Question for members in the process and those who have been there and done that

[Ooooops]

Oooooops, you impress me as someone who is a lot of fun.

Yes, quite a lot, sometimes too much...   


Chicken Sperm balls...   cute...   


I have some too.   

[Shadow]

Oooooops, you impress me as someone who is a lot of fun. 
 
The Chinese menu translations are indeed hilarious.  I always wonder if the translations are done by a young son who enjoys playing a joke on his father and mother.  Or perhaps it is a sales technique (entertain customers & make them believe this is very authentic Chinese food).   Here are two examples:

The second picture is not of a Chinese menu.... 

[Muzh]

I think that your original question is different than many of the people are
answering.


A guy meets a girl with limited English. Then girl struggles in a very determined
way to learn English (and maybe the guy learns some Russian) they work very determinedly to communicate with each other.


After a period of time the girl's English improves greatly and their ability to communicate improves dramatically. Then they start planning a future together.


That is quite different than marrying a girl who can't speak a more than a words of English. I am not sure if any of the guys who posted here met the criteria of your 
original question because by the time they were married they were communicating at a relatively high level. Maybe she uses the wrong tense, or mangles a word or uses a completely wrong word, but the communication is present and improving constantly.


Just my two kopecks


Bill

Thanks Bill, you make an excellent point. This would be considered as lines of communications are wide open.

[GQBlues]

When two MOB strangers meet without a common language, they make a determined effort to find the very best way to open their lines of communication.

He: Is very attracted to her features...
She: Is very attracted to his feature.

He: Relies heavily upon a Google/electronic translator to get his message across...
She: Relies heavily upon an interpreter to get her message across....

The messages?

He: "She must show other evidences of the feeling! oh-la-lah!"
She: "He must prove other evidences of the feeling! Ka-ching!"

Seriously now, at this very early stage, 'love' have absolutely nothing to do to demand that much determination. It's the MOB, why kid yourselves. Fat wallet, big boobs rule!

[jone]

What happens if I don't have big boobs?

[GQBlues]

What happens if I don't have big boobs?

No problemo sen(i)or/a!

Fat wallet=Big boobs, fatter wallet=sex change..

Really? When did you 'come out'? 

[TomT]

When two MOB strangers meet without a common language, they make a determined effort to find the very best way to open their lines of communication.

He: Is very attracted to her features...
She: Is very attracted to his feature.

He: Relies heavily upon a Google/electronic translator to get his message across...
She: Relies heavily upon an interpreter to get her message across....

The messages?

He: "She must show other evidences of the feeling! oh-la-lah!"
She: "He must prove other evidences of the feeling! Ka-ching!"

Seriously now, at this very early stage, 'love' has absolutely nothing to do to demand that much determination. It's the MOB, why kid yourselves. Fat wallet, big boobs rule!

Even when the couple has a common language, things play out pretty much the same.

[fathertime]

Seriously now, at this very early stage, 'love' have absolutely nothing to do to demand that much determination. It's the MOB, why kid yourselves. Fat wallet, big boobs rule!

 I’m going to have to agree with that one.  Wallet and boobs is often where it starts…what it spins into depends on the two participants. 
Fathertime!

[Gator]

Chicken Sperm balls...   cute...   

The other one, medium rare chicken sprinkled with herpes simplex virus, is definitely not cute, and I would have lost my appetite upon reading it.

[Gator]

Seriously now, at this very early stage, 'love' have absolutely nothing to do to demand that much determination.
 

There's no love for sure.   I have always believed that true love takes time for which there is no substitute.   And  without a common language true love takes even more time based on my experience.   
 
 
 

It's the MOB, why kid yourselves. Fat wallet, big boobs rule!

At the end of our first meeting in Moscow over New Year's, I clearly was fascinated with the Cossack woman and wanted to see her again.  With an interpreter I explained my positive feelings and she explained hers. 
 
She described how she had been married to a very wealthy RM (large home, indoor pool, live-in help, etc.).  She said it not to impress me but to make an important point that she did not love him, it was a bad marriage, and if she ever married again, it would be for love and not money, other than enough to feel secure. 
 
I know you think it is BS, and it did surprise me.  When we talked about my life in Florida, I mentioned only my sons and the warm weather.  We parted with her probably thinking that because I am retired I lived like retired Russians (meaning, not well). 
 
We agreed to meet again, and we did in Thailand.  There we had no interpreter, so no serious talk, just the ocean, outdoor dining on a cliff with the full moon shimmering on the sea below, private Jacuzzi, massages, excursions, and a huge lizard in our room.  Serious talk would have spoiled the fun.

[Anotherkiwi]

...There we had no interpreter, so no serious talk, just the ocean, outdoor dining on a cliff with the full moon shimmering on the sea below, private Jacuzzi, massages, excursions, and a huge lizard in our room.  Serious talk would have spoiled the fun.

I'm not sure how much the lizard would have contributed!   Are you talking gecko, baby iguana or water monitor in size? 

[Daveman]

I've been there, done that, and have the t-shirt - back about the same time Gator met his Wife.  Both of us were dating women with whom neither of us shared a common language.  His eventually worked out. Mine didn't.

I swore to myself "never again" because it was such a pain in the butt.  Most of the things I enjoy about a relationship - deep conversations about a wide variety of topics, sense of humor, etc., were sorely lacking.  We wrote letters through a translator.  We learned about each other but never really got to know each other.  Eventually the eight month relationship fizzled and died. 

I'd say it was more because of me. She wanted to roll the dice after the first visit.  I wouldn't file for her visa because I wanted us to take more time, visit a few more times, develop more communication skills which didn't involve hand signals, goofy faces, etc. 

Perhaps neither of us was truly patient and devoted enough. Perhaps she was just too young for me (16 year difference and, in retrospect, I clearly understand that I never viewed her as my "equal"-- lesson learned)...  so, whether age difference or language barrier, or lack of any depth to maintain interest, it just wasn't to be.  I certainly don't regret it and remember her fondly, but I learned some very important lessons about my own  tolerance levels and must have needs. 

Absolutely wasn't for me.  Hell, the gender communication barrier is battle enough.. throwing language problems on top of it is a recipe for self induced madness.

[pitbull]

A relationship without sharing a common language would never work for me personally. And by sharing a common language I do not mean the level of "I vant this shoes, honey" - "OK, but BJ first, honey"


I mean having deep and profound conversations, to assess compatibility on all possible levels. I find very high IQ and ability to have a stimulating conversation incredibly sexy in a man and this is what I fall in love with.

And enjoying each other's sense of humor - ability to joke in a different language happens on high learning levels 

However, some women's dream relationship is with a mute hybrid between a wallet and a vibrator. Wallet function of course being more important of the two 

[ML]

And by sharing a common language I do not mean the level of "I vant this shoes, honey" - "OK, but BJ first, honey"

You mean you think the shoes should come first?

[Hammer2722]

You mean you think the shoes should come first?

 

[pitbull]

You mean you think the shoes should come first?

It depends on what your prenuptial agreement stipulates 

[ML]

It depends on what your prenuptial agreement stipulates 

Can a prenuptial stipulate that there will be premarital nipping?
And if yes, then can the nuptial and marital be skipped?

[Gator]

I'm not sure how much the lizard would have contributed!   Are you talking gecko, baby iguana or water monitor in size? 

I am not a herpetologist, yet I am a naturalist.  My research suggests it was a Great Anglehead Lizard, about 60 cm in length.
http://www.ecologyasia.com/verts/lizards/great-anglehead-lizard.htm
 

[Gator]

I find very high IQ and ability to have a stimulating conversation incredibly sexy....

There are many women like you.  Fond memories.  God bless them all.   

[GQBlues]

The idea of two people never having to say anything to each other because they don't share the same language just really touched me. So romantic in fact, I am designating a soundtrack especially for this topic. Lyrically appropriate.
 
Just the very thought of it gives rise to Willy, the woody.
 

 
 

[Gator]

The idea of two people never having to say anything to each other because they don't share the same language just really touched me. So romantic in fact, I am designating a soundtrack especially for this topic. Lyrically appropriate.

 
 
Interesting use of the word lyrically.
 
Some people are lyrical in the sense of its recognized definition.  In this sense, they are imaginative and emotive.  Their style can be very expressive.   Now add animated, cheerful and playful.    Some people are this way.  Not all the time, but much of the time. 
 
In contrast other people can be very serious, a stick-in-the-mud.  No need to elaborate. 
 
I can  enjoy my time with the lyrical doing nothing in particular.  The latter people can be boring.    I may not know if the lyrical person is religious; however, I don't care when I am having fun.
 

[GQBlues]

 
 
Interesting use of the word lyrically....

Yes, yes, yes! I was expressing a deep personal, emotive reaction when I thought of the song and thoughts two strangers just looking at each other so passionaetly without ever having to say a 'word' (much less two) for a minute, and a day, to a week...for months and on and on...years, even!
 
I am soooo touched.
 
"Love, look at the two of us. Strangers...in so many ways....
Let's take a lifetime to share, so much to say (lol), and as we go...from day to day..
I feel you (it) close to me...."
 
::::::sigh:::::::
 
Down blue Willy Down! phew, sorry 

[pitbull]

 
 

 
Some people are lyrical in the sense of its recognized definition.  In this sense, they are imaginative and emotive.  Their style can be very expressive.   Now add animated, cheerful and playful.    Some people are this way.  Not all the time, but much of the time. 
 

No offense, but this sounds like you are describing a puppy, not a human life partner.  a puppy you can have sex with

[Gator]

No offense, but this sounds like you are describing a puppy, not a human life partner. 
 
Maybe to you if you have not spent time with a spirited artist.   You can do it, just let your mind loose from the controls you have placed on it.  I admit the intuitive nature of such folks can be a load when its time to be thorough and analytical; however the good times are better than good - they are glorious.
 

  a puppy you can have sex with

This is your idea of a joke?  I would have thought some of those intellectual conversations you proclaim would have sharpened your wit. 

[pitbull]

This is your idea of a joke?  I would have thought some of those intellectual conversations you proclaim would have sharpened your wit.

Nope, this is not a joke, which is quite sad actually. It's just an observation. "Gonna go to the FSU and buy me one of them "animated, cheerful and playful"  puppy ladies.   A "thoroughbred" one no less