What age would be preferrable to RW?

[AnastassiaAsh]

Scott,
Kind of like when you called me a liar when I quoted your post?  When it was your words?
KenC

            

[Serebro]

Why are you all arguing?!

[AnastassiaAsh]

Yeah, dear ladies and genglemen, how about calming down and having wonderful weekend with your spouses. Don't know about you, after all this I need lots of  from mine. 

[Turboguy]

Why are you all arguing?!

Because it is fun!

[KenC]

Ironically, our resident genius choose to berate me by calling me names (Bully), which is an unfair conclusion and also happens to be his definition of being a "bully."  You have to see the humor in that!
 
KenC

[I/O]

Why are you all arguing?!

'Cos we are just a twisted bunch of misfits with nothing better to do.  Well that's my excuse anyway.

Note to Turbo: You are sitting on a tropical island with a woman half your age and you call this fun. :hairraising: :hairraising: I think you should come have a quiet talk with me.  I could make some much better suggestions about fun.

I/O

[ScottinCrimea]

KenC, your displays of insecure bullying go way beyond this.  It was just when I was able to step up and call you on it that you had a problem.  Yes, I made a mistake about that incident, but at the time I couldn't recall the statement in question and my search turned up negative.  But does one incident of admitted error on my part equalize the many incidences of rudeness on your part?  I think not.  By the way, the definition of bully was yours.

[jb]

Hummmmm,,, let's see, we now have another 19 or 20 pages added to the ten thousand or so already in the archives regarding large age gaps, and what have you proved?  Only that Forest Gump was very wise when he said; "stupid is as stupid does".  Attacking Mrs. Ash, or her opinion, will not change the risk a couple take on when they play with fire.  And you may take it to the bank, any one who advocates big age gap marriages is playing with fire.  Do I have hard evidence to back up that statement?  Of course not, only anecdotally.   I only have personal observations going back 7, 8, or 9 years on boards just like this one.  I can't count the number of "crash and burn" stories I've read on these boards where there was either a lack of a common language, or there was a great disparity in ages which spelled the end to so many of these fantasies.  I can count the number of successful marriages with large age gaps on the fingers of my own two hands.  It isn't a big number.

Personally, I think AnastassiaAsh has the right of it, attacking her because she shines some light into the dark corners of weird fantasy, denigrating her education, or saying she's not qualified to state an opinion on the topic just because she hasn't lived here a long time, is just pure mean spirited BS.  She is, IMHO, far better qualified to comment on the evils of 30 year age gaps by virture of her birth place than any one else here.  I think it just pisses some people off because she didn't have to settle for some old limp dick to get married. 

In my opinion, RWD is lucky to have her as a contributing member.

[AnastassiaAsh]

'Cos we are just a twisted bunch of misfits with nothing better to do.  Well that's my excuse anyway.

Note to Turbo: You are sitting on a tropical island with a woman half your age and you call this fun. :hairraising: :hairraising: I think you should come have a quiet talk with me.  I could make some much better suggestions about fun.

I/O

Yeah, i can't quite understand that either. 

[Turboguy]

Note to Turbo: You are sitting on a tropical island with a woman half your age and you call this fun. :hairraising: :hairraising: I think you should come have a quiet talk with me.  I could make some much better suggestions about fun.

I/O

 

Now you tell me.

[KenC]

WOW, jb!!! 
Well said.
 
KenC

[AnastassiaAsh]

Hummmmm,,, let's see, we now have another 19 or 20 pages added to the ten thousand or so already in the archives regarding large age gaps, and what have you proved?  Only that Forest Gump was very wise when he said; "stupid is as stupid does".  Attacking Mrs. Ash, or her opinion, will not change the risk a couple take on when they play with fire.  And you may take it to the bank, any one who advocates big age gap marriages is playing with fire.  Do I have hard evidence to back up that statement?  Of course not, only anecdotally.   I only have personal observations going back 7, 8, or 9 years on boards just like this one.  I can't count the number of "crash and burn" stories I've read on these boards where there was either a lack of a common language, or there was a great disparity in ages which spelled the end to so many of these fantasies.  I can count the number of successful marriages with large age gaps on the fingers of my own two hands.  It isn't a big number.

Personally, I think AnastassiaAsh has the right of it, attacking her because she shines some light into the dark corners of weird fantasy, denigrating her education, or saying she's not qualified to state an opinion on the topic just because she hasn't lived here a long time, is just pure mean spirited BS.  She is, IMHO, far better qualified to comment on the evils of 30 year age gaps by virture of her birth place than any one else here.  I think it just pisses some people off because she didn't have to settle for some old limp dick to get married. 

In my opinion, RWD is lucky to have her as a contributing member.

AMEN!

[Turboguy]

I didn't notice anyone having any objecton at all to Anastassia voicing her opinion.  We are all delighted to hear it and everyone feels she is more than entitled to her "opinion". 

[Jazzyclassy]

Hummmmm,,, let's see, we now have another 19 or 20 pages added to the ten thousand or so already in the archives regarding large age gaps, and what have you proved?  Only that Forest Gump was very wise when he said; "stupid is as stupid does".  Attacking Mrs. Ash, or her opinion, will not change the risk a couple take on when they play with fire.  And you may take it to the bank, any one who advocates big age gap marriages is playing with fire.  Do I have hard evidence to back up that statement?  Of course not, only anecdotally.   I only have personal observations going back 7, 8, or 9 years on boards just like this one.  I can't count the number of "crash and burn" stories I've read on these boards where there was either a lack of a common language, or there was a great disparity in ages which spelled the end to so many of these fantasies.  I can count the number of successful marriages with large age gaps on the fingers of my own two hands.  It isn't a big number.

Personally, I think AnastassiaAsh has the right of it, attacking her because she shines some light into the dark corners of weird fantasy, denigrating her education, or saying she's not qualified to state an opinion on the topic just because she hasn't lived here a long time, is just pure mean spirited BS.  She is, IMHO, far better qualified to comment on the evils of 30 year age gaps by virture of her birth place than any one else here.  I think it just pisses some people off because she didn't have to settle for some old limp dick to get married. 

In my opinion, RWD is lucky to have her as a contributing member.

You are always so wise dear JB, I do not understand people who say something against you

[I/O]

At least this seems to have gotten me onto 4 people's "Ignored" list. 

I/O

[BC]

WOW, jb!!! 
Well said.
 
KenC

Yepper.. one of those illuminating moments when sh!t hits the fan..

Hut ab!

[Jazzyclassy]

I/O  those who ignore you , are ignorant

never worry you are wonderful person and the  greatest poster on this board

people do not understand  that it is horrible  to provoke and attack others, they do it like Tubor sais cos it amuses him, which to my mind is crazy , to get fun from arguing???? since when it is supposed to be amusing

that is called energetic vampiring to get fun and to be satisfied with negative emotions which people are expressing while they are arguing

Kinda low culture ......

[catzenmouse]

You are always so wise dear JB, I do not understand people who say something against you

Most often it is because those same people get their feelings hurt by the truth. In cases like that I just think about that other old saying.... "You just can't fix stupid" 

Ken

[WHHatton]

. I will just send you some people and you will try to advise, console and solve thier problems spending 50 hours FOR FREE, OK? Only with great results then too... 

AnastasiaAsh,

People should and need to solve their own problems by themselves or fail and move on IMHO.

You have already admitted you are not a trained, licensed or qualified counselor, yet you are charging people for similar services while you are charging them for other services. This sound very suspicious at best and a the very least a conflict of interest, of course if you were a trained and licensed professional counselor you would already know this.

 

[WHHatton]

'Cos we are just a twisted bunch of misfits with nothing better to do.  Well that's my excuse anyway.

Note to Turbo: You are sitting on a tropical island with a woman half your age and you call this fun. Sounds like FUN to me I think you should come have a quiet talk with me. Now that is both a frighting thought :hairraising: and it sounds a bit kinky :noidea:  I could make some much better suggestions about fun. Interesting statement I/O, personally being I can think of little else I would like to be doing besides being on a tropical island with a beautiful 20 something woman (RW or not)

I/O

[jb]

WHHatton,

People should and need to solve their own problems by themselves or fail and move on IMHO.

That's good advice, it's too bad no one will ever take it.  Especially some 55 or 60 y.o. geezer AM who is suddenly receiving the attention of a 20's something hottie.  I'm always amazed at how powerfully little head thinking can so adversely affect an otherwise perfectly sane mans behavior.

You have already admitted you are not a trained, licensed or qualified counselor, yet you are charging people for similar services while you are charging them for other services.

Both you and Scott have made this point several times, why do you have a problem with this?   Is she taking bread off your table?  The fact remains the lady should be paid for her time if a client asks for her advice based on the fact that she is a Russian woman married to an American and perhaps has some better insight to his problems than any licensed counselor could possibly offer.   In my view, the client is asking for highly specialized advice and there is probably no license for that kind of expertise.     It surely doesn't bother me, and I'm a duly registered professional consultant who believes in charging the client for every hour of service I provide.   FWIW, I've been married to a RW for over 5 years and there is no way I could get inside the head of a Russian woman in the same manner an educated Russian woman will.  I surmise Mrs. Ash prolly renders a higher quality of helpful service to her clients than all the pseudo qualified and licensed counselors in the State of California could give in a month of Sundays. 

I say it's time for you guys to cut the lady some slack.

[jb]

I/O,

FWIW, I'm now "ignored" by 9 members,,, so you have a ways to go if you really want to make your mark here.

[AnastassiaAsh]

JB, thank you so much for coming out so strong!

As you said, this is what happens when you start showing or saying the truth.

[jb]

AnastassiaAsh,

Better for them to hate me than you.

[William3rd]

You are ignored by NINE of our members, JB?!?!?!??! How can you sleep at night? I was drinking myself to sleep and pondering therapy when I reached 3 ignores.

I guess there is life after ignores. . . . .