AM and RW ... are we compatible?

[Miri22]

Do you see how no one responds? Jeez.. The women want a USA lifestyle and it's traded for cash.

[Admin]

Do you see how no one responds? Jeez.. The women want a USA lifestyle and it's traded for cash.

What an uplifting, positive, illuminating, revelationary post. [/sarcasm OFF]

Do you feel better now with a response?

- Dan

[calmissile]

Darn, the gal with the beautiful pair of eyes is now on the previous page.

[Donna_Pedro]

This is America, not Asia. When people dress to come to my home for a wine party I wouldn't dream of asking them to cheapen their look because of my hardwood & stone floors. Honestly, the host is more rude by asking people to do something they aren't comfortable with. And smoking? If its outside who cares?

 
Rude to show respect to someones property, eh? I always thought that it was a very american feature. But obviously not on all social levels.

[Donna_Pedro]

Miri22,
Perhaps it would be easier to understand your point of view if you listed your age, sex, and current country of residence in your profile.

nah.. closing gestalts is easier  when done anonymously.

[Admin]

nah.. closing gestalts is easier  when done anonymously.

Interesting . . . .

Being moderately familiar with the concepts of Gestalt Therapy (could never understand the value of screaming at an empty chair), I had never seen the phrase "closing gestalts."

It appears to be rooted in substance abuse programs, or at least that is where I most often found it described. While related to the same principles as Gestalt Therapy, it is curious that you suggest it is best done anonymously, as Gestalt Therapy is quite dependent on the therapist/patient relationship.

I very well may not understand the context of your comment about closing gestalts. This is an individual process - yes? If so, are you suggesting Miri is closing his/her own gestalts - or seeking to close (or impact) other's?

- Dan

[Faux Pas]

Me thinks somebody's been in the liquor cabinet

[GQBlues]

...The next interesting fact to me was that AM are used to guess why his woman is upset !  As well as they are kind of shocked when you tell them right away what is wrong.

I can't say that to be typical of AMs I know.
 

I am used to say straight forward what I don’t like or upset about. I would not say my man:” If you don’t know why I am upset, I am not telling you”. The majority of RW would do the same. I would rather resolve every issue on the spot than hold it inside waiting for the opportunity to explode.  AM, what do you think about this?

This I can say to be typical of RWs I know. Not surprising really considering none of them ever admit they are ever in the wrong.

[Daveman]

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This I can say to be typical of RWs I know. Not surprising really considering none of them ever admit they are ever in the wrong.

Though they will admit they were "not as right as they would or could have been" (when you really push it to the point where further denial makes them feel completely stupid), but that was only because they were somehow reacting to what YOU did, so it's your fault when they are "not exactly as right as they would have been had you not forced them, against their will, to react to you in some way"...


That's about as far as I can figure it before I'm also in the liquor cabinet...

[GQBlues]

Though they will admit they were "not as right as they would or could have been" (when you really push it to the point where further denial makes them feel completely stupid), but that was only because they were somehow reacting to what YOU did, so it's your fault when they are "not exactly as right as they would have been had you not forced them, against their will, to react to you in some way"...


That's about as far as I can figure it before I'm also in the liquor cabinet...

LOL. You're far more analytical than I can ever be Daveman. I just simply admit I'm wrong and act very shocked! 

[Shadow]

Did I forget to mention the hugely better quality of life in the US and green cards and HOUSEKEEPERS? Yeah, I'm sure those hot women want to come here and struggle paycheck to paycheck. Lmao. Puh-leez.

It seems you are perfectly aware of yur personal qualities.

[Kokopelli]

The next interesting fact to me was that AM are used to guess why his woman is upset !  As well as they are kind of shocked when you tell them right away what is wrong.I am used to say straight forward what I don’t like or upset about. I would not say my man:” If you don’t know why I am upset, I am not telling you”. The majority of RW would do the same. I would rather resolve every issue on the spot than hold it inside waiting for the opportunity to explode.  AM, what do you think about this?

An alternate phrase would be "if you loved me, you'd know" or a sharp "nothing". Yes, the "nothing" mood. She's talking, oh, she's talking alright; to her friends "EARTH", "WIND" and "FIRE". I think they are trying to gather their thoughts and the correct adjectives to explain what is wrong. Maybe trying to put us on a guilt trip. It could also be an 'I'm in control" response.
Of course men can have a "nothing" mood, too. The difference is we actually can think about nothing.
Sort of a state of Zen.
"Whatcha thinking?"
"Nothing"
"No, really. Whatcha thinking?
"OK, why did Mr. Ed talk to Wilbur and not Carol?"
"What?"
"What do you mean, what?"
"What?"

[Kokopelli]

The other question I am extremely curious about  is for AM / foreign men. What are the most difficulties that you had been dealing with in order to attract and make your RW fall for you? 
I would like to thank all of you in advance.

None really. I'm just myself. If they like me, fine, if not, fine.
My biggest problem was getting my butt over to Russia.

[Kokopelli]

Smuggling my tranquilizer darts through Ukrainian customs! 

One drop of vodka per 10ml of solution.
This should deter the drug sniffing dogs.
However, they may start howling "Дорогой длинною" in this case join in. It's a wonderful song. 

[Kokopelli]

My wife and I have a typically perfect Love/Hate relationship... I love her; she hates me.  Ahhh, the joys of marriage... 

It's really important to find that special someone who you want to annoy for the rest of your life. 

[Kokopelli]

Of course, I have also been know to do many weird things as well, like make goofy faces at my partner in the middle of her argument...  That leads to some very interesting interaction sometimes.. 

If you are staring at her, aahum, "eyes" and she starts sounding like the teacher in the Charlie Brown cartoons; MAYDAY, MAYDAY, MAYDAY, quickly look away.   

[Kokopelli]

There are no dogs in our backyard, and my better half used a sling shot on cats' butts to condition them that our backyard was a no go zone.  However, my boys, before starting school, had a habit of peeing in the backyard when playing outside, despite my repeated (and ignored) requests that they come indoors like civilized children.  So, I guess it all evened out.

They're just practicing so they can write their names in the snow. Do either have a "t" or "i" in their name? If so, more practice.
Good penmanship is an important thing.

[nichka]

Do you see how no one responds? Jeez.. The women want a USA lifestyle and it's traded for cash.

 
Miri22, I don't mean to offend you, though I won't be bitter if I do. IMHO, You represent yourself as an extremely unhappy, miserable person, who knows nothing good,who got hurt  and used few times, who  has no respect to anyone and who is fullfilled with anger.
Please do not throw your intellectually low and limited opinions here , since it cause nothing but irritation and wate of participants time and words. Either be polite to members around you, or simply get lost from my thread of posts. That was not my intent show everyone life in selfish and miserable colors. Hope  for your understanding.

[nichka]

 
This I can say to be typical of RWs I know. Not surprising really considering none of them ever admit they are ever in the wrong.
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OMG, you seem like really know what are you talking about. Well, I will tell you the trick of handling RW. Let's imagine , she is wrong ( and believe me she know she is wrong - she just can't admit it outloud). You are also being stubborn and trying  to prove her that " a bird is not an elephant".  This argument or silent war goes back and forth. So what to do here? The best argument handle that I have ever experienced in my lifewas  shown to me by my Darling : I was totally wrong and of course I knew about it. My hubby  made very wisdom move I think , that made me : a) feel extremely guilty inside and  I made sure I would never do/say anything as I did again b)  made me respect my man twice more than I did. c)I felt weak  and silly in compare with my man... I did stupid, but I knew there is no way, I would want to lose him- my smart man who makes me think I am in control, but has all the power in his hands.    He came up to me and said : I am really sorry that I hurt your feelings, I love you very much and I will never do it again.  It totally shocked me , I was ready for the argumenmt and  fight of words, but not these . He just wanted to show me his appreciation and ability to resove everything as a man.

[nichka]

  For me that is still a work  in progress. In an unrelated note(Thanks for your help Daveman)

What is still work in progress for you Mr. Happyandstable?

[nichka]

Upgrade from typically perfect to silver perfect trying to switch your roles periodically   

Love/Hate stage ... keep it up as long as you can , those feelings towards each other ( not at extreme level of course)  making relationship last longer and be spicy ;giving you  a wild "piece making sex" and always keeping  partners tuned 

[nichka]

you missed all the fun 

Agreed Olga.  Oh Boy.... games Russians can come up with are super entertaining  and fun if you on the same tune ,yet can be dangerous.

[Muzh]

Miri22, I don't mean to offend you, though I won't be bitter if I do. IMHO, You represent yourself as an extremely unhappy, miserable person, who knows nothing good,who got hurt  and used few times, who  has no respect to anyone and who is fullfilled with anger.
Please do not throw your intellectually low and limited opinions here , since it cause nothing but irritation and wate of participants time and words. Either be polite to members around you, or simply get lost from my thread of posts. That was not my intent show everyone life in selfish and miserable colors. Hope  for your understanding.

Nichka, don't waste your time on this flaming a**hole. It seems he is a woman hater to boot. 

[Boethius]

Miri has not posted anything Donna Pedro has not posted.
 
Except for the housekeeper part.

[happyandstable]

The other question I am extremely curious about  is for AM / foreign men. What are the most difficulties that you had been dealing with in order to attract and make your RW fall for you? 
I would like to thank all of you in advance.

  For me that is still a work  in progress. In an unrelated note(Thanks for your help Daveman)

What is still work in progress for you Mr. Happyandstable?

  To my way of thinking your question implies that you have already gotten a RW to fall in love with you.  For me I am still looking for that to happen hence for me it is “Still a work in progress”, but in any event I feel that the best way to get anyone to fall in love with you is to just be yourself and let nature take its course.