FSU-Women & FemDom?

[tsr1959]

Last days I lurked around and used some searches for, but not many threads did contain discussions about FSU-Women & FemDom (in which I´m interested....    ).

Most the opinion was present, that FSU-Women are more into "strong" men, which are the heads of family.

OK - but my experiences shows me, that I´ve met a Ukrainian girl 7 years before in RL which lived 5 years in Austria and she showed all signs of a FemDom. I asked her frankly on first evening - she was surprised, told me that she is not experienced with but very interested. Unfortunately our both life surroundings did not really fit at this time.

On Lavaplace I came some times in contact with women, which I would not classify as scammer - skype, phone & more - everything was possible and never I was asked for money or other support. The problem was always, that I don´t really have a settled life - not less money, just restless & busy and very in my businesses. In confrontation with my BDSM-affinities around 70% was open minded for and with some I had nice chat evenings....   

So I do not think it will be difficult to find a woman which is interested in FemDom again.

I stopped last year with my search, but now I´m starting again. With an change in my paradigm concerning my work. I want to involve a Lady as my "Head Mistress" (unofficial *g*) in my company. Official as "personal consultant" resp. "personal coach" for me. So she is paid with her own salary and can accompany me on all business travels and events too.

She don´t leave her financial independence (can save the earned money fully, because I´m paying naturally for our common life), feels that she is important and needed. She is involved in decisions and that can make it easier for her in her FemDom-role.

On the other hand she can, if the necessary skills for an open position are given, develop in the company on other ways too.

Do you believe, that FSU-Women would like such a offer or is that an insult?

 
   

[Olly]

http://bdsmpeople.ru/

[tsr1959]

http://bdsmpeople.ru/

Thank´s - but this is not an answer to my question....

[Olly]

Thank´s - but this is not an answer to my question....

I think you have to look for woman what you want just on the special websites. Nothing is impossible 

[tsr1959]

I think you have to look for woman what you want just on the special websites. Nothing is impossible 

Again -  my question was not about to find FemDom!

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So I do not think it will be difficult to find a woman which is interested in FemDom again.
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[Eduard]

Do you believe, that FSU-Women would like such a offer or is that an insult?

 
   

How can any one speak for all FSU women? most will probably be insulted by such offer while some might be turned on by it. You just have to find the one that is interested in such lifestyle.

[Gator]

Do you believe, that FSU-Women would like such a offer or is that an insult?
 

RW would not like it because they don't need it.   Your offer would insult them because it does not recognize their natural talent as the world's experts in tormenting men mentally.    Physical domination is too unimaginative for a RW.   Besides, physical pain is mild compared to mental pain.

[Faux Pas]

Again -  my question was not about to find FemDom!

Well here's the deal tsr1959,  this is a website devoted to finding, dating and/or marrying a woman from the FSU. It's not a fetish, sex related forum per se' in the least. Seldom is the sexual nature of these women discussed as near as in depth as you are asking. Your reception thus far could be described as lukewarm so far yet your response to that, strikes me as a bit more demanding. Bottom line IMHO is, the advice already given you from Olly is pretty solid. Perhaps you should seek answers on a forum more related to your subject?

[Ranetka]

I want to involve a Lady as my "Head Mistress" (unofficial *g*) in my company. Official as "personal consultant" resp. "personal coach" for me. So she is paid with her own salary and can accompany me on all business travels and events too.


 
   

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[Daveman]

Again -  my question was not about to find FemDom!

You could spell out your question a little less ambiguously for those whose first language is not English.

Seems your question involves a 'business arrangement' twist on the 'kept woman' type scenario, with roles in business as well as personal life along with a vague (job?) offer to someone for the currently vacant position. 

Whether she would be offended depends on the precise details of the offer,  the point on the timeline of the 'relationship' when the offer was made, and the nature of the woman involved. 


Are you talking just bringing her on a business visa? or marriage? or finding someone local?  The problem is more logistical than anything else. You can find *whatever* you want in the FSU.  So you could definitely find a number who would be open to such a scenario.  Many would not be so open.  Also would depend upon where you met.  I'd say a higher chance of success on the site Olly listed than going over there randomly approaching women. 

[Lily]

As a FSU woman, I have no idea what does FemDom mean. To me, it rather sounds like a brand of tampons, or a contraceptive. Before asking a question, wouldn't it be good to clarify the subject matter?

[Ranetka]

As a FSU woman, I have no idea what does FemDom mean. To me, it rather sounds like a brand of tampons, or a contraceptive. Before asking a question, wouldn't it be good to clarify the subject matter?

A Domme, A Dominatrix.

[Faux Pas]

As a FSU woman, I have no idea what does FemDom mean. To me, it rather sounds like a brand of tampons, or a contraceptive. Before asking a question, wouldn't it be good to clarify the subject matter?

Lily, there's really no delicate way of stating it. tsr1959 is "appreciative" of a woman who would bound him, order him around, kick him in the balls, all the while hurling insults about his "endowment"

 

[tsr1959]

@Eduard:

You´re right in general. But I´m trying to do a good evaluation on all parameters.

@Gator: 

 

Please read my last sentence in this answer....   

@Faux Pas:

I know, that this platform is not sex related and I did not force anybody with detail. The pointer for the sexual preference was set for a better explaining of the whole situation.

On most platform with special BDSM focus are a lot of professional sex worker - waiting like spiders in the net.    My experience is, that many women are able to join FemDom-Lifestyle, although at first most of them can not believe it...

On your 2nd answer you are right if you see BDSM in general. But there are so many variations. Please read my last sentence in this answer....

@Ranetka:

You brought your first posting exactly to one point! 

@Daveman:

My first language is German and I know, that my English is poor in grammar and expression. I try to explain clearly but it can happen, that it seems ambiguously for other. I apologize for!

It is not really a currently vacant position like described. I try to find a possibility, to involve a Lady in my whole life. Giving her a perspective. She should not have the impression, that she is a toy for me. Because I know, that a woman on my side can really support me in different ways. It´s not a game!

My plan is a relationship leading to marriage. Under the aspects of FemDom, which is for me more mentally than physically interesting.....

[TheTraveler]

before i join this dialog, perhaps we should first establish a safe word.
 

[tsr1959]

before i join this dialog, perhaps we should first establish a safe word.

 

I´m nearly 50 years in BDSM - have never need one...

[Aloe]

I think i would make a great dominatrix. Take out some of that bottled anger. haha
I'm estimating that your offer will offend 60% of women or less. It is not like you are offering they be your hooker. You are just describing what your life with your femdom would be like, arent you?

[Gator]

I think i would make a great dominatrix.

I guess hubby would say you are already there except for the physical part.

[mies]

Last days I lurked around and used some searches for, but not many threads did contain discussions about FSU-Women & FemDom (in which I´m interested....    ).

Most the opinion was present, that FSU-Women are more into "strong" men, which are the heads of family.

OK - but my experiences shows me, that I´ve met a Ukrainian girl 7 years before in RL which lived 5 years in Austria and she showed all signs of a FemDom. I asked her frankly on first evening - she was surprised, told me that she is not experienced with but very interested. Unfortunately our both life surroundings did not really fit at this time.

On Lavaplace I came some times in contact with women, which I would not classify as scammer - skype, phone & more - everything was possible and never I was asked for money or other support. The problem was always, that I don´t really have a settled life - not less money, just restless & busy and very in my businesses. In confrontation with my BDSM-affinities around 70% was open minded for and with some I had nice chat evenings....   

So I do not think it will be difficult to find a woman which is interested in FemDom again.

I stopped last year with my search, but now I´m starting again. With an change in my paradigm concerning my work. I want to involve a Lady as my "Head Mistress" (unofficial *g*) in my company. Official as "personal consultant" resp. "personal coach" for me. So she is paid with her own salary and can accompany me on all business travels and events too.

She don´t leave her financial independence (can save the earned money fully, because I´m paying naturally for our common life), feels that she is important and needed. She is involved in decisions and that can make it easier for her in her FemDom-role.

On the other hand she can, if the necessary skills for an open position are given, develop in the company on other ways too.

Do you believe, that FSU-Women would like such a offer or is that an insult?

Here is a FemDom Russian style: (soviet classics of cinematography)

from 3'05"
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from 57'31"
 

[mies]

To the topic of your question (and I am speaking theoretically) - you want a woman who would be happy to combine two roles:
- in private life / unofficially (part-time - 20% of all time) she would be dominant
- in public/official life (40%-50% of all time) she will be your subordinate, fully dependent on you and submissive in a way.
The remaining % of time she will sleep.

IMHO, it requires a slight version of (multiple) personality disorder to naturally possess one set of features in the "official" environment, and automatically switch to other set of features in the "private" environment. Otherwise one role will be natural to the person and the other one will be unnatural but tolerated for money. Whether it would be an offense for woman to receive such offer - I suppose it depends on what is the amount of compensation you are offering, and what are additional benefits (how interesting of a partner you are for private life, etc).

I am not particularly knowledgeable in this area, but I think it should be easier to find a "personal assistant / slave" rather than a "personal assistant / Domina-Mistress"

Does this opinion address your question?

[tsr1959]

Here is a FemDom Russian style: (soviet classics of cinematography)....
 

Sorry that I´m not polite enough to watch the whole movie, although I´m sure it would give a lot of very important impressions to me. 

To the topic of your question (and I am speaking theoretically) - you want a woman who would be happy to combine two roles:
- in private life / unofficially (part-time - 20% of all time) she would be dominant
- in public/official life (40%-50% of all time) she will be your subordinate, fully dependent on you and submissive in a way.

Absolutely wrong. But it doesn´t matter. 

She should be 100% my partner. In private as well as in business. For getting the acceptance from other partners in different companies I´m involved I thought about her role as my personal coach. So it would be possible to integrate her easier.

I´m sure you know the duties of a personal coach, isn´t it? That has nothing to do with subordination.

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Does this opinion address your question?

As written above: No. 

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It is not like you are offering they be your hooker.

I´m not in need of a hooker and I do not want one!

You are just describing what your life with your femdom would be like, arent you?

Yes - it was a description of some thoughts - only possibilities/ideas - nothing is chiseled in stone.... I try to find the best way before I´m getting in contact.

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I'm estimating that your offer will offend 60% of women or less.

My brain has received the message. 

Coming to that point, this discussion was helpful for me! Thanks to all! 

[mies]

Sorry that I´m not polite enough to watch the whole movie, although I´m sure it would give a lot of very important impressions to me. 

This is why under the movie box you can see the times which suggest the most useful fragments of the movie.
The bottom line: the "dominant" russian women can be met in families where husband is a heavy drinker and completely dysfunctional - professionally and in family life. Therefore full burden of responsibility (household, bread-winning/family finances, children, etc) lies upon the frail female shoulders. It leads to a certain "professional deformation."

No, I am not familiar with a personal coach job description, have a vague understanding based on remarks of my acquaintances who have one. I pointed to a slightly different aspect of this role: even though you are offering an "independent" income to this woman - her income will fully depend on you, her job will be conditional on your satisfaction - particularly upon your satisfaction in a private life. A dependent person does not have a dominating role. She doesn't have the "bargaining power" to match yours, at least in the professional sphere. People who like to dominate don't like to be hand-fed. Whether they'd be offended by such offer - probably not, likely will ignore it or laugh it off. Having said that - i'm a true believer that in this world there is a couple/match for everybody, even with the most exotic tastes and ideas.

[tsr1959]

.... her income will fully depend on you, ....

OK - you want to tell it would be better to leave her alone at home with household chores?   

As told: I´m offering a partnership in business too. With duties, which will help to support business.

My imagination is, that´s much more easier for her to integrate herself in a common life which my method.

BTW - how independent is a woman, which is relocating in a foreign country for a marriage (or LTR leading to m.) in general? 

[BC]

OK - you want to tell it would be better to leave her alone at home with household chores?   

As told: I´m offering a partnership in business too. With duties, which will help to support business.

My imagination is, that´s much more easier for her to integrate herself in a common life which my method.

BTW - how independent is a woman, which is relocating in a foreign country for a marriage (or LTR leading to m.) in general?

In most cases pretty dependent.  That might conflict quite a bit with your desires, at least initially.

I lived in Germany for a good part of my life.  As far as being sexually open minded I found German women at the top of that list.

What is it that you have not been able to find locally that drives you to FSU?  I find that rather odd.

[mies]

OK - you want to tell it would be better to leave her alone at home with household chores?   

As told: I´m offering a partnership in business too. With duties, which will help to support business.

My imagination is, that´s much more easier for her to integrate herself in a common life which my method.

BTW - how independent is a woman, which is relocating in a foreign country for a marriage (or LTR leading to m.) in general?

not at all. I think if you will offer an attractive professional partnership package, you are likely to meet high interest. Much greater interest than when you are offering the modified/modernized KKK version.
How independent is a woman depends on: how independent is her personality (achiever vs. receiver), and whether she has a good income and a solid permanent residency status (in a way, all three requirements are somewhat connected). 

A funny coincidence: I just remembered that on one of the female forums there was a russian participant who is married to a German man, and she is a dominatrix. So you also may get lucky and find what you are looking for.