Re: Wife split!

[BillyB]

Has anyone considered the OP is a troll?

Always of possibility this guy could be a troll but if this thread a joke, the jokes on him because somebody could get useful advice out of it. I'm also sure stuff like this does happen so I'll respond as if this actually did happen.

Air, I'm sure there must have been signs that money was extremely important to your wife early on. Sending $700 a month to her daughter was over doing it. It's important to teach your kids to work and/or get an education to earn their own money in life instead of spoiling them. You should have told your wife that.

Your wife is communicating with you because you still have a soft spot in your heart for her and she may need you later for more money or a ticket over here if her daughter who is currently here doesn't come through and sponsor her and her boyfriend. Once her daughter gets citizenship, she could sponsor her relatives over her. These are not the type of people we need here.

[SANDRO43]

Or to quote Monty Python, "I fart in your general direction! Your mother was a hamster and your father smelled of elderberries."

You should have written that with a French accent :

[youtube=425,350]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWBUl7oT9sA[/youtube]

[Maxx2]

Impossible Maxx2.

Maybe a "mule" rider.  :evil:


GOB

Oh great. Maybe we could get the ex's to race us.

[UTRO]

We were asked if we had a joint banking account.  I was prepared and showed them a statement, which showed both our names.

And debit cards CAN be taken below zero if you order stuff online. I used to believe the same as you, Gator. Marina got cards confused doing Christmas shopping and not only was the card accepted, it resulted in a $30 fee for every transaction from BOA.  We lost over $500 from that experience.  Now we have it set up so she gets an email on her cell phone anytime the balance gets under $250.   I also told her to use our credit card for mail order purchases and to use the debit card just for ATM cash withdraws.

Simoni... I don't claim to be an expert regarding American banking..... but is it not like in Canada, where you have to have a SIN number (Social Insurance) before you can legally open a joint American bank account?? How were you able to have a joint account with your wife in the FSU, who was neither a Landed Immigrant or a Citizen?

[UTRO]

Maxx, would you mind posting your Site for us loosers who don't know better?

[Simoni]

Simoni... I don't claim to be an expert regarding American banking..... but is it not like in Canada, where you have to have a SIN number (Social Insurance) before you can legally open a joint American bank account?? How were you able to have a joint account with your wife in the FSU, who was neither a Landed Immigrant or a Citizen?

I think all they asked for was her social security number, which we already had.  So I suppose the regulations must be different between Canada and the US? Anyway, we had the joint account and a statement that the bank had mailed us, with both our names on the account.

[kievstar]

My wife is on my account here in USA and a couple I use overseas. She has no social security number and were still waiting on K-3 visa as she sits in Ukraine.

Not hard to get a joint bank account with a wife or another person.  Just need to ask and give required paperwork.

[Maxx2]

Maxx, would you mind posting your Site for us loosers who don't know better?

At least being a looser is better than being a loser.

www.immigrationfraudvictims.us  There is also a forum there with about 139 members. I have a sticky entitled "No More Mr. Nice Guy" http://immigrationfraudvictims.freeforums.org/no-more-mr-nice-guy-t13.html  Please read the comments that follow to get a feel for the place and it's people.

[Simoni]

Interesting read, Maxx.   I hope anyone that is even thinking about bringing a woman to the US will ready this and think about it and be SURE before they pull the trigger.

I made my promises to CIS, and I understand my commitment and responsibilities. 

Men should not be mad at the US CIS.  They are the ones that made bad decisions and it is their fault, and not the governments.  I'm sure other will feel differently.

[Ronnie]

Guys could and perhaps should consider someone who has already immigrated.  No sponsorship, less risk all the way around.

[Maxx2]

Interesting read, Maxx.   I hope anyone that is even thinking about bringing a woman to the US will ready this and think about it and be SURE before they pull the trigger.

I made my promises to CIS, and I understand my commitment and responsibilities. 

Men should not be mad at the US CIS.  They are the ones that made bad decisions and it is their fault, and not the governments.  I'm sure other will feel differently.

Thanks Simoni, I hope someone learns a lesson or two from my mistake.

As far as being mad at the CIS. It's more complicated than just making a bad decision and living with the consequences. As example we have a lobby group in Washington DC of 5 of our members from our site (three men and two women). They have lobbied Congress and the Senate several times on behalf of all those Americans who have been set up on false charges but are unable to present their evidence of innocence or the fraud of their spouse to the USCIS. The US citizen is called a "prohibited source" by the USCIS and only accepts the evidence that the foreign spouse chooses to submit. We think that is just plain unjust and unAmerican. So now through the efforts of our lobby group we have two of our members assigned to a Congressional committee for immigration reform in regard to VAWA (Violence Against Women Act). This will be sure to drive the feminists crazy  . Then there is the issue of the bigamy of the foreign spouses (still married to their foreign spouse when entered the US on a K1 or K3 visa) of several of our members that cannot be presented to the USCIS either. There are several other issues as well.


Maxx           

[Maxx2]

Guys could and perhaps should consider someone who has already immigrated.  No sponsorship, less risk all the way around.

Yes, much less risk. The problem is that Russian women already here are generally looking for a well off (rich) man to support them. They have found out that America's streets are not paved in gold and that there is no free lunch either. And they look for someone fairly close to their age and looks. There are quite a few Russian women with a business visa that is about to expire who are looking for a sponsor. I understand the going rate paid out is about 25K and can be arranged by certain immigration attorneys in Brighton Beach. They will marry any American male with a pulse.    


Maxx

[Sculpto]

Yes, much less risk. The problem is that Russian women already here are generally looking for a well off (rich) man to support them. They have found out that America's streets are not paved in gold and that there is no free lunch either. And they look for someone fairly close to their age and looks. There are quite a few Russian women with a business visa that is about to expire who are looking for a sponsor. I understand the going rate paid out is about 25K and can be arranged by certain immigration attorneys in Brighton Beach. They will marry any American male with a pulse.    


Maxx

foo.. thats BS Maxx

[Ronnie]

Maxx, I said already immigrated. Someone here on some kind of visa has not immigrated and are just a much a risk as any other alien spouse....they need a I-864 signer too.

[JNSampson]

Sorry to hear about what you are going through. And now you are going to find out that the government that you have always  been led to believe is there to serve and protect you will be AWOL. As your attorney said, you need PROOF of the fraudulent marriage. And even with that, USCIS and ICE will be "hesitant" to act. The one thing that is positive is that you were never accused of domestic violence.

I agree with David, contact Russian Detectives.com and get a hold of Elena. Also, give me a shout either via email or phone. I sent you a private message on the immigration fraud victim's site.

I would suggest that you seek a restraining order against her daughter and the daughter's husband. Change the locks if you haven't already. Do NOT give them anything whatsoever. If they show up again, call the police. Don't feel sorry for the daughter or her husband.

Again, my condolences for what you are going through. No one should ever have to endure this.

John Sampson

[Maxx2]

foo.. thats BS Maxx

Nope, I've seen it again and again. I had a chance to hang around a marriage agency here in the US. I was filming a documentary on Americans set up on false charges by their foreign spouses. I sent a DVD copy of the film to Gator and it was shown at the Heritage foundation on October 1st, 2008 at their VAWA reform conference. Ask Gator if this is "BS".


Maxx

[Maxx2]

Maxx, I said already immigrated. Someone here on some kind of visa has not immigrated and are just a much a risk as any other alien spouse....they need a I-864 signer too.

I agreed with you Ronnie on their being much less risk. I added the other part about those here who haven't adjusted status yet to be cautious of. On my site we have about half of our members who are in trouble with this group. That is they met a GCG right here in the USA. 

[Maxx2]

Sorry to hear about what you are going through. And now you are going to find out that the government that you have always  been led to believe is there to serve and protect you will be AWOL. As your attorney said, you need PROOF of the fraudulent marriage. And even with that, USCIS and ICE will be "hesitant" to act. The one thing that is positive is that you were never accused of domestic violence.

I agree with David, contact Russian Detectives.com and get a hold of Elena. Also, give me a shout either via email or phone. I sent you a private message on the immigration fraud victim's site.

I would suggest that you seek a restraining order against her daughter and the daughter's husband. Change the locks if you haven't already. Do NOT give them anything whatsoever. If they show up again, call the police. Don't feel sorry for the daughter or her husband.

Again, my condolences for what you are going through. No one should ever have to endure this.

John Sampson

Don't miss the post above.

[Sculpto]

Nope, I've seen it again and again. I had a chance to hang around a marriage agency here in the US. I was filming a documentary on Americans set up on false charges by their foreign spouses. I sent a DVD copy of the film to Gator and it was shown at the Heritage foundation on October 1st, 2008 at their VAWA reform conference. Ask Gator if this is "BS".


Maxx

I am not saying it doesn't happen Maxx.. but it is the exception.  Labeling all in country RWs that way is wrong, WAY WRONG!

[Ronnie]

Why are we assuming fraud here?  All the OP has told us is that she took from from a joint account and purchase diamond with a credit card that she was a signer on.  The OP has not answered the key question about the size of his estate.

Maybe you're all concerned about cousin Alex, that he was her boyfriend all along.  Given the length of marriage, that seems unlikely unless she really though she had to wait this long to assure her green card wouldn't be pulled.

I'm not saying she didn't do something fraudulent, most wive's do in the course of a divorce even if it wasn't her idea.  But, here we just don't know the facts. 

[Maxx2]

I am not saying it doesn't happen Maxx.. but it is the exception.  Labeling all in country RWs that way is wrong, WAY WRONG!

Check it out. You will see. They want an upgrade on what they had to settle for in order to emigrate to the US. BTW I didn't say "all" I said "generally". There is a difference.


Maxx

[ambach123]

Unless some contrary evidence is presented, I have to believe what Maxx presents.

[groovlstk]

The majority of RW in the US have no interest in trading up or finding a well-off American to marry. Most are quite content with what they have, which usually includes a Russian husband.

For the demographic that arrived here via K1s, Maxx may well be correct, but you guys are kidding yourself if you think the majority of RW are like the sad examples in his horror stories.

When I was searching I was always leery of women who spoke poorly about Russian men or their living conditions. There are RWD members who believe they are wasting their time if they venture outside agencies or don't fish in a pre-approved pond of women who have emigrating as one of their top-five reasons for looking to marry a foreigner. I avoided such women like the plague and I'm glad I did.

[jdk1963]

Dear Boethius,
     I understand where you are coming from. However, I've never hurt anyone in my life and will not start now. If I go to their level than I am no better than they are. Shame on them!!!

     Her daughter and new husband were here two hours ago with an email from my wife stating them she gives them permission to remove her personal belongings. They also wanted her car. I told them to leave my home before I call the police. The man her daughter married is also Russian and a citizen of the US. I'm sure my wife paid him. They left my home and right now I am having the locks changed. Also, I will be puting in an alarm system this coming week. I only wish I knew their next step?

Once she left she gave up all rights to any belongings she had there.  Have you filed for an annulment?  Given what she has said and did the marriage should be considered invalid. 

[Misha]

For the demographic that arrived here via K1s, Maxx may well be correct, but you guys are kidding yourself if you think the majority of RW are like the sad examples in his horror stories.

If a wife is happy and loves her husband, why would she want to leave? Groov is right in that a normal, well-adjusted Russian woman won't leave her husband if she is happy and in love to live alone or find someone else. They understand that life is easier when married to a good husband and that there is no guarantee that they will find somebody better. The problem is that men marry women who do not love them or do not put in the effort to ensure that their wives will be happy IMHO.