Regaining Control

[catzenmouse]

DaKnack,

 If your waiting for hate posts you won't get one from me. There is a lot of truth in your words but it is also true that there are one heck of a lot of good women out there that are/will be totally loyal to their man. Some live here in the US, but like you said, most are committed already (one way or another  ) and as I have been reading some other boards lately that also deal with Latin and Asian relationships I have cemented in my belief that most of the good ones do not live in North America.

Ken

P. S. Okay, I hate you... feel better now... 

[SANDRO43]

Oh well, I could write more but Ill let the hate posts and the accusations of mysogynist come in.

Actually, misogynists (woman haters) are more likely to applaud you rather than accuse you.

What about those types appealing to women's "mother instinct" ? You know, those showing sad faces and confessing : "My love just left me, I am shattered, my life is in ruins, I think I shall take my life to end all this suffering". They apparently enjoy some success by deliberately playing the "weak" act.

[Daknack]

Actually, misogynists (woman haters) are more likely to applaud you rather than accuse you.

What about those types appealing to women's "mother instinct" ? You know, those showing sad faces and confessing : "My love just left me, I am shattered, my life is in ruins, I think I shall take my life to end all this suffering". They apparently enjoy some success by deliberately playing the "weak" act.

Ment calling me a misogynist.  heh.

As for relationships based on pity... they never last long.  In time these become a burden to a woman and they will leave.  It appeals only to a small demographic of women (and mostly those without kids.  Those with kids have someone to take care of).

Ken I think about 20% of the American female population has any loyalty (actually less but Im being optimistic)... and most of those are either very unattractive or are married.  The higher percentage of them are unattractive most married women will cheat, they are just exceptionally good at not getting caught.  It is very easy to get a woman away from her man.  Its actually too easy.  Basically, if a woman will flirt, she is open to cheating under the correct circumstances.  The ones that will never cheat will literally blow off any and all males that approach her before they have a chance to speak (Its different after they talk because the dynamic is different at that point).

[Sasha]

Some very interesting posts here.  I would just like to put in my 2 bits worth.  Since most of the RW/AM relationships are begun by a man sending an email, then it is up to the man to know what he is looking for and who he is.  The big thing to remember, especially as we get older, is that it becomes harder and harder to change your personality.

This means that if he is an Alan Alda type then he should make damn sure that his future wife is accepting of that, cause its doubtful this guy will change.  So it is very important to make sure your future wife is psychologically compatible with you.
 
If that means the 10 out of 10 hotty you thought you fell in love with is not mentally compatible but the 6 out of 10 is, then the 6 out of 10 lady would probably make a better life partner.  The 10 out of 10 would make a great mistress though

Of course the big question is HOW do you determine compatibility.  Well, first know yourself, second know what you want and third be brutally honest in your correspondence.    When you finally meet, be yourself and watch how she reacts.  If you try and act in a way you think she likes, well it may work for the first couple of weeks but eventually the real you will come through.  Just as if she tries to put on an act it to will eventually fall apart as well.

This is only my opinion but it has worked for me.