Just Starting out -- How about that Age Difference

[Gylden]

have you tried translating the grunts in skype?
Maybe they are a gesture concerning their older spouses?
 
 

[mies]

Hey everyone, I am new to this site and there seems to be some really great stories, lessons learned and all around good advice perfect for newbies like me...I do have a basic question about the large (and apparent) disregard fo the age differences between the woman and the men who chase them...it seems from many sites I've visited, I see teenagers seeing no problem in seeing men up to or over 50!  There must be a total lack of concern for these large age differences in Ukraine...to me, I would not mind finding a women who is 20 years my junior, say a woman who is late twenties/early thirties...someone who can still have kids, but someone closer to my age...are the women there just not that concerned about age differences or do they just say that to get you to write and then try and scam you later on...this sure is different than here in the US...

I will answer you as a woman. Young women in Ukraine have no concern of these differences because they never tried such relationships, and they have no examples to observe such relationship. Such large age gaps are not normal in Ukrainian or Russian society. At least among common folks (oligarchs live by their own rules). If you are not an oligarch, your only hope for success in finding a much younger wife is that you'll meet a rare and uncommon woman who likes older men. Possibly, because of some psychological issues. Usually, when you will date much younger Ukrainian woman (or any much younger woman) you'll be expected to treat her as a sugar baby, spoil her, be super nice and loving, take care of her, etc. Normally when young women are agreeing to date/marry much older guy they do not expect to work or contribute financially, they know they deserve to be spoiled. Can you give this to them?

If you won't find such rare woman, you'll be dating the 99% of the rest, who in theory would not mind large age difference, but once they start living with you - they'll realize it's not their cup of tea, and you will get a divorce and they will get their permanent residence in the USA (or wherever you live).

Here is an example, a quote from the post of Ukrainian woman on another forum: "The age difference between me and my "boyfriend" (not sure why she used the "" here) is 25 years. On the matter of who is going to keep whom: me, a Ukrainian, or he - an American. Definitely not me." The same woman, most likely, would not say such words, in this wording, about Ukrainian man of her own age.

[Misha]

I came across a piece in The Huffington Post the other day reporting on research carried out examining attraction and age of parents. The researchers found: "A person born to a couple in their thirties grows up to find older faces more attractive than does one with younger parents"


Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/21/facts-on-attraction-research-human-desire_n_2687607.html

[mies]

I came across a piece in The Huffington Post the other day reporting on research carried out examining attraction and age of parents. The researchers found: "A person born to a couple in their thirties grows up to find older faces more attractive than does one with younger parents"


Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/21/facts-on-attraction-research-human-desire_n_2687607.html

That explains that. My early childhood was mostly spent in the company of my grandparents and an old nanny, because parents were combining work and study and were very busy. My husband is only 2 years older than me, but when we met I got an extra kick of the fact that he had some gray hair.  He is about 70% gray now in his late-30th, and I absolutely love the way he looks, salt&pepper hair is completely irresistible

[Gylden]

Now you don't need to go to FSU any more.
 
http://video.foxnews.com/v/2183450351001/
 
 

[tfcrew]

  I would not mind finding a women who is 20 years my junior ..
are the women there just not that concerned about age differences or do they just say that to get you to write and then try and scam you later on.

                                      So then choose wisely. We all grow old and
                                                      start falling apart.

[Eduard]

I will answer you as a woman. Young women in Ukraine have no concern of these differences because they never tried such relationships, and they have no examples to observe such relationship. Such large age gaps are not normal in Ukrainian or Russian society. At least among common folks (oligarchs live by their own rules). If you are not an oligarch, your only hope for success in finding a much younger wife is that you'll meet a rare and uncommon woman who likes older men. Possibly, because of some psychological issues. Usually, when you will date much younger Ukrainian woman (or any much younger woman) you'll be expected to treat her as a sugar baby, spoil her, be super nice and loving, take care of her, etc. Normally when young women are agreeing to date/marry much older guy they do not expect to work or contribute financially, they know they deserve to be spoiled. Can you give this to them?

If you won't find such rare woman, you'll be dating the 99% of the rest, who in theory would not mind large age difference, but once they start living with you - they'll realize it's not their cup of tea, and you will get a divorce and they will get their permanent residence in the USA (or wherever you live).

Here is an example, a quote from the post of Ukrainian woman on another forum: "The age difference between me and my "boyfriend" (not sure why she used the "" here) is 25 years. On the matter of who is going to keep whom: me, a Ukrainian, or he - an American. Definitely not me." The same woman, most likely, would not say such words, in this wording, about Ukrainian man of her own age.

I'd say that it's all good advice, yet there are plenty of exceptions. Just the people I personally know: 1. I have a good friend who is American and he married an AW who is 20 years younger than him. They got married in 1997 and still are happily married raising 2 kids together. 2. Simoni - 20 years apart, he is American, she is Ukrainian, a lovely couple raising a baby girl together. 3. I have a cousin in Donetsk, Ukraine. He is now 60 yo and his lovely wife is 30 yo. They are a lovely family and raising a young child together. They are both Ukrainian and he is not an oligarch. He is doing well, but not super rixh by any means. 4. Your's truly - we have a 20 year age gap and raising 2 kids together.
So it can work for some people but a wide age gap shouldn't be something on top of your list of criteria. You should find the right person for you and if you do that the age gap will become less important.