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[pacifica]

She is in the USA, likely looking for a young man in his thirties who has zero interest in Russian women.

I am looking for a man in his forties, who doesn't care where I am from originally.

[pacifica]

That's maybe a clue why all men in this board look in the FSU where feminism ideas don't prosper too much. Men want to feel they are needed  

I am hoping to find a man who is confident enough to be with a woman that doesn't "need" him, but wants to be with him.

[RussianWind]

I am hoping to find a man who is confident enough to be with a woman that doesn't "need" him, but wants to be with him.

This is what we all are looking for, pacifica. We are equal but we are different. Allow men to act like men.

[Misha]

I am hoping to find a man who is confident enough to be with a woman that doesn't "need" him, but wants to be with him.

That is good! You will have to let us know how it works out. Perhaps I am too cynical or jaded for my own good, but if a very attractive woman such as yourself would have written me on Lavalife, telling me that she wants to fly to my city to meet my on a date, I would have had a cacophony of warning bells going off in my head  I would have been very suspicious to say the least. But, perhaps, dating is different in the USA, I can't say.

[pacifica]

That is good! You will have to let us know how it works out. Perhaps I am too cynical or jaded for my own good, but if a very attractive woman such as yourself would have written me on Lavalife, telling me that she wants to fly to my city to meet my on a date, I would have had a cacophony of warning bells going off in my head  I would have been very suspicious to say the least. But, perhaps, dating is different in the USA, I can't say.

Suspecting what exactly?

[Misha]

Suspecting what exactly?

I would be thinking: why can't such a woman find a man in her city? What is she exactly trying to escape from in her city? What is it that would drive her to travel to another city to meet a guy. Is she sane? Is she desperate? If she is desperate, why would such an attractive woman be desperate? etc.... I have a vivid imagination so I could come up with endless theories 

Maybe its just me. Maybe there are some very attractive eligible bachelors who have women writing to them telling them that they want to meet them at their expense, but I never had experienced it personally  God, it would take endless hours of chat to get Canadian women in my city to cross the street to meet for a coffee, never mind having them fly to another city  Because of this, I would have been extremely suspicious of any woman who was a bit too enthusiastic moreso if she was stunningly attractive.

[SANDRO43]

Maybe there are some very attractive eligible bachelors who have women writing to them telling them that they want to meet them at their expense, but I never had experienced it personally 

Perhaps you were not considered to belong to that category ?

[Seeker]

I would be thinking: why can't such a woman find a man in her city? What is she exactly trying to escape from in her city? What is it that would drive her to travel to another city to meet a guy. Is she sane? Is she desperate? If she is desperate, why would such an attractive woman be desperate? etc.... I have a vivid imagination so I could come up with endless theories 

Maybe its just me. Maybe there are some very attractive eligible bachelors who have women writing to them telling them that they want to meet them at their expense, but I never had experienced it personally   God, it would take endless hours of chat to get Canadian women in my city to cross the street to meet for a coffee, never mind having them fly to another city  Because of this, I would have been extremely suspicious of any woman who was a bit too enthusiastic moreso if she was stunningly attractive.

Well, I don't know about attractive, but it has happened to me twice.  And both times it was for "the wrong reasons" and did not work out.  One is still living somewhere near here as an illegal, and the other married a man in Colorado a month or so later.  Both came here looking for "a" man to marry.  Not "the" man to marry.

[Blues Fairy]

If I were stuck on the Pacific coast looking for a man of my dreams, chances are, I would eventually start looking elsewhere, where people are a little more... conservative.   Would that be very suspicious to you, Misha? 
Perhaps she's sick of the place itself, regardless of the availability of attractive bachelors. 

[myrddin]

Suspecting what exactly?

I would be thinking: why can't such a woman find a man in her city? What is she exactly trying to escape from in her city? What is it that would drive her to travel to another city to meet a guy. Is she sane? Is she desperate? If she is desperate, why would such an attractive woman be desperate? etc.... I have a vivid imagination so I could come up with endless theories 

I may have to give up my Cynic Card and my Endless Theorizing Card, but I don't think I'd have thought that way.  In dealing with international dating those concerns are almost unavoidable, but within cities in the US I'd hope it was a rare case of someone putting love and happiness higher in priority than physical location.

It'd be odd to have received a couple messages and then a request to visit for a weekend (unless she was gonna be in town for some other reason like a conference or visiting relatives, or I lived in Vegas  ), but if there was attraction in letters, phone calls, and chat I don't think alarms would go off.  Especially if her profile (as mine) put no limits on the distance she'd travel for love, and (as me) she liked to travel.  Heck, for true love I'd also have considered moving to be with her.

Ooooh, I guess I do have to turn in my Cynic Card...didn't see that coming.....

[Misha]

Perhaps you were not considered to belong to that category ?

I didn't consider myself in that category. Again, maybe the gorgeous guys have women from the four corners of the USA fawning over then, paying to fly to meet them for a date, but that is not something that I personally witnessed. I admitted that I could potentially not be aware of such happenings.

[Misha]

If I were stuck on the Pacific coast looking for a man of my dreams, chances are, I would eventually start looking elsewhere, where people are a little more... conservative.   Would that be very suspicious to you, Misha? 
Perhaps she's sick of the place itself, regardless of the availability of attractive bachelors. 

In that case, I would expect her to move first, then start looking for dates. Again, in my experience, attractive women in Canada did not really have to look for men, and could usually find them whether of the conservative or liberal variety  :evil: 

[SANDRO43]

Before others wander off on the Pacific/West Coast tangent :

No, I am not on the West Coast, I am in the Midwest

Maybe she should change her nick to Centralika .

[pacifica]

I would be thinking: why can't such a woman find a man in her city? What is she exactly trying to escape from in her city? What is it that would drive her to travel to another city to meet a guy. Is she sane? Is she desperate? If she is desperate, why would such an attractive woman be desperate? etc.... I have a vivid imagination so I could come up with endless theories 

Paranoid a bit, are we?

So when a man travels to Russia, is it because he is desperate and insane? 

[myrddin]

So when a man travels to Russia, is it because he is desperate and insane? 

Don't know about "desperate", but....

[pacifica]

I would have been extremely suspicious of any woman who was a bit too enthusiastic moreso if she was stunningly attractive.

By the way, being attractive does not make it any easier to find a match. Finding a date, sure, no problem, but that's not what I am after.

[pacifica]

Perhaps she's sick of the place itself, regardless of the availability of attractive bachelors. 

Not sick necessarily, but after 8 years in one place, I wouldn't mind a change.

[pacifica]

Before others wander off on the Pacific/West Coast tangent :

Maybe she should change her nick to Centralika .

Sorry for confusing everybody 

[Misha]

By the way, being attractive does not make it any easier to find a match. Finding a date, sure, no problem, but that's not what I am after.

Perhaps, but the more dates one has, the better the odds that you will find at least one keeper 

[fgg111]

 
Hi Pacifica,

I love your picture and I want to be your friend . Can I email you ? My email is ferds999@gmail.com.

Ferds

[boaterguy]

Hi Pacifica,

I love your picture and I want to be your friend . Can I email you ? My email is ferds999@gmail.com.

Ferds

Pacifica! Somebody specifically joined to try to get to know you!

[Mars]

Quote from: RussianWind on Yesterday at 05:28:22 PM
That's maybe a clue why all men in this board look in the FSU where feminism ideas don't prosper too much. Men want to feel they are needed.


Quote from: pacifica on Yesterday at 06:05:58 PM
I am hoping to find a man who is confident enough to be with a woman that doesn't "need" him, but wants to be with him.

Russian Wind: This is what we all are looking for, pacifica. We are equal but we are different. Allow men to act like men.

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I am on the side of Pacifica here.  I am not looking for a woman who 'needs' me.  And it doesn't make me act or feel more like a man when I am with a woman who 'needs' me.

There are far too many 'needy' women in the FSU. Not referring to those who are living in poverty, but rather those who are just wanting a man to provide everything they want.  Isn't this really the definition of leeches.

I know there is the problem with feminist women in the west who reject the idea of letting the man do anything, but I haven't really had any experience with those women.

Would  be great to find women who are somewhere between feminists who don't really like men and don't want anything from them and FSU types who want the man to provide everything.  Just a nice dream.  Pacifica sounds like the dream girl, but too young for me.

[Blues Fairy]

Would  be great to find women who are somewhere between feminists who don't really like men and don't want anything from them and FSU types who want the man to provide everything.  

I think those types who want the man to provide everything don't really like men either.

[Mars]

I think those types who want the man to provide everything don't really like men either.

Well then, what are Russian Wind, Brave Girl, et al looking for?

[RussianWind]

Well then, what are Russian Wind, Brave Girl, et al looking for?

Mars, do you understand the word "humour"?  If not, then read my signature.