Cold Feet, Any Clues?

[BC]

You see so many wiseguys on this board, they don't have a clue about the socioeconmic system of society. Such ignorance just annoys me.

There is not a woman born, since the beginning of times that did not consider ability to provide as a major if not the most important critieria in selecting a mate.

Even when man lived in caves, men who were better hunters got more women, this has not changed in a million years and not going to change anytime soon.

What you overlook is that your statements apply to women that are dependent on someone else to provide for them. Wanna be a pocket pappy, fine, bez problem.  For the rest of womankind in 2009 that can take care of themselves, including the pen pal you are now infatuated with it's a different story and they play by different rules.  You'll find out soon enough that they get bored with you very quickly.

Yes, you should find a cave woman, give her your fat wallet and I bet you'll get the crap beat out of you..

 

[ambach123]

Hold on to your horses.

This may be the end of line for me.

[Misha]

She would be in love soon enough, but I am not so naive, middle class RW don't know this type of lifestyle, and a promise of such a life would seduce women from any country.

It is really sad when a man believes that he has so little going for him that his only way of seducing a woman is by taking her to a fancy hotel. All your talk of the "have" versus the "have not" and such statements is leading me to believe that you have absolutely no self-esteem. Your need to prove to a bunch of anonymous people on a forum your superiority by continually saying that you are rich tells me that you do not even believe your own hype. You must suffer IMHO from a great deal of self-loathing though you do your best to mask it with your continual bluster. Deep down you must not truly believe that any woman could want you or love you.

I will share with you a little secret: you can seduce women without spending a kopeck and women can fall in love and be in love with a poor man. However, your need to "prove" yourself with a string of conquests is likely a symptom of self-hate. The cycle that you continually play out seems to be the following IMO:

• you find a woman, you spend time with her spending and flashing a lot of bling;
• you fall in love with her, and are clearly infatuated with her when your trip ends (hence the glowing description of the women at the end of the trip in quasi-mystical terms);
• your self-hate kicks in after your return home and this leads you to having doubts;
• your self-hate having convinced you that she is really only after your money (how could any woman really love you if you do not love yourself?), you then come up with some rationalization as to why you must dump her;
• having dumped the last woman, you are still left with a need to prove yourself, so you start looking for a new woman, and the cycle starts all over from the beginning.

IMHO, you clearly have issues. Perhaps my analysis of what your issues are is not correct or complete, but in reading your posts I can only conclude that you are not ready for any relationship and you are using women in the FSU to fulfill some king of psychological need. I note that even though Gator has asked you this a few times already, that you have yet to say what exactly you are looking for in a woman or a relationship other than the fact that she should be "hot" or a "10". The only question in my mind is how many women you will have to cycle through as you play out your games with unsuspecting partners. 10? 50? 100? More?

I have noticed one change though: the cycle plays itself out faster. With the first woman, you filled out the K1 (or whatever it is called) paperwork before changing your mind. You did not do this from what I gather with the second woman, but you seem to have ended things even faster with her, and I can't remember if you gave a justification other than you want to "know" (translate: have sex with) more women. Soon, you will likely be cycling through a number of women per trip IMHO, and there will be no doubt left as to your status as a sex tourist  .

[ambach123]

I can't believe someone taking the time and effort to write such long dissertations for someone they don't even know, and someone who does not even like you.

You must have a lot of time on your hands.

I like my journey very much, best time in my life.

Wonder why, the guy who is living it is very happy, the other " havenots," who have no chance of such a venture in this style, have moronic comments.

Chill out man, life is to be enjoyed. You got a wife, enjoy with her. I will find my Nirvana ( that is not just a band).

[Misha]

I can't believe someone taking the time and effort to write such long dissertations for someone they don't even know, and someone who does not even like you.

Sadly, decent men with Russian wives are tarnished by the antics of men like you.

I like my journey very much, best time in my life.

That is what you say, and I believe you will be making the journey many times trying to prove to everybody else that you are having the time of your life.

Wonder why, the guy who is living it is very happy, the other " havenots," who have no chance of such a venture in this style, have moronic comments.

Are you happy? I have my doubts. The tone of your posts make you seem IMHO a very unhappy man.

Chill out man, life is to be enjoyed. You got a wife, enjoy with her. I will find my Nirvana ( that is not just a band).

Yes, I do enjoy life. My wonderful wife is now sleeping and when she wakes up, we will have a lovely breakfast. I can only hope that you will resolve your problems and eventually enjoy such a life as well.

[BC]

Hold on to your horses.

This may be the end of line for me.

Sounds familiar.. believe we've heard that one before.

[Mir]

May be he means this is really the end of the line for him

[Mir]

I had a look at where you are staying in St Peresburg, I don't think it is appropriate for a man of your wealth and status to stay there.
When I visited St Peresburgh a couple of years ago here is where I stayed:

http://www.grandhoteleurope.com/web/stpetersburg/grand_hotel_europe.jsp

I would highly recommend it.

[Diplomacy]

Mir:

That is an amazing and beautiful hotel.  Thank you for sharing, I really want to go to Saint Piter one day.  Sometimes you got to spoil yourself, that looks like one place worth the price.

[OlgaH]

ambach123,
I think to answer on your post below would be more proper in your thread 

I live in a mansion, I have multiple cars, my future wife will not own a thing, she would agree to it beforehand, and the two women I met have already agreed to it, If she does not agree she can stay where she is.

This is not rocket science.

Any smart woman knows that such prenup as you offer is not for a marriage that will last for long time If your woman agree on such prenup most likely she knows what she going to do - just to use you as a mule to get into country. She will find hundreds way how to get more benefits from you in spite of your prenup before and after her first GC.

Also you should to take into consideration in the future 

Evidence of the Relationship

2. Lease or mortgage contracts showing joint occupancy and/or ownership of your communal residence.

3. Financial records showing joint ownership of assets and joint responsibility for liabilities, such as joint savings and checking accounts, joint federal and state tax returns, insurance policies that show the other spouse as the beneficiary, joint utility bills, joint installments or other loans.
http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-751instr.pdf

If a too naive woman being in love with you and trusting you agrees to leave her own country (relatives, friends, job) for living with you in absolutely strange for her environment in spite of your prenup, I just can tell that it is so disgusting to take advantage of the woman's naivety, as it is disgusting when some woman takes advantage of a gay's love to her, his good personality and trustfulness. 

[ambach123]

Olga, I would respond to you, you make civil comments.

I deal with contracts all the time for the past 20 years.

You can have any contract as long as it is not against the law. A contract designed according to one state, say Nevada does not have to be adjudicated in Nevada, it can be adjudicated in any state according to Nevada laws

To date the contract has been presented to three women.

All of them accepted it.

All of them responded the same " I love you, I don't want your money, I will sign anything you want ".

In my experience, these women are NOT naive, they are very intelligent. They know exactly what they are signing.

They are sharing my lifestyle as long as they are married to me, they are free to go, with their personal belongings, should they choose to do so.

I disagree that only GCG would be interested in it. You know very well, for her to leave my mansion and live on her own in Boston would be very difficult if not impossible; most likely she would do what my ex wife did, ask for my help in return for an amicable divorce ( see below).

Everyone here thinks challenging a written contract is just a piece of cake; it is not.
Lawyers are very expensive in our society, I have never heard of woman without resources to challenge any prenuptial agreement RW, AW or from Timbukto; it is just plain naive to think that a prenup can be challenged so easily. You need 100 K or more to pay the lawyer for a challenge.

I never plan to use the prnup nobody plans to use it, but it saves the man from a lot of hassles as seen repeatedly in this venture; and you wonder why don't these guys learn?

As I said, I had exactly the same prenup with my ex wife, actually I plan to use the same template. She is my best friend today, because I helped her out more than she bargained for. It made our relationship very amicable. So actually it helped and not hurt.

I would help  my RW if she wants out, but not because she has some misplaced notion to fight, because I want to like I did it for my ex wife.

With regard to the communal residence, I have no rent and no mortgages, poeple who buy houses in that bracket don't buy them on mortgages, as a general rule.

With the rest I am sure we can find somethings that can be presented to the USCIS.

[Mir]

You need 100 K or more to pay the lawyer for a challenge.

I guess you never heard of 'No win no fee' offers from lawyers

[felix8787]

I guess you never heard of 'No win no fee' offers from lawyers

Or pro-bono lawyer that will help with legal aid.

[Turboguy]

To do a pre-nup properly there are a lot of fine points that should be followed including her having a Russian speaking lawyer present at the signing.   Even if all the i's were dotted and the t's crossed I think a good lawyer could make a pretty good case for her not being familiar with American divorce laws and property rights and have the pre-nup thrown out.   Lot's of lawyers would only need to see a photo of your beautiful mansion to be willing to take her case on a contigency basis.  One third of your mansion will look pretty good to them.

Still I agree you are much safer with a pre-nup than without one.

[chivo]

All of them responded the same " I love you, I don't want your money, I will sign anything you want ".

...OK. You really believe this?

In my experience, these women are NOT naive, they are very intelligent. They know exactly what they are signing.

...OK. You really believe this too?

As I said I teach English here, business English as well. These women are not familiar with how business is done in America. Most if not all would have a problem balancing a checkbook, much less understanding something more complex like a pre-nup. With all due respect to your "experience".

These are RW with multiple degrees and the ability to speak 2,3 or 4 different languages. Most have travelled extensively on business as well.

Bro, I'm on your side here, really, but the more you open your mouth...

They are sharing my lifestyle as long as they are married to me, they are free to go, with their personal belongings, should they choose to do so.

Do you have any idea what is involved with a K-1? Hopefully, they don't (highly unlikely). Otherwise you might want to reread it. It's not like marrying/divorcing a woman in your country.

Oh, there is one thing they all know. How to work the system (K-1) better than you.

But, hey, "love" is blind. 

chivo

[Mir]

Or pro-bono lawyer that will help with legal aid.

I didn't mention that as I don't know legal aid postion in US.
Here in UK women do get legal aid while the husband needs to pay for the lawyers.
So while her 100K will be paid for you will have to pay it yourself and in the end still part with quite a lot of cash given to her to set you free.
If there are children then involved then you are totally screwed.
So perhaps one other pre-marriage condition you can consider is for her to have sterilization before marriage

[Diplomacy]

Ambach:

That is just it, your exwife did not contest.  Plenty of lawyers will take her case in MA, with a no fee if they do not win.  If they do win then they get 33% OR however the agreement is taken.

You are dealing with a whole different scenario, and you will be torched with that agreement.  I have plenty of lawyer and judge fraternity brothers.  They are laughing at your theory. 

Tort and contract law, is not what you make it to be.  I assure you, she will not need $100K.  They will demonize you and force the divorce proceeding is MA, and take you to the cleaners.

She has so many loopholes, it would take days to explain.  The police will laugh at you, and will make your life as miserable as they can.  They do not like men, that talk the way you do.  Being have nots and all. 

They despise men like you.  It really makes their day when they get to make an example of you.  See that is the issue, you really do not care to understand all of this.   

Have your lawyer sign an agreement, that is the contract is not held up in court.  Then he will reimburse you all the assets you lose.  That should tell you everything.

[Gator]

Ambach,

In any contested divorce a judge will require that both parties play on an even field.  Her not being able to afford an attorney is easily remedied -  the judge will award your wife temporary alimony for legal expenses (and living expenses pending closure of the case). 

At that time, your attorney will probably suggest that you discard your prenup suitable only for toilet paper, and instead offer to pay her a significant amount just to avoid a judge making that decision (and avoid expensive court hearing).  If she is kind, she will not take your mansion.


By the way, how many RWD men have told you that you are going about this correctly?  Some of us have prenups.  In fact, how many RWD men have said anything positive about your overall approach?  Duh!

From another thread:

What was wrong with my ex wife? Nothing, we were just not made for each other.

I am serious when I say it will be difficult to find anyone made for you.

I have never said a single derogatory word to anyone in my life about her, and I never will.

I am serious when I say that is best thing I have seen you write about yourself.  Usually such is a sign of an good relationship.  Was she that unfulfilling to make you divorce her?

[ScottinCrimea]

I think ambach's true goal with the pre-nup is to make it so draconian that she would be afraid to leave him and it will provide a means of total control over her.  This is why he believes he will never have to use it.  As long as he keeps her believing that the consequences would be severe if she left him, that it is 100% ironclad and that she has no recourse, he thinks he is in the driver's seat.

This is why he has said he will not actually provide her a copy of the pre-nup until she is in the US and there is less than 30 days until the k-1 expires.  Does anyone think he really wants her to have time to go over it with an independent attorney? He will use these first 60 days to overwhelm her with a new, richer lifestyle, hoping to dazzle her into blindly accepting whatever is required to keep herself in such a lifestyle.  She wont realize that she is really signing the terms of her imprisonment.

As long as he holds the threat of the pre-nup over her head and works to keep her in the dark about all the options she has, he can dictate to her just about anything:  "Give me sex now or else!", and on and on.

ambach's pre nup isn't about protecting his money, it's about ensuring his absolute control over a woman.  Why do you think he doesn't go for AW?  Because he prefers someone who doesn't understand the American legal system enough to fight back.

I see it as pretty pathetic that someone has to resort to such measures to obtain a sex slave wife.

[Gator]

I think ambach's true goal with the pre-nup is to make it so draconian that she would be afraid to leave him and it will provide a means of total control over her. 

Ambach, a point of history.  Slavery in America is illegal.  It has been that way ever since 1862 with Emancipation Proclamation.

[ScottinCrimea]

Ambach, a point of history.  Slavery in America is illegal.  It has been that way ever since 1862 with Emancipation Proclamation.

 But apparently not in Nevada.   :ohbrother:

[mies]

Do you have any idea what is involved with a K-1?

That's assuming that Ambach is going to file K1. So far he was only sharing his fascination with multiple opportunities for having several different girlfriends (Russian or other) at the same time. I do not criticize it, but this is something i don't like - i don't like sex tourists who pretend they are seeking a wife. 

[mies]

I think ambach's true goal ...

i agree with ScottinCrimea

[Daveman]

You know, I just don't understand the obsession or anit-obsession with sex on the forum.  If there is something that is truly an absolute non-issue here it should be sex.  Sex is an absolutely natural 'event' (for lack of a better term) between two adult people who are attracted to each other.

Whether I agree with Ambauch or not, if having sex with FSU ladies is a crime, then I'm guilty of multiple counts as well.  Geez, aside from the one woman wonders, who isn't?? There is much speculation about him luring the ladies into sex with false promises or something. Well, while we can extrapolate, there just isn't any real evidence that I have seen, though it's possible that I have missed it.

I don't see that he was convicted of rape, or even charged, so that would preclude an assertion of non consensual actions.

It appears to me that this "Sex tourist" label is nothing more than a straw man built for flaming when someone is 'disliked' for whatever reasons (valid or not).  Granted, real sex tourists do travel to FSU for the sole purpose of luring women into the bedroom under false pretenses, and that certainly is not to be condoned. However, using the term loosely is a disservice to the forum and sidetracks from real issues or information which could be passed along.

IMO, we should stick to real issues and stop making elephants from flies (not even flies really, elephants from speculative thin air is more fitting) over something that is completely normal, natural, and beautiful... not to mention quite fun!   

Porkin' - the other white treat..     :evil:  (okay, that one was really bad)

[mark2353]

But apparently not in Nevada.   :ohbrother:

Scott, I have news for Ambach my former brother in law (thank god he has taken no sides on my case!) who is attorney and licensed in 3 states(NV one of them) would love a case like this at $500/hr. He would definitely would take the case and have a new mansion on the east coast. On another subject his comment all contracts have loop holes and it takes time ($$$) but it can be broken. Especially with the language barrier done!
Oh! anyone who think these ladies are uninformed. Well I was talking to one recently who gave me the visa backlog in several of the US centers. Very accurately! If he is trying to put the screws on anyone better start looking elsewhere besides FSU. These ladies are very well educated and informed.