why didn't I find this site sooner!!! Need advice please!

[stuckmojo]

Got a new refund from 1st international. It was only an extra $100 back but its something.

I have also done video chat with a beautiful woman from ElenasModels and talking with a model from another site I joined through skype!! She calls me via skype throughout the day and again just before bed!

I would not believe it if it was happening to someone else! I'm just a normal guy- I am fit and well mannered but never dreamed of having a model interested in me!


 

[BillyB]

Got a new refund from 1st international. It was only an extra $100 back but its something.

Did they give a specific reason why they're increasing the refund? Maybe they are reading this forum?

I have also done video chat with a beautiful woman from ElenasModels and talking with a model from another site I joined through skype!! She calls me via skype throughout the day and again just before bed!

Sincere women tend to give their favorite the most attention. You may be her favorite. Don't screw it up.

I'm just a normal guy- I am fit and well mannered but never dreamed of having a model interested in me!

Some models dream of having a normal guy in their life instead of the playboys and deadbeats that normally flock to them.

I would not believe it if it was happening to someone else!

You still have to seal the deal and you're months away from that happening but it can happen.

[stuckmojo]

BillyB-

No explanation on the extra $100. I did complain that they did not pay me the total 30 day refund after I received the original $28.50..

I'm going to file another complaint that the additional $100 is still not the total 30 days.

As for the model, (I'll call her O)

O has not once asked me about my income or profession. She does know I work but has not inquired further. I have not mentioned the house or cars I own and she has not asked. Her complaint about EU men is they have used her for her money in the past and expected her to provide.

She does want to stop modeling to have a family and raise children. She knows I have full custody of my children and loves that. (I think that is what got her attention)

I also have to continue to reassure her that I'm interested!! This is very backwards!! Her eyes already smile when we are on skype!

I know this is only the beginning stages and I know I'm nowhere near sealing the deal but strangely the odds seem to be in my favor!

More info- O has shared family photos, natural photos, photos from magazines she's appeared in etc.. I'm truly more or less in shock but trying hard to play it cool with her without seeming disinterested.

[BillyB]

She knows I have full custody of my children and loves that. (I think that is what got her attention)

For a court to give a father full custody over a mother says something. She recognizes that but there has to be more about you that she likes. She probably likes the way you talk that keeps her interested. Although you think you're normal, she may find you very attractive.

Her complaint about EU men is they have used her for her money in the past and expected her to provide.

Don't ever tell her you got used by a woman or scammed by agencies thinking you're going to get the same sympathy that you're giving her when she was taken advantage of. We make mistakes and grow wiser so what happened in the past will not repeat in the future, right? She needs to know you make good decisions and not a man that gets ran over by others.

I also have to continue to reassure her that I'm interested!!

Don't overdo it and don't give her the impression you're in awe of her. When girls like you, they are not likely to end the conversation. I always end the conversation with ladies first and it leaves them wanting more. Don't ever get to the point of talking too much and making them want to hear less.

Have you two talked about visiting yet? She may be the first to bring it up. Do not rush and say "yes" until you figure her out to where you're comfortable you can live with her. Have you read enough hear to understand when people debate hot topics such as politics, abortion, or the roles people play in marriage lead to people hating each other? I like most people here but I probably couldn't live with 95% of the people on an everyday basis. Don't flood her with tons of questions but bring up serious questions every once in a while. Women will like it when you are asking serious questions because it means you're serious about them and you will not just marry anybody. Make sure you don't give your answers to your questions first. Figure out what's in O's mind without you influencing it.

Some other things I talk about to ladies aren't serious but it gives the ladies the idea I've got skills. I may fix a toilet, repair or change the oil in my truck or building remote control airplanes for a hobby and let them know what's on the agenda for the day. The ladies we communicate with value our minds and abilities more than we value theirs.

How far out are you from being able to fly to her? Once you determined she's a winner, you need to make a move fast. It would be unfair to her to put her life on hold if you tell her to wait 4 months for you to arrive. There have been guys that waited too long and their lady ends up choosing another man that makes things happen.

More info- O has shared family photos, natural photos, photos from magazines she's appeared in etc.. I'm truly more or less in shock but trying hard to play it cool with her without seeming disinterested.

You have found a girl I like to tell men to find before getting on a plane. She is sharing her life with you and happy to talk to you on a regular basis. Have you shared your life with her in photos?

[GatoMoon]

I joined 1st international (don't laugh)

[stuckmojo]

BillyB-

Very good advice. It is very appreciated. I've tried to read many posts here to learn a bit of the EW mentality.. I'll admit I still know very little which is why I am open to advice from those who have the experience.

O has asked if I was willing to visit her and my response was yes, but once we both know a bit more about each other.

I have read here how even a "maybe" is taken as a yes and was cautious with my words. Fortunately, I am self employed and surrounded by family willing to help with my children for me to travel and I have the financial capacity to do so.

The tough questions still need to be answered. Been through a divorce and never want to repeat that process.

Yes, I have also shared my life openly trying to match her level. I figured if her showing me something is important I should show the same.

The skills is something I've never thought about but have done a little of without planning just by speaking of my day. One example was me leaving a job site to go help my sister- I was amazed at how important she thought it was that I would something like that.

She clearly is very different than women I have met in Florida. Maybe it is the culture, maybe it is her.. All I know is she seems special.

Now to figure out what to do about my Odessa trip in May... This is not good! O lives in Russia!

[BillyB]

O has asked if I was willing to visit her and my response was yes, but once we both know a bit more about each other.

Your response is one of the reasons she likes you. You won't jump on a plane for any pretty face. You care about what is in her mind.

The skills is something I've never thought about but have done a little of without planning just by speaking of my day. One example was me leaving a job site to go help my sister- I was amazed at how important she thought it was that I would something like that.

A few years ago I took up a hobby of building computers for myself, my wife, and others and my wife was blown away I had the skills to do that. It's nothing for me but for ladies, it's good for them to have a handy/helpful man in the house.

Now to figure out what to do about my Odessa trip in May... This is not good! O lives in Russia!

Cancel your trip to Odessa if O is worth seeing. You may be able to change your tickets for an additional fee to O's city in Russia. Do not get the idea of inviting O to Odessa. Odessa is known for sex tourism and hookers since it's a port city. Try to get to know her life where she lives and if she introduces you to family and friends, you'll know she really likes you.

[stuckmojo]

I do think O is worth it. Right now I'm glad I paid the extra $40 fee with my flight allowing me to cancel, postpone or take a credit towards another flight.

Last thing I need is O thinking I'm a sex tourist.