Life Changes...Part Deux Part 2

[lordtiberius]

Does she love you?

[BillyB]

 

How often does she tell you good things? Without you asking?  How often does she tell you she loves you without you telling her first?

 
My wife is not much to display her affection with words. Neither am I and she's complained I don't say enough. Women tend to want more but were pretty much even using the "love" word first.. My wife shows her affection with actions. Making sure I eat enough, washing my clothes, keeping a cozy house, and rubbing her fingers through my hair and bald spot occasionally.
 
 

Does she love you?

She's said the words but without actions, there's nothing.
 
 

i took my wife on a road trip and she couldn't wait to get home and sleep...lol...although we have a little kid that limited our adventures and free time...
 

Some people can't sit in the car for hours but your growing kid is going to need to see and experience some things and the wife will be outnumbered 2-1 when voting to go on a road trip.
 
 

[BillyB]

 
We spent 5 days in Las Vegas and seen 3 shows. The best one out of the 3 was Cirque Du Soleil Zarkana. Between the 3 of us we didn't gamble a cent.
 
Here's a few photos of the hotel room at the Signature hotel we stayed at. My MIL was a light sleeper and didn't get much sleep one night. She said there was an orgy in the room next door.

[lordtiberius]

  for the update and the answer to my question

How long has she been in the states?  any homesickness?  How is her English?

[BillyB]

How long has she been in the states? 

Almost 2 years.
 

  any homesickness? 

 
None. One reason being is that she now considers America her home.
 

  How is her English?

She speaks English so well she only has a little accent but unfortunately she doesn't have the sexy accent RW are known to possess.
 
 
Here's a photo of A trying on a hat in a souvenir shop. We didn't buy it but we did spend over $100 for gifts for my and their families. I tried to talk them out of it since most of the stuff there is made in China junk but I got the lecture on how I'm not thinking about others enough.

[Ade]

Does she love you?

Well, if it were me, and my wife never seemed to wear a wedding band in any photo I took but would wear a peace of costume jewlery instead, I'd have serious doubts.

Of course, I'm actually married.

[Slumba]

Well, if it were me, and my wife never seemed to wear a wedding band in any photo I took but would wear a peace of costume jewlery instead, I'd have serious doubts.

Of course, I'm actually married.

Ade, thanks for your many contributions to this forum 

[Ade]

Ade, thanks for your many contributions to this forum

You're welcome. It's nice to be appreciated.

[fathertime]

Well, if it were me, and my wife never seemed to wear a wedding band in any photo I took but would wear a peace of costume jewlery instead, I'd have serious doubts.

Of course, I'm actually married.

serious doubts about what?  it seems to me that billyb is confident and doesn't feel the need to insist on wearing expensive rings.




thanks again billyb for sharing the photos...yeah those gift shops in the hotels of vegas are ripoffs...in downtown vegas the 'knick knacks' are far less expensive, but they are mostly junk....maybe the family in russia would get a kick out of them though


Fathertime! 

[lordtiberius]

Maybe some people are jealous of BillyB.  Maybe those same people are married, have kids and live in Europe.

She seems happy to me BB.

some ppl need to get over themselves.

[BillyB]

 

Maybe some people are jealous of BillyB.

I disagree. Ade comes to the forum to read for pleasure like most of us. Unfortunately a big source of his pleasure comes from reading about people getting a nasty divorce or learning their marriage is a sham. He still comes back to this thread with hope to find something disastrous happening
 
 

  it seems to me that billyb is confident and doesn't feel the need to insist on wearing expensive rings.

I won't tell what the cost of the ring my wife is wearing. If it's expensive, some people would accuse me of buying her love. If it's cheap, they will criticize me for that too. I can't win with them. They want me to be ashamed. The best way they can do that is show their wife smiling more than mine.
 
Here's a photo of A with the Harley Davidson restaurant we ate at.

[Slumba]

 
I won't tell what the cost of the ring my wife is wearing. If it's expensive, some people would accuse me of buying her love. If it's cheap, they will criticize me for that too. I can't win with them. They want me to be ashamed. The best way they can do that is show their wife smiling more than mine.

Yes, some feel the need to use shaming language... strange considering that a few of those that want to use shaming language, can either manufacture excuses for anything they wish, or, if you directly challenged them on issues of morality they would quickly tell you they are not Puritanical Christians.  They want all the benefits of being strict moralists, without themselves ever having to live by the same strictures.

[lordtiberius]

BB, I like what you are doing and what say, but u took a cheap shot at Greg in Ga.  Bad joss imho, what say u?

[BillyB]

BB, I like what you are doing and what say, but u took a cheap shot at Greg in Ga.  Bad joss imho, what say u?

 
I responded to your concern in Greg's thread. I say this with good intentions so please don't take it as an insult. Sometimes you emotionally overreact on many issues throughout the forum and that's a turn off for women and will be a turn off with your soon to be wife. If you're talking to her about something you don't like, don't just focus on what you're saying, focus on her facial expressions. If she doesn't share the same passion and emotions on the issue that's on your nerves, it's best to end the conversation.

[lordtiberius]

Please don't take this as an insult.  Readers like what is called a story arc.  Readers are not interested in reading about a succession of good things always happening to the character.  Also readers distrust an author's representations of himself especially if he is not honest about his shortcomings.  SO unlesa, you are a royal biographist, you might want to weave some of theae Aristotelian drama into your narrative.  You don't want to be known as a braggart do you?

[jmana]

I'm definitely not saying she is in it for anything other than love, but after looking at all the pics posted, and the expensive clothes, locations, etc..., I can't help but wonder if this marriage would be so successful had Billy not had the money to buy her such nice clothes and take her to such nice places?  And hopefully he has an endless source of $$$, because she seems to really enjoy this kind of lifestyle. 

[ML]

Jmana, I don't think your post is appropriate concerning any person and their spouse or long-term partner.

[jmana]

I don't make predictions. I do know I'm happy being single or being in a relationship.



I've been in breakups before. I haven't been pyschologically damaged yet. I think most people who give advice such as yours give advice as if they see themselves in the same situation. Don't worry, I'm not going to have an emotional meltdown.


When I joined the military during the first Gulf War, some people told me I was crazy. Truth is they don't view any cause in this world worth greater than their own self preservation.  Their comment to me was based on how they view themselves making the same decision as I.


I've weighed the risks and rewards and the rewards outweigh the risks. Every woman in my life is free to come and go as she wishes. I don't hold them hostage or even believe their my only source of happiness. It isn't the end of the world if a woman says "goodbye".

I just wonder if you'll be singing the same tune if she does walk out on you, especially after you financed all these trips, her education, her mother in law coming here, etc....   Unless you are a multi millionaire and it really is insignificant to you?  Sorry if this post seems negative, but I am just trying to wrap my head around this whole thing.  I haven't read everything regarding your situation, but from what I have it really seems (at least on it's face) that you are being taken advantage of (not that you don't deserve it). And no, I am not jealous, that's not why I'm writing this. In fact I was once married to someone way out of my league too, and I thought the same things you did, that love conquers all, haha yeah right!  I learned my lesson on that one.  Luckily at the time I really didn't have all that much money for her to bleed me dry of.  Anyway, I wish you the best, you certainly aren't the first old guy married to someone less than half his age, and won't be the last.  I will definitely be following your story

[Slumba]

Jmana, BillyB is taking her to Vegas, not Monaco or Andorra  

From California (as I assume BillyB is from) it is a comfortable middle-class lifestyle thing to do.

[calmissile]

I'm definitely not saying she is in it for anything other than love, but after looking at all the pics posted, and the expensive clothes, locations, etc..., I can't help but wonder if this marriage would be so successful had Billy not had the money to buy her such nice clothes and take her to such nice places?  And hopefully he has an endless source of $$$, because she seems to really enjoy this kind of lifestyle.

What a moronic post!  BillyB and his wife seem to live an American middle-class lifestyle.  If you think this is luxurious, you better make sure any future wife of yours understands what her lifestyle will be like married to you.   You already told us you married way out of your league, had little money and wondered why love didn't make up all the difference.     

[JayH]

What a moronic post!  BillyB and his wife seem to live an American middle-class lifestyle.  If you think this is luxurious, you better make sure any future wife of yours understands what her lifestyle will be like married to you.   Your already told us you married way out of your league, had little money and wondered why love didn't make up all the difference.     

plus + 1  !!

It was one of my first observations about  Ukraine girls ( young & older)  that they are way to  sophisticated for many of US guys(  & yes-- others)  and if they really understand what is on offer they will be in no great hurry to hook up. The more  I read guys on forums -the more certain that I was right in that thought over 3 years ago/!!

[jmana]

What a moronic post!  BillyB and his wife seem to live an American middle-class lifestyle.  If you think this is luxurious, you better make sure any future wife of yours understands what her lifestyle will be like married to you.   You already told us you married way out of your league, had little money and wondered why love didn't make up all the difference.     

Doesn't quite seem like middle class spending to me.  I am middle class, and I know many middle to upper class people who would never spend like this guy.   All I am saying is I've read a lot of stories like this one, guy marries someone half his age (which I didn't do, my ex was only 6 years younger), pays for her education, pays for relatives to visit, lots of vacations, renovations to the house to suit her needs, etc....  Most of the time I've read these stories it's after the girl has left, so all I am saying is it all seems all too familiar to me.  I just hope he isn't neglecting his kid(s) and that they will have something left over after his spending spree on his young wife

[TomT]

jmana,


The phenomenon of guys with massive bellies and small appendages sticking together is common to all FSU forums. If you don't fit in, then count your blessings.

[jmana]

jmana,


The phenomenon of guys with massive bellies and small appendages sticking together is common to all FSU forums. If you don't fit in, then count your blessings.

Yeah I just don't get it though.  I mean it's one thing to be delusional, but in this case his wife actually called him ugly, so if there isn't physical attraction, then he's making up for it in one of two ways, his personality or $$$.   And personality will get your feet in the door, but after a while a girl will realize she can have that and more, especially if she's young and good looking.  I could be wrong though, time will tell, which is why it will be interesting if this Billy guy keeps posting for years to come. 

[TomT]

Yeah I just don't get it though.  I mean it's one thing to be delusional, but in this case his wife actually called him ugly, so if there isn't physical attraction, then he's making up for it in one of two ways, his personality or $$$.   And personality will get your feet in the door, but after a while a girl will realize she can have that and more, especially if she's young and good looking.  I could be wrong though, time will tell, which is why it will be interesting if this Billy guy keeps posting for years to come.

If one pursues any endeavor long enough, he can develop strategies to cheat the system.  It works for a while but, as you implied, a relationship of equals is likely to be more durable.