Women with Children - more strongly worded advice

[jmana]

Only the courts can evict anyone.  For as long as she is married to you, even if she were cheating, she still has spousal rights to include residence. 

She left either because she did not know her rights and you bullied her, or she desperately wanted out.

Where did she go?

I guess if she didn't leave I probably would have been stuck with her.  I have no idea where she went, didn't care, I just wanted her gone.

[Southpaw1982]

Only the courts can evict anyone.  For as long as she is married to you, even if she were cheating, she still has spousal rights to include residence. 

She left either because she did not know her rights and you bullied her, or she desperately wanted out.

Where did she go?

Notice, he deleted the post...It is illegal to put somebody on the street. But he pushed me in front of our son, then after I went to my friend's house, I was hoping to come back and talk things over, but then I saw a post on craigslist "dinner anyone?? " by him...I was like "oh, he is done"... 

[jmana]

I do find it extremely amusing that he says I left him because I wanted to be a "model “ and not a mother,  but not a word about him running me out of our house

Your words.  And you're damn right I "ran you out of our house" because when I found out you were messing around with another guy, there was no reason for you to be there. 

[jmana]

Notice, he deleted the post...It is illegal to put somebody on the street. But he pushed me in front of our son, then after I went to my friend's house, I was hoping to come back and talk things over, but then I saw a post on craigslist "dinner anyone?? " by him...I was like "oh, he is done"...

I didn't delete it, the moderator did, because I used a naughty word, and apparently we can't use naughty words on this forum because it might offend someone's sensitivities.  And you really want to lie about me pushing you in front of our son??  You want to ask him about that one?? 

[Gator]

Muzh,

Sounds like Pink Flamingos is tamer than Salo.  Neither film seems worthy of watching twice, much less showing to an 18-yo newlywed wife form a different culture.

Both films are tame compared with Going Down on the Farm.  That's a sick joke as  such a film does not exist (at least I hope not). 

[Southpaw1982]

Your words.  And you're damn right I "ran you out of our house" because when I found out you were messing around with another guy, there was no reason for you to be there.

No I wasn't. Even if I was, you still had no right. No anger issues, huh... lol

[Southpaw1982]

I didn't delete it, the moderator did, because I used a naughty word, and apparently we can't use naughty words on this forum because it might offend someone's sensitivities.  And you really want to lie about me pushing you in front of our son??  You want to ask him about that one??

You pushed me. My son saw it. What you brainwashed him already? But, you just happened not know that I had him saying that on tape lol Drop it you look like an ass. I will see you in court.

[jmana]

No I wasn't. Even if I was, you still had no right.

Really?  So you emailing some dude saying "I can't wait to taste your soft lips again" isn't cheating??  And don't deny that one, because I'd GLADLY post that email here for all your beloved fans to see.  I'm sure that GQBlues guy would explode just imagining it

[AnonMod]

I didn't delete it, the moderator did, because I used a naughty word, and apparently we can't use naughty words on this forum because it might offend someone's sensitivities.  And you really want to lie about me pushing you in front of our son??  You want to ask him about that one??

No, you can't use naughty words because it is against the Terms of Service.  You know, the ones you read and agree to abide by when you sign up here?

Knock it off.   Abide by forum rules and your posts will remain intact. 

[BillyB]

I was hoping to come back and talk things over, but then I saw a post on craigslist "dinner anyone?? " by him...I was like "oh, he is done"...

With all the bad about jmana you've disclosed here, why would you want to come back? It seems he had the right to be upset with something you've done and you wanted to apologize and get a second chance.


It's safe to conclude you both had your faults for the demise of the marriage. Right now it's best to move on instead of finger pointing on who's to blame.

[jmana]

You pushed me. My son saw it. What you brainwashed him already? But, you just happened not know that I had him saying that on tape lol Drop it you look like an ass. I will see you in court.

Yeah, sure thing crazy lady.  And let me ask you, what exactly would you think you could accomplish by going to court anyway?  You think you can get custody?  You do realize he's old enough to decide where he wants to live, and he for sure would never want to live with you, he's made that very clear to me!  And he's made that decision based on not knowing the truth about you, because I've sheltered him from all that.  Do you really want me to have to explain to him what and who you REALLY are?? 

[Muzh]

(un)fortunately, jmana will always be the father of your child. Drop the hostility with him for the sake of your son. His only connection with you is your son. You're no longer obligated to breathe a breath in your day for his benefit any longer. Sometimes the very best 'revenge' is not saying anything, just him knowing what you think of him and be done with that. Silence can sometimes be far more telling and lethal.

Hear, hear!!!

[Daveman]

The problem with water under the bridge is that if it doesn't keep movin' on, all manner of pollution comes up from the bottom when you stir it... even a little

[jmana]

With all the bad about jmana you've disclosed here, why would you want to come back? It seems he had the right to be upset with something you've done and you wanted to apologize and get a second chance.


It's safe to conclude you both had your faults for the demise of the marriage. Right now it's best to move on instead of finger pointing on who's to blame.

She didn't want to come back, it was over from the day she got citizenship.  That's when she stopped acting, and when I realized she was an empty vessel.  And I was so happy to have her out of my life that yeah, I couldn't wait to meet someone who was interesting to talk to, I was so tired of living with someone that I couldn't even have a conversation with!  And she cheated on me, so why would I wait around?  Life's short, I'm not one to sit around, I take life by the horns!

[LiveFromUkraine]

She didn't want to come back, it was over from the day she got citizenship.  That's when she stopped acting, and when I realized she was an empty vessel.  And I was so happy to have her out of my life that yeah, I couldn't wait to meet someone who was interesting to talk to, I was so tired of living with someone that I couldn't even have a conversation with!  And she cheated on me, so why would I wait around?  Life's short, I'm not one to sit around, I take life by the horns!

If that is the case, why marry a woman who would rather spend her time on the computer looking at japanese boy bands or whatever it is she does?

[jmana]

If that is the case, why marry a woman who would rather spend her time on the computer looking at japanese boy bands or whatever it is she does?

It's not like that anymore, I think she spent so much time with that initially because she didn't know what to do with herself.   It's still her "hobby", but doesn't consume nearly as much time as it did (thankfully!).

[Muzh]

blah blah
 
How much culpability? 

She's a broad. Simples.

[Southpaw1982]

Yeah, sure thing crazy lady.  And let me ask you, what exactly would you think you could accomplish by going to court anyway?  You think you can get custody?  You do realize he's old enough to decide where he wants to live, and he for sure would never want to live with you, he's made that very clear to me!  And he's made that decision based on not knowing the truth about you, because I've sheltered him from all that.  Do you really want me to have to explain to him what and who you REALLY are??

I will tell him the truth myself when he is old enough.
Going to court for them to order you to take a parenting class and possibly to get some porn addict counseling . I am totally ok if he wants to live with you, unlike you, I don't treat him as a source revenue or property. Besides, I don't mind you and Alina working for me, you make great babysitters, just don't show him porn!

[Southpaw1982]

I guess if she didn't leave I probably would have been stuck with her.  I have no idea where she went, didn't care, I just wanted her gone.

I wanted out! You scared me.

[fathertime]

After a few pages of reading I concluded the whole story was hogwash...just for chain yanking purposes. ..if anybody credible has met or spoke with the main participant(s) I stand corrected.

Fathertime!

[Southpaw1982]

Really?  So you emailing some dude saying "I can't wait to taste your soft lips again" isn't cheating??  And don't deny that one, because I'd GLADLY post that email here for all your beloved fans to see.  I'm sure that GQBlues guy would explode just imagining it

LOL sure Post it   lol I made out with someone who was willing to help me move to get away from you...During that time we lived in separate rooms already. My relationship was over with you anyways, you still could not push me or abuse me the way you did. It is nothing like disturbing porn memory... lol
What does it matter now?

[Southpaw1982]

She didn't want to come back, it was over from the day she got citizenship.  That's when she stopped acting, and when I realized she was an empty vessel.  And I was so happy to have her out of my life that yeah, I couldn't wait to meet someone who was interesting to talk to, I was so tired of living with someone that I couldn't even have a conversation with!  And she cheated on me, so why would I wait around?  Life's short, I'm not one to sit around, I take life by the horns!

It was over way before that! Actually, nothing to begin with...you are giving me way too much credit on that one. Yes, I got my fully blown rights to function in the country and moved on to better things. Was I acting or was into you and then you pushed me...you wanted me out of your life and you get mad that someone else was helping me...make up your mind! You are mad that I left, or mad because you kicked me out, because you did not want me around and did not want anyone else to have me...I am confused...

[Southpaw1982]

It's not like that anymore, I think she spent so much time with that initially because she didn't know what to do with herself.   It's still her "hobby", but doesn't consume nearly as much time as it did (thankfully!).

I changed all of the sudden after 4 years of being married to him, but this chic changes in a week..... lol

[Southpaw1982]

After a few pages of reading I concluded the whole story was hogwash...just for chain yanking purposes. ..if anybody credible has met or spoke with the main participant(s) I stand corrected.

Fathertime!

Exactly. Credible people should just cut the satire and look at facts. Opinions without evidence hold no water.

[Southpaw1982]

I couldn't wait to meet someone who was interesting to talk to...

And I had no right to be appreciated else where... Why self centered?