Got a "Dear John" today.

[MaxxumUSA]

The answer is simple... a REAL/GOOD/GENUINE girl WILL NOT tell you that you are the special person in her life before meeting...  The type of woman you should be looking for would never do it anyway.

The scammers are professionals... they know EXACTLY how to extract money...  it is a business!

Next time anyone expresses feelings like that BEFORE it would be reasonable to expect the same reaction at home you should simply delete and feel a sense of achievement by striking off another scammer and making room for a genuine girl.

Kuna

Kuna...

To some extent I agree.  BUT...  My message is:  Do not be overly paranoid.  Me and Elena had immediate attraction and connection to each other as soon as we started talking on skype.  We talked every day for 30 minutes or more.  About three days after we started skyping we both had plans that meant we could not skype for a day.  We both noted how much we missed each other - three days into our relationship.  Within a couple weeks of conversation we noted that we were both starting to have feelings for each other.

We talked for only one month before I visited.  By that time we were both exclusive, had hidden our profiles from all others, and told each other we love each other my first visit.  This was in Jan/Feb of this year.  Seven months later and we still miss each other when we're not together.  We are also more and more in love as we get to know each other.

I attribute me and Elena's success to a few things.  First - we were both available emotionally and mentally.  Second - we were both READY and wanting an exlusive relationship with a special someone.  Third - mutual attraction.  Those things were before we met.  After we met in person - the attraction turned into a fantastic physical connection.  And...  we have such fun when we're together.  My last visit there were many times that we just sat and talked and talked and talked and talked without paying attention to the world around us.

Now - with all the paperwork, travel arrangements, and life planning associated with the K-1 and her returning with me on my next visit - I can honestly say we work very well together as a team.

My point is - had I ditched Elena the first time she told me about her feelings - which was very early - I would have missed out on this wonderful woman.

[phantom]

I'll be contacting Richard shortly, but I was writing that other girl at the cindy agency, that wrote me the dear john.  I kept getting letters from one of the girls I stopped writing, and finaly wrote her back, explaining to her about how things happen, the girl meets someone else and tells you not to bother coming.  So, today she sent me a letter saying that she'd wait for me, no matter.  Even told her about the passport deal, but she still said she'd wait for me.  Should it even be trusted?

Just curious.

[Simoni]

I'll be contacting Richard shortly, but I was writing that other girl at the cindy agency, that wrote me the dear john.  I kept getting letters from one of the girls I stopped writing, and finaly wrote her back, explaining to her about how things happen, the girl meets someone else and tells you not to bother coming.  So, today she sent me a letter saying that she'd wait for me, no matter.  Even told her about the passport deal, but she still said she'd wait for me.  Should it even be trusted?

Just curious.

I would not do a WOVO  to this girl.  If she is part of the mix of a half dozen girls, fine.  But a girl in waiting is still fair game to the first guy that shows up...so no, not to be trusted.  Even if her intentions are good, she might still be swayed by another.

I think going to Tver and having Richard manage your vist is the best idea.

[TigerPaws]

Sorry for the bad news, Phantom.   My advice to everyone is to NOT have a long letter exchange with any girl.  Better to write 5 or 6 girls three letters and then go meet them.  If you write too long, some other guy might follow my advice and meet the girl you are writing....and steal here away. Happens all the time.

Better to just go there and meet her. Good luck.

Phantom,

Simoni is right additionally if you are concerned about such a little amount then maybe you need to rethink this process if you truly can afford it. Other's have already said a great deal so far in this thread, please listen to them, get together with Rvrwind and head over the pond as soon as you are able if you decide to continue.

Good luck.

TigerPaws

[phantom]

Phantom,

Simoni is right additionally if you are concerned about such a little amount then maybe you need to rethink this process if you truly can afford it. Other's have already said a great deal so far in this thread, please listen to them, get together with Rvrwind and head over the pond as soon as you are able if you decide to continue.

Good luck.

TigerPaws

I'll be getting with Rvrwind, the concern wasn't the amount, it was a passport issue.  But, I'll have it soon.  Then I'll be heading over the pond.  This is what I intend on doing. 

[TigerPaws]

Cool! Have a great time and be sure to post a trip report.

TigerPaws

[Wayne B]

Phantom, write a few women and set some time a side for meeting them....but, more important is this is supposed to be your holiday.....enjoy this.... learn about the culture....maybe have one or more of the women show you some of her city.....don't let people that write in blue riddles discourage you......you know what you can do