‘mother of your children’ rather than a lady who you are attracted to… I think the whole situation is a little overblown by other members, it’s not such a drama as it may seem, you already made some good decisions at the end of your post, so stick with it. I wouldn’t cross out corresponding with other ladies though at this stage yet, but it is up to you how to handle that at this point.

[Misha]

I honestly think that the ease of dating in Russia has spoiled you a bit and given you too many expectations as if this beautiful and intelligent girl should be happy to drop everything for you even though you didn't do so for her and you haven't yet.

Yes, I sometimes wonder what men expect. Sex on first date, declaration of love on the second and ready to get married the third?

Makes me wonder if you had been firm and told her absolutely that you were going to drop all other dates that week instead of trying to make a deal if your week would have turned out differently.

Good point.

As it is, it all sounds good to me overall! I don't think you blew it with this girl. Now relax, take it easy and do visit her in August. If she knows this time you're coming out just for her, things should go well. It sounds like you're more anxious to get married than you are to get married to her. Take your time and get to know her. Good luck!

I concur.

[Gator]

Yes, I sometimes wonder what men expect. Sex on first date, declaration of love on the second and ready to get married the third?
 

Years ago the third happened frequently.  The first did happen but more often it was the second or third date.   A compelling declaration of true love was the rarest if at all.

[I/O]

unless we are talking about "Agency Girls" (thats another mentality).

Ouch...!! GOB: I'm not sure that is quite fair. The generalisation at least. I've never dated a girl (at least that I know of) who was listed with a "street front" agency but I do know a couple who presently are and your comment wouldn't fit. The two girls I speak of screen visitors quite carefully and if he is lining up a hundred and one to see, they politely refuse.

I questioned one a little and her response was along the lines of, "Yes of course he will meet others but he is here for 2 weeks therefore if he can realistically appraise more than 5 women in that time he is brilliant but most likely he can't / isn't. He should have been doing more research before he came and narrowed it down to 2 or 3. If he isn't prepared to do that kind of work first he is not the kind of man I would want as my husband. He is probably lazy. I will not be part of a walk by inspection. I am not a garment in a shop".

I prodded for what might be a minimum acceptable effort prior to arrival and or meeting. Something along these lines was the response, "at least make contact with me and exchange some basic letters or phone calls and it would be pleasant to receive a personal invitation for dinner (or similar) well prior to his arrival".