Statistical abberation

[JR]

But none of that really matters... For those guys getting all worked up over what is said online -- -- you need to realize this: none of this matters. Really. Honestly. Nothing said on this board (or others) even matters.

Isn't that the truth....

[Makkin]

  Hope things get better for you Maxx.

Makkin

[Markus]

Kenc,

Now you have forced me to expound upon the truth. Actually, I'm just kidding.
We could go back and forth like we did before, and it would be to no avail.  Your
advice over 5 years years ago didn't deter me from my goal. There wasn't any
anger in my posts when I rebutted what you said earlier in this thread. It was
a little entertaining for me. Of course, at first, I didn't want to go this route,
then, I thought, why not based on our history. Also, I didn't like the way you were
dealing with Maxx, knowing what he went through and how you treated him back then. So,
besides having Maxx as some motivation, our history motivated me too. There were
times when I thought we put our 1wkwonder stuff behind us when you would come
out of the blue as if you were a person on depression medicine and hadn't taken it, and
you would respond with some of the harshest comments. These comments were well
after the thread where we learned each others style. You responded like a Dr Jekyll and
Mr Hyde. Sometimes you were quite eccentric. Nice one day, a different person the
next day. Today, I would understand that. 

You used to use your 5 years of marriage as proof to back your opinions. But, when folks
questioned you about marrying so young a lady, you tried to justify your situation as
"we just fell in love."  You did something out of the norm, but, went against things that seemed
out of the norm with you. I guess u thought after 5 years of marriage it's time to overlook the age gap.
I believe you banked on the fact that most men would believe you. Come on, any guy
who has the opportunity to go for such a young lady has a choice. You put yourself
in the land of opportunity. You were, at one time, faced with a decision and you made it.
Eventually, after many questions, you told other men not to do the same as you did.
Your odd situation and strong opinions towards other men is what somewhat invalidated
your opinions. Now, here you are going through a divorce from what could be the very
reason that we all questioned you about, the age gap. But, at this point, it doesn't
matter. You are divorced and it's finished. 

I do want to pay you a compliment. I lost interest a few years ago about hanging around
on the board. I didn't have any questions and was not interested in giving many opinions.
You have been around for 6 years from the time I began posting, and you continue to post
opinions. As expected, you did drop off a while for what you are going through. I only know
that because you said it. But, you have maintained an interest in expressing your thoughts.
I pat you on the back for your interest.

I know you don't need any good words from me and may not welcome it, but I do hope you
you find another FSUW. Don't rule out the ones who don't speak good English because it's
a challenge. Get a learner, and she may teach you a word or two. About prosposing quick,
well, you may find yourself in that situation. But don't wait too long as you don't want to
be 72 going this route. As far as age gap...well, you may do it again and that doesn't mean
it's not the right thing to do. So, when looking, think about the English level (don't limit yourself), the
quickness of proposing (just hope you hope you know what your'e doing), and watch the age
gap (it may happen again).

Mark

[GQBlues]

Wow! I just read this thread!

Ken, Nat and I would like to send our very best to both you and Lena. May both of you find happiness in your lives always.

10+ years of devoting your lives to one another is definitely something to cherish. Continuing to respect and care for each other thereafter is to be admired.

[KenC]

Mark,
Thank you for what appears to be a very sincere post.  I agree with most of what you wrote with (of coarse) a few exceptions.    But I will only correct one: Lena and I were married for almost ten years not five as you wrote.

KenC

[Gator]

Mark,

Wow!  What you wrote was important, particularly important to yourself.  It is good for your soul to not harbor animosity.  I appreciate your maturity.



Maxx,

Ditto.  Which type of diabetes?  Hope you are able to deal with this condition without problems.  Get better!



KenC,

Mark was referring to your "five years of marriage" at the point when he first started posting.  He started 5 years ago.

[KenC]

Maxx,
Don't freak out.  Diabetes is very controlable.  It involves a lot of work but you can lead a rather normal life.  You can even sometimes reverse it with some lifestyle changes. 

(One of the side affects of one of the drugs I am on is that it makes me diabetic.  My diabetes will go away when and if I ever get off that med)

I hope you feel better soon.
KenC

[GoodOlBoy]

Maxx,
Ditto.  Which type of diabetes?  Hope you are able to deal with this condition without problems.  Get better!

Insulin injections or pills Maxx?


GOB

[Admin]

Thank you Ken. You are right both sides need to be heard.

A few days ago I found out I have diabetes. Physically these last few months I have been feeling pretty miserable and rundown not to mention the thirst for water to flush the excess sugar out of my blood. My mood swings from mild depression to irritability with people and things. Even in my group of 'immigration fraud victims' I get irritated with the guys and gals that are working with me on this and that. Mostly I am AWOL. 

I reread my early posts to KenC on this thread. I see I was owly and nitpicky and sticking my nose where it don't belong. Sorry Ken, I was out of line. Sorry to Dan as well.


Maxx

Maxx (Dave),

Thanks for offering the apology. I hope you know that I am among those many members here who wish for the best for you. It may not seem so in the 'heat' of some of these exchanges - but I really and truly hope everything works out OK for you - your health - your marital status - your legal status - all of it.

Best Regards,

- Dan

[ConnerVT]

By the way... Happy birthday, KenC.

Although I've been staying out of this hornets nest of a thread, you know that both you and Lena are in my thoughts, and have my best wishes for whatever the future holds.

[Makkin]

 "RWD"....Right On !!!!

  Makkin

[Maxx2]

Thanks everyone, Ken, Dan, Gator, GOB, Makkin and Mark. I should get further info tomorrow morning. I'll let you know.


Maxx

[Maxx2]

I went in to the clinic on Friday morning after a 12 hour fast. My blood was tested for glucose (sugar) levels. A normal level for glucose is 125 or below. I was 375. I have type II diabetes. They gave a perscription for Metformin 500 mg to be taken twice a day. Then set me up for a specialist on the 4th of May.

I was told that I have a fairly good chance of kicking this through diet and exercise. The reason being was that I had a health test 3 years ago and I was A+ in all catagories (I had never been on a prescription medicine in my life). As was then I have some weight to lose. To be accurate Maxx should really be Maxxx and I should trim down to just being Max. I had gained weight after my breakup and this has been a big factor on why I haven't "moved on" with another relationship. I felt little desire to do it again if I wasn't at my best. So all in all this has some good news in it for me. It has made me determined to get into shape.

I wish you well Ken in your health improvement.

Maxxx

[GoodOlBoy]

Maxx2, really sorry to hear this news.

I don't want to scare you, BUT....this is a very serious disease.

You need to find an Endocrinologist ASAP!!

Do not use a GP for this disease.

If you don't like the news you get from your doctor or are not sure....GET A SECOND OPINION!

It is really important to get your blood sugar under control...immediately.

Test your blood sugar 3-4 times a day...at least and chart it (write it down).

You will start to see a direct correlation between your blood sugar levels and what you eat. It is important to keep track of what goes in your mouth.

I don't mean to scare the sh*t out of you, BUT...My first wife (Annette RIP) died (45 years old) from diabetes and the effects from the disease. She eventually had kidney failure, went on dialysis (3 times a week) for 6 years and died from heart failure (because of the "stress" of the dialysis machine and the diabetes).

Shortly before she died, I was able to get her on an organ transplant list at the UM Medical Center, BUT...No matches.

How is your blood pressure? Check it every week.

Take care of yourself Max.

GOB (Rick Hill) 

[Maxx2]

Thanks GOB

I will go up to the pharmacy and see if they have a blood sugar tester I can buy. I'll do it right after I post this. It's a bummer I have to wait 8 more days to see a specialist. My BP was 147 over 90 when it was tested on Friday. I get up about 8 times a night and feel kind of blah during the day. Lately a few times I have felt a bit spacey. My feet and calves itch sometime. I read that these are symptons too.

[Shadow]

Maxx, another symptom is that you can (to others) show a change in character as you described.
My formerl employer had this condition and his temper became unpredictable for those that did not know him very well.

As I woul describe it, he could react on a mistake that cost  $10.000 in busines with 'it happens' and another time yell for 10 minutes at someone for dropping a pen. After some time he learned te keep from reacting instantly, taking time to back off and consider. It helped a great deal.

[Makkin]

Hello,

  Hope you do everything you need to in staying healthy.


   I speak for myself in wishing you well in future and I would probably be accurate in saying the board wishes you well.

Makkin

[Gator]

Maxx,

Get well!   

[Maxx2]

Thanks Gator,

Man I am feeling like a drama king with my highjacking of Ken's thread. 

After a few days on the medication my glucose high reading from Friday dropped 40 points. 200 more to go. I am learning about the diet and so on. I should be dropping weight like a maniac with all I am doing and that's a good thing. 


Maxx

[KenC]

Maxx,
A level of 200 isn't that bad.  My last 20 reads average 284 with 4 injections daily.  So it could be worse.

But use this as a wake up call.  Wake up to taking care of yourself.  Take care of yourself, physically, mentally and socially. Take steps to make your life better and happier.  I know you are basically a nice guy and get a sense of fulfillment in helping guys in trouble with divorcing RW, but at what cost to you?  From my perspective, you have allowed helping others to consume your life.  It is time to concentrate on Maxx.

Maybe you could put a standard package together of posts or links so that when someone contacts you for advice, you just send out the information for their reading.  You simply cannot let other peoples problems become your problems.  Get healthy and then focus on things that will make you truly happy.
KenC

[Ooooops]

KenC, sorry to hear about your health problems, but also happy to hear that you are on the path to recovery!   

As for your divorce...   to me, as a total outsider, it doesn't look too pretty - she dropped you like a hot potato pretty quick after problems started building up...   

[Ooooops]

Sorry, I'm quite a few laps behind but just couldn't pass this!...   

A woman who does have kids and also with not many  chances to get a better husband would think twice before she leaves. Something like this," He is a little older than I am, so what are my chances to get a much better deal? Not too much"

You gotta be kidding???!!!   Would you like to be that husband???   

[Ooooops]

As Misha said if age gaps are bad then we are a little worse than Ken and Lena.  Yes, 38 years.   37 years 7 months and 4 days if you want to get technical and precise. 

I think I can honestly say I have never met anyone whose company I enjoy more than VWRW and it has been a blast dealing with the issues of her adapting to life here.   She has adapted easily but it has really been a lot of fun to help her with the language, to teach her to drive, and to help her make her life what she wants it to be. 

So, did you adapt her or married her?      Sorry, couldn't resist...   

[Ooooops]

I remember reading one guy's post that he was fine for a younger wife (he was 60, she was 30) because he could still do 50 pushups every night.

Looks matter. Anyone who tells you differently is selling something...

Yes, of course looks matter.   I still can't get the image of wrinkled old a*s*s of my all-time-favorite Jack Nicholson from "Something Gotta Give" movie  outta my brain when he was flaunting it in hospital gown .      Terrible...   And I just watched "The Postman Always Rings Twice" to compare...     But you can't fix that when person gets old...   No matter how many push-ups he/she can do... 

[Ooooops]

I know Ken and Lena a little. We had dinner once in San Diego -- after my first trip to Russia, and after I had given up on Russian Women. (I was heading to Brazil).

Lena was a sweetie and kept insisting that I should go back to Russia.

Why???