Am I in over my head

[Dan Cutler]

Hello from the deep south,

I'm a newbie and don't have clue where to start. I've read some of the articles and postings and starting to wonder if Im in over my head. I'm interested in a foreign bride, not a trophy but attractive and appreciates what she has and can be content living a simple life. I'm not having much luck with american women. Am I in the right place? I don't have clue  what kind of money is involved to do this or if I can even afford it, though some of your articles has given me a starting point. I'm 56, widowed and was thinking of an age between 35-45. Am I being realistic? Just needed some insight before I start getting serious.

Thanks

PS   Whats with the equations

[BC]

Dan,

respectfully, by asking it is probably so....

May I ask what it is that draws you towards a foreign wife?.. In many ways it can be like looking for trouble....

[GoodOlBoy]

Welcome to RWD Dan! 

I was a widow at 46 yo. so I can feel where you are coming from.
It's none of my business but let me ask a personal question.
How long has it been since you put your wife in the ground?
It is important to know.
Also, what kind of shape are you in (honestly).
Your age range may be better in the low 40's if you are not in great shape.
30 something yo Russian women will run circles around you if you are not.

GOB

[Muzh]

Dan, yes it can get very expensive. However, if you have an open mind you can have some fun.

Also, GOB is right about the ladies age range for you.

[Dan Cutler]

My wife passed about 8 months ago. I am in excellent health and in good shape. I work hard physically everyday. My interest in foreign women is that I can't seem to find an american woman that appreciates simple and/or willing to relocate

[ML]

My wife passed about 8 months ago. I am in excellent health and in good shape. I work hard physically everyday. My interest in foreign women is that I can't seem to find an american woman that appreciates simple and/or willing to relocate

Basically only two reasons to look in FSU for a gal compared to sticking with what you can find in USA.

1. A younger FSU will accept you . . . but don't go crazy with this.
2. You have a much larger selection of slender women in FSU.

All the other stuff you will read and hear about FSUW is baloney.

[Doll]

Basically only two reasons to look in FSU for a gal compared to sticking with what you can find in USA.

1. A younger FSU will accept you . . . but don't go crazy with this.
2. You have a much larger selection of slender women in FSU.

All the other stuff you will read and hear about FSUW is baloney.

[Manny]

Money: Anywhere between $20k and $100k from being where you are now to being married and her in your country.


Many men fail due to being underfunded.

[GQBlues]

My wife passed about 8 months ago. I am in excellent health and in good shape. I work hard physically everyday. My interest in foreign women is that I can't seem to find an american woman that appreciates simple and/or willing to relocate

8 months?! Isn't that a bit too soon? No matter...do you mind describing your definition of 'simple'?

[Eduard]

Hi Dan,
I'll try to give you a bit more specific info that you are looking for.
As far as money, I have seen poles that indicate that most men had spent between 20 and 50K on the whole process. Some managed to spend a bit less, while others, who's criteria might have been more difficult spent more money and time. You should also be aware that there are men who did spend the money but didn't find a woman to marry or married the wrong woman and subsequently got divorced. So a lot will depend on your own ability to do research, your common sense and how much time/money you are willing/able to invest toward this venture. It's good to remember a couple of addages: "Time is money", "You pay now or pay later" and off course "You get what you pay for".


In regard to how much time you might spend on this, it can also vary greatly. Some men have spent several years on their search, learning the ropes and making many trips to the FSU, while others found their wives in a matter of just a few months and made only a couple of trips. A lot will depend on the path you choose.
It is good that you found this forum before you got taken for a ride by some of the agencies. Do your home work and you will be alright.


In regard to Russian women they can be wonderful or you may wind up with your worst nightmare. There are all kinds of women in the FSU, the whole spectrum. It is important to be able to communicate with them freely and language barrier free to find the right one for you. Besides the language there are also cultural differences to be aware of.

[TheTraveler]

I'm not having much luck with american women.

have you tried a slumpbuster?

[BC]

My wife passed about 8 months ago. I am in excellent health and in good shape. I work hard physically everyday. My interest in foreign women is that I can't seem to find an american woman that appreciates simple and/or willing to relocate

Dan

Sincere condolences.

Although some may think it is a bit early, it is good to Ahear that you are thinking forward.

If you were happy together with your wife, then can only suggest that the best way might be targeting her age group, then working down. 

I think that will have greater chances of success than the other way round.

[Dan Cutler]

Yes, 8 months is not very long but my wife and I promised each other that whoever went first the other would not mourn very long and try to find somebody to be happy with. Life is short and she would haunt my ass if I didn't keep the promise.
My version of simple, I am not poor but not able to travel to exotic places, no high dollar wines or food, no expensive cars or toys...... but that doesn't really matter anymore. I really appreciate everyones input but I can't do 20,000 - 100,000. I had no idea it was that expensive, I was thinking around 10,000 but it was a good thought. I would ask if there were any more economical approaches but I guess you get what you pay for. Once again, I really appreciate and thank ya'll for your advice and input.

What is slumpbuster?

[Doll]

Guys, how did you come up with $20,000 or $50,000?

[ML]

$10,000 gets YOU two trips to FSU.  That doesn't get you a woman into USA.

Slump in baseball . . . not getting a hit.  Then the guy finally breaks out of his slump with a hit.

In man-woman relationships, you can imagine what a slumpbuster is.

[BC]

Dan,

I tip my hat to men like you that have the wherewithal to not seek the next mirage.

Happiness will find you.

[BC]

Guys, how did you come up with $20,000 or $50,000?

It adds up rather quickly....

[ML]

Guys, how did you come up with $20,000 or $50,000?

I don't have the details like many guys here can lay out because I never really followed the standard path.

But, I would imagine $5,000 for each trip the guy makes to FSU.
Figure 4 of  them; that's $20,000.  Then maybe another $10,000 or so for trips to Turkey, Egypt, etc.
Then $10,000 - 15,000 to get the gal into USA.
Then probably $10,000 - 20,000 to get her set up in USA.  Could include some education, but likely the education and training would be more.

So there you have $50,000 - 70,000 or so.

[BC]

I don't have the details like many guys here can lay out because I never really followed the standard path.

But, I would imagine $5,000 for each trip the guy makes to FSU.
Figure 4 of  them; that's $20,000.  Then maybe another $10,000 or so for trips to Turkey, Egypt, etc.
Then $10,000 - 15,000 to get the gal into USA.
Then probably $10,000 - 20,000 to get her set up in USA.  Could include some education, but likely the education and training would be more.

So there you have $50,000 - 70,000 or so.

And you forgot a car....  Lol

[TheTraveler]

What is slumpbuster?

 
former mlb baseball star mark grace described it best in his 2003 interview with jim rome:
 
"a slumpbuster is if a team's in a slump, or if you personally are in a slump, you gotta find the fatest, gnarliest, grossest chick and you just gotta lay the wood to her.  and when you do that, you're just gonna have instant success.  and it could also be called jumping on a grenade for the team."

[Doll]

I don't have the details like many guys here can lay out because I never really followed the standard path.

But, I would imagine $5,000 for each trip the guy makes to FSU.
Figure 4 of  them; that's $20,000.  Then maybe another $10,000 or so for trips to Turkey, Egypt, etc.
Then $10,000 - 15,000 to get the gal into USA.
Then probably $10,000 - 20,000 to get her set up in USA.  Could include some education, but likely the education and training would be more.

So there you have $50,000 - 70,000 or so.

Not many couples go to Turkey or Egypt, so it can be easily excluded.
$10,000 to get her to the USA? Spent for what?
I probably forgot a lot but I don't remember J. had these expenses.
"Setting up in the USA" is what?

[Faux Pas]

Yes, 8 months is not very long but my wife and I promised each other that whoever went first the other would not mourn very long and try to find somebody to be happy with. Life is short and she would haunt my ass if I didn't keep the promise.
My version of simple, I am not poor but not able to travel to exotic places, no high dollar wines or food, no expensive cars or toys...... but that doesn't really matter anymore. I really appreciate everyones input but I can't do 20,000 - 100,000. I had no idea it was that expensive, I was thinking around 10,000 but it was a good thought. I would ask if there were any more economical approaches but I guess you get what you pay for. Once again, I really appreciate and thank ya'll for your advice and input.

What is slumpbuster?

A couple of things along with the good advice here Dan, really, there is no price tag. It's more of a blank check and a commitment to paying whatever it winds up being or cutting your losses. Afterall, you're not buying a puppy and Wal Mart hasn't encroached on the MOB business yet.

You can do it "on the cheap" but, most of those that would recommend it are no longer here. There is a reason for that. You do in essence "get what you pay for".

With that said, it's not like you're plopping down $50K and ordering a 25 year old long legged blond either. You don't need 50K to start the endeavor. Just a few hundred bucks can get you going in the right direction and by the time you have actually found you a wife, married and have her at home, you can very conceivably have $50K invested.

My condolences for the loss of your wife. If you are ready to move on I so go for it. Everybody has their own ideas on how long, when ect.. and everybody's idea is right, for themselves. Good luck to you guy

[GoodOlBoy]

I had no idea it was that expensive,...

It is!
Dan, it cost me 50k to get my wonderful RW here to the GoodOl' USA.
You can probably do it a little cheaper, but not much.
If you feel like it, stop back by RWD on down the road and let us know how you are doing!
Good luck to you in the future.

GOB

[remiel6]

argh! Don't type with a baby in your lap.
It can be done for less than 20k to 50K. I think I spent 10k or less. It depends on how you travel and how lucky you are.
I had a nice long reply too, but little remiel6 is bored and hit hte delete button lol

[remiel6]

Im inclined to say look for a girl first and then if you find someome you like figure out the money later, but I'm a little crazy